The Love Triangle Of A Single Mom is it that fucked up?

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This is a simple explaination of "The Fucked Up Love Triangle" in 10 points.

This triangle comes into play when guys date single mums. Ladies, here is a explaination why some men (including myself) do not date you.

One: The first thing you see is the new guy being engaged with the mother and the ex. Most men dont mind this combination, however, for some men they find this a issue as we don't want to deal with the ex's. If we were interested in seeing our ex's constantly, we would of done what your ex had done to you. But as such we don't!

Two: The reason why the child is in the middle is because it has to be in-between 3 people, the mother, the father & the guy (the mother is dating). For a child it is not easy getting used to these changes. Men like myself feel sorry for the child going through this difficult time due to only having one parent around. Some of us dont wish to be father figures (at least not yet) and if we did we would want our children.

Three: The new guy will always lose out. Attention, money, respect and even in the long run. We choose to not to go out with you because we are selfish. We would never say to others "don't date single mothers", but we choose our own paths.

Four: We feel that we don't bring the same "baggage" as you do. We are not in the same position as you and as such we choose to not date you. It maybe harsh, but trust me we are doing you a favour!

Five: Most women (who are already single mothers) dont want any more children. Which puts us at a disadvantage! There are guys out there that do want children and to date someone (who has children of her own with someone else) who doesn't want anymore children, is even worse than dating someone who can't have children.

Six: We are sympathetic to your position as a single mother, we know it is tough. However, we choose not to waste your time, engage or hurt your feelings if we do find someone who has no children and would be better for us.

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Seven: The reason why it is called The Fucked Up Love Triangle is because it is! The new guy has to please three parties (The Ex, The Kid & Yourself) in the same way you do. We just feel it is not right for us.
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Eight: Any idiot can make a child, but it takes a man to raise a child. It also takes a real man to raise someone else's. We dont feel we want to do that, so dont get aggressive with us because we won't give you a chance. It is shame on us, not shame on you.
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Nine: Some of us have had experence in this position before. We have found that you girls (in the end) tend to try going back to the dad (wheather it is to do with love, timing or for the sake of the children). We don't want to hurt ourselves by saying goodbye to you or the child that we have become accustomed to.
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Ten: It is our choice! We live by the sword or we die by the sword. Life is complex and not easy, but if we choose not to date you, dont get angry or depressed. There are others out there who will. As the old saying goes "There is plenty of fish in the sea". We (like you) have rights and choices too, if choose not to date you that because we have taken your situation into consideration.
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