I’m a 25 year old immature, insecure white male. Started seeing a lovely girl for about six weeks, she wanted a relationship quite quickly, and I wanted to take it at a leisurely pace. (I easily get attached; I’m not one for short term) She told me about a guy she met whilst on holiday during the summer about 4 months before me. She made plans to meet again over NY. Basically, she said she wouldn’t sleep with him again and she did, she had me over the next day which in my view is quite slutty. I figured out what happened and she continuously lied until I basically said I knew the truth. She is a lovely, head strong, independent girl. I really do like her and have been seeing her most weekends since. However during the week I still feel like a complete tool. She rocked my confidence and I still resent her. Only when I’m with her it seems to be OK. Trust has gone, she said ‘it was a mistake’, ‘I won’t hurt you again’ chat, but it does nothing. I know we weren’t ‘official’ but I made it clear that I had no feeling towards anyone else. I can’t be the good boyfriend I want to be with these negative feelings. Just wanted to see what your thoughts were on this, it’s stopping me from sleeping properly and need to make a decisive decision for my own well being. If you have any ideas or though, I’d greatly appreciate the support.
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Late reply, but ya, I hope you've left her. She has no idea of commitment or exclusivity. Hell, if she wanted exclusivity and a relationship she should have started in her mind first and just not done anything with anyone else. Hell, if she really loved you and cared about you she wouldn't BE interested in anyone else. She's obviously not that interested and just wants more people to be with but ya.. I'd say dump her ass.
God people in here are assholes and so damn immature. Honestly, if you wanted to be with someone and claimed to want a relationship, but the other person took it slow, what makes you think it isn't a d*** move to f*** around people? You're just showing you don't really care about their feelings or respect their wishes, you just want your cake and to f*** it too. I'm really getting disgusted more and more by the immaturity of this world -_-1