Yeah thanks a lot
Sure, we all want to be loved and we all want the person we like, to like us back. However, it doesn't always happen like that. Some people just like people they can't have. When that happens, you need to learn to let go of them. No one (including them), should expect you to just get over them in a heart beat. Like any form of loss, you need time to handle the situation. So, allow yourself some space away from that person, if you're trying to remain friends, tell them you need some time alone. Don't rush straight back to them. If you're in a situation like you work with them or go to school/college with them... do acknowledge them, but keep it simple/limited in talking, or, if you have to be distant but not rude... perhaps a smile from time to time. Don't be all over them - not only will you hurt yourself more, you'll also give the wrong impression and they'll think you're still trying to push for them. Try to focus on other things and the bigger picture.
Focus on your life, things you like and don't take anything for granted. Don't let rejection affect you in a negative way. Always remember that it's just one person and that there are plenty more fish in the sea. Someone, somewhere will like you the same way you like them. Don't punish yourself or the person you like (d) ... it's nobody's fault that you were not compatible. If you're feeling hurt about the situation, tell someone close that you trust. Don't be afraid to cry - whether you are a man or a woman. This is natural and nothing to be ashamed off.
You don't even have to cry in front of others, you can do it in private. Crying and getting out how we feel is important, it saves us bottling things up to ourselves. If you don't have anyone to turn to, you can even write it out on paper and then when you're ready to let it go, rip it up and bin it or even burn it. Be constructive and learn from the situation. Realise that next time you have to go through this situation, it will be an easier process. Understand that being rejected is normal, it's a part of every day life. Don't be afraid to try new things or change your approach when you find someone new that you like. Perhaps you were too full on with your feelings last time. In that scenario, maybe try to keep it a bit more simple. Sometimes I like you, works better than - You're the most beautiful person I've ever met and I just want to be with you so much, to show you how much I love you. Having so many feelings thrown at you can be overwhelming and come across as over the top, clingy and needy. Another scenario could be where you were trying to persuade them to get with you or telling them they will get with you, it comes across as controlling or possessive. Process that. As I said earlier, remember how you'd feel to be forced into a relationship. This time, try and ask them how they'd feel, and allow them to decide if they want to be with you. If they say no, accept it and think about everything that I've discussed. Remember, this is a temprorary position, you're not always going to hurt or feel this way and one day, someone you like will like you back. Don't label yourself a failure, think you're doomed for life or thing you're incapable of being loved. We all are. Be kind to yourself and try and see the good assets and values you have. When you've moved on from being rejected, and given yourself time to heal, don't be afraid to explore and meet other people.
Thank u so much🙂
You're very welcome. Happy to help. :)
I agree with most except the friend part, becoming friends with a girl you liked is a terrible idea, those feelings won't go away when they're around and they'll never date you, even if they did, it was out of convenience. You need to cut them out of your life as only then will you be able to get over them
It also helps to be practical in your thoughts. Like how bad exactly is rejection in terms of how it impacts our lives if we exclude negative thoughts? The sun still comes up, our friends are still our friends, we still have our goals, aspirations, etc. The people who take rejection most personally kind of hurt themselves with their negative thoughts. I would even suggest a rejection is a *positive* thing, like you learned that you're not the other person's type. Now you are free to move on instead of waste more time and invest more emotion. It's a gain and not a loss if someone can interpret things that way.
Yeah that's right but a bit hard😑
It's definitely easier said than done but it gets easier with practice. At the very least a guy can develop an awareness if he starts thinking like, "I'll never get a girlfriend, I'm worthless, ugly, etc." Once aware of it he might be able to challenge those kinds of negative thoughts instead of feed on them. I suspect a lot of what fuels those types of thoughts is fear, and fear is very difficult to overcome. But it'll never be overcome if the guy gives up and stops trying.It's like anything in life though. Rejections aren't necessarily in a special category. Sometimes you see like a person tries a new sport, and they fail a few times and feel embarrassed, and you see the same kind of thoughts -- "I'll never be good at this, I wasn't born for this sort of thing, I suck, I'm worthless". And in my opinion, that's the fear talking. They don't want to risk failing again. But the ones who are like, "Maybe I can get the hang of this if I keep trying!" -- they keep trying, and they have a chance to get good at it.
I'll try thank u
There is also a skill aspect here too, for guys at least who more often initiate and ask the girl out. And that might sound a bit disingenuous but it can help to remember that there are things you can improve upon to improve your chances the next time you ask a girl out. You can learn and improve -- more quickly if you not only try more often but also analyze what you might improve upon next time.
If a guy doesn't realize the skill element, it might be easier to think he'll always be rejected. So I think it helps to acknowledge the skill factor here, and skill can be improved upon. You feel more in control of things if you think of this as a skill of sorts. Of course, it's still ultimately up to the girl. But you can get better at persuading her, improve your ability to present yourself in a way that's appealing to a girl, etc. You can improve your chances, and that realization can help to avoid thoughts that it's impossible.
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Yeah I feel free now
No I won't😂👍
Yeah I listen to depressing music🤦♂️
Do u think it helps?
Lol no (≡^∇^≡) you should be listening happy music the makes you want to dance ᕕ (ᐛ) ᕗ do other stuff run exercise play sports play games online hang out with friends go out do things the will help you not be depressed.
Girl from all u said I just have the exercise😂
I even don't have any happy music🤦♂️
I don't have any motivation😑
Come on man it's not that easy😂
Once you develop confidence, it really is that easy. You just have to keep telling yourself that you are the prize, and eventually it will become reality.Remember, any woman rejecting you lost out and is easily replaceable.