Do most guys treat women badly? I feel like most guys are good people. They still lonely though lol. Especially the ones who are nice. That’s why they are “nice guys.” Because they think they have to treat people well. Then they can’t get a girl and become bitter and hateful.I feel like there’s another level beyond that ya know? It’s not enough to just be a good respectful person. Plenty of “nice guys” are exactly that and they stay alone and brood in the darkness of their loneliness until they become monsters and lash out at women for not wanting what women supposedly want. Which is a good respectful person.They look around and see women dating players and dickheads. How would your son not turn into a resentful monster when he realizes his mom taught him wrong?
Well, for your future son I suggest you teach him how to be very social! Teach him to be friends with guys and girls, and have lots of friends. That’s my personal dating solution. Be social. Make friends. Be friends with every woman you meet because women are just as good of friends as guys are!Personally I think society teaches us men that our value is based on how much sex we get. So we discard friendship with women and seek only sex. This makes us lonely, alone, and hateful.Men need to learn to be friends with, and to love all women. That way they have a big dating pool and they can show who they are to lots of girls. If you’re a good guy you’ll have tons of women to choose from!
Anyways do you think my advise makes sense? Lol.
So, on the 1st message:That is exactly what I mean by being a good person and an addition to society. I will teach him that no matter what happens it is never an excuse to lash out to woman or anyone.I would teach him that even if you work hard you might not get what you want, but that is okay.My son will learn that life is not fair and that it will spit in his face.But I will teach him to take it gracefully and deal with it in a healthy way.And if he is like that, having a partner would be an addition to his life, not a necessity.And on the 2nd and 3th message;Yes, that is absolutely good advice.The focus shouldn't be on can I get with her, but on who is she and what drives her.Thats why I said he has to treat woman right. And deal with disappointment.Because the men that lash out are usually not tought how to deal with disappointment and failure in a right way.
Personally I think society teaches men that our value is based on how much pussy we get. And when a man doesn’t get the right amount, he has been taught that he is a lesser human being.Plenty of people can deal with adversity. But being alone forever because nobody taught you that your value is more than how much vagina you get is never going to be healthy. You can teach him how to deal with adversity and failure all you want. But being alone and unwanted is infinitely painful and you can’t just teach someone to live like that. To live alone and to know you were not good enough for anyone. People like that commit suicide.It’s not about disappointment and failure if you ask me. I believe we put our value on whether females like us or not. So instead of being normal human beings around females, we feel forced to put up an act. We feel forced to do al these things we believe will get us the sex that will tell the world that yes, I am valuable too. A woman wants and loves me so I’m valuable.
But that’s the wrong approach. Men act all kinds of stupid ways because we feel and urgency to show our value. Because a man with no value will never find love or acceptance from any woman.If society didn’t pressure us to be Casanova’s with women having tons of sex. We would be able to relax and just be friends with women. Be normal human beings around women. Instead we act in crazy ways because we don’t know better. We all wish we could just do what’s right to be attractive and find someone. To find love or dates or sex orwhatever. But instead of the right way, treating women like human beings, we do it the wrong way, desperately trying to get sex to validate our place in the world.
That is what I mean tho..I think you are not fully understanding what I wrote;My son will learn that he makes his life worth, not the amount of girls he fucks or money he makes or anything. And deal with rejection of woman (disappointment) in a healty way.I just said what you said, but more.I don't just focus on learning him to deal with woman. I'll be learning him how to deal with life (including woman)
It’s just the “dealing with rejection” part I don’t like. I don’t like the way that guys go around asking girls out and getting rejected. I don’t think you want to teach your son “to deal with getting rejected properly.” I think the proper path is to teach your son to embrace women and make female friends. Be a social person who makes friends and treats others well. Sure, he’ll surely “be rejected” one day by a girl. But he will have known since forever how to be friends with females and to treat them like proper human beings. Even if he’s rejected, he will know he has plenty to choose from because he has friends and he knows women.Guys these days, they aren’t being friends with women. Guys these days don’t need to learn to deal with rejection properly. They need to see women as equal human beings who can be friends and other types of relationships too. Guys need to stop searching for pussy, and love women and embrace women as they do other men. In my opinion that’s the healthy way to interact with women and to seek out love or whatever you want.If that makes sense. Lol.It’s not that guys feel entitled to sex and need to learn to deal with rejection. They were already doing it wrong long before they were ever rejected. Never making friends with females. Seeing every female as a potential sex partner. no amount of teaching you to deal with rejection is going to help. Because you’re doing it wrong in the first place. No amount of valuing yourself is going to help. Because you’re doing it wrong in the first place.
Which is why I say, society teaches us to believe our value is based on how many vaginas we’ve penetrated. Sure you can teach him to value himself and be a good person. he can be the best kindest respectful person.But at the end of the day, if he’s not making friends with women, if he’s being coerced by society and he’s putting women on a sexual level rather than a friendly one first, than he’s fucked from the start and no amount of teaching is going to help. He’s gotta see women as friends first.
What you say is exactly dealing with rejection in a proper way.He does not lash out, he does not think he is not worth any less.That is the good way of dealing with it.We say the same thing. Just different words
I guess I just wanted to get out my thoughts on the right way though. Because “dealing with it properly” could mean anything.
Nice talking to you tho! I’m trying to figure out how to help men. We need help! I want to help guys to see what I see. It’s fucking AWESOME to be friends with tons of girls and not have to immediately see every female as a sex object.I believe we are forced to see things this way. And it hurts us all. It’s very hard though to figure out how to get the point across to guys who are struggling. There’s so many good guys out there who girls would be lucky to fall in love with. But those guys are all fucked up, going down the wrong path. All of this is part of my own personal quest to help men, and subsequently women.I used to be trapped in that bullshit that society shoved down our throats. It sucks. Everyone needs to be freed from all this silly ass shit we believe.
It is okay you wanted to be clear.But next time just take it a little bit down, because it comes over as if you want to push your point of view onto me, and even tho we have similar toughts on the subject it makes me feel like you are not quite listening fully. Just a tip, not an attack. No insult intended.I just belive that if everyone treated other humans as they want to be treated themselves the world would be a better place. If we just stop trying to get validation from others and see the good we can be we don't need to feel alone and lost.You are an interesting person and I belive you have your heart in the right place and that is what matters.If you ever get a son, I think he will have a great dad 😊
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