Well change is all about what do YOU want and how much is sacrifice worth for your personal well being and the well being of others. If that person is comfortable being around such people I wouldn't change him. I just wouldn't date him. No different than it is for me. And My family is not perfect and is dysfunctional. I wouldn't blame anybody to not want to get involved.
As for how you change it, that's a trickier question. But I do think a strong heart is more important than a good heart. You move through the world with a certain conviction about you and some, if not all, people respond well. You move too gently and you get swept away by the tides.
Someone who tries to please everyone will often find themselves pleasing very few, something like this. You have to be willing to part the audience. Say what you want to say. Do what you want to do. Take care of people who need it, show that you aren't just selfish. And then you can gain a lot of respect. But you have to be willing to divide your audience. You try to make everyone into a fan and you can find that no one is a fan. If you are willing to gain some haters then it's easier to find fans. You be true to yourself most of all, not too inhibited (though some tact is still nice), but patient, not too belligerent, and let the friends and family and dates take care of themselves.
That's kind of the angle I found most successful for me personally -- for family, friends, dates, work, everything. I move about the world quite unrestricted, and some people, not all, respond well. A date to me is not a success if I impressed the girl. It's a success if I didn't hold back and didn't try too hard and if it was natural, not forced. I've learned not to tie these things to the results, but to my own actions... and the results came out better, almost by surprise.
But it gets u in trouble sometimes🤦♂️
No not really
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What is LD?🤔
@SALIM28 LD is short for learning disabled. When I was a little kid, I used to need extra help understanding things at school. And I was awkward in social situations (and still am somewhat.)
Aha got it. But I don't think ur awkward at all😂
@SALIM28 Thanks, man! That's probably because I've grown up and adjusted a lot. (Though I'm still very shy around women.)
It's the TruthIh women🤦♂️Just go and beat their asses🤣
(Sigh) Salim, you're doing it again. 🤦. Run away from the darkness, dude. Reject the violent thoughts.
But don't be shy
Attack them like a tiger😂
@SALIM28. Okay; I'm glad you're kidding. But please don't joke like that.
Ok bro I'm sorry😂🙊