Yes, I'm the same way. I try to keep an open mind though so that if a good person comes my way, I don't miss out on that.
True, I also need some time after I separated from my then-wife. But strangely it doesn't take years with me. Maybe that is that #Libra can do, "dislove" someone quickly?
Just a friendly reminder, that you might turn "rusty" in handling a boyfriend next to you because you become slick in your daily stuff.
@roland77 Sorry, I'm not sure I understand what you mean?
4 years is already a big number (for me at least) as my next one was (to my therapists "surprise") relatively fast. I don't want to enforce this on you, sure you can take longer your time without a male around. Just not fall into it to much being alone, it surly is nice again to have a partner, not just for sex but also to talk very intimately to.If you always do what you like and want every day and you do it only your way, then you might stop learning to allow also other's opinions. I see it clearly on my male friend, who lives alone at being ~50 years old. He doesn't come out of his daily routine because he is used to it.And with sex, you may (no blame!) end up with masturbating on porn, worse with a dildo or vibrator as those toys are clearly not a real penis. And that makes you feel more lonely.I had that kind of feeling and was looking for a dating platform in Internet. Okay, #parship and the other expensive services are not for me as I'm poor. So I ended up with #Okcupid and answered 2,8k (!) questions there. Sure I saw a lot girls there for being in #ONS and #STR (short-term relationships) and #hookups or only friends. I avoided them all together because I'm only after #LTR as I don't want the others, even when they checked LTR, too.So please think about it. Are you REALLY okay with being alone for 4 years, I mean alone in your bed, during showering and all that lovely moments (no one to take care of, washing his body including penis, nobody to hug and cuddle up with, nobody being licked by or blow his penis, ride it as a cowgirl or, or or ...).
@roland77 Well, I have no sex drive, so I've managed just fine as far as the lack of a sex partner goes. That's actually one of the many reasons I've chosen to stay single; I'm not comfortable with sex and I don't feel it's fair to withhold it from a guy. My last boyfriend was extremely frustrated that I wasn't ready when he was, and at the time I was young and thought I just wasn't ready yet, as many people over the years have told me. Now at nearly 25, I'm beginning to really doubt that I'll ever be ready and think I just completely lack a sex drive and probably romantic desire as well. I am told I just haven't found the right person yet, but I'm not sure about that, either.
You will find one, just like my girlfriend is 28 years old and found me. I'm not implying that I'm your man, too. No, I'm monogamous and I'm not "Mr. Perfect". And if you have "no sex-drive" then there are certain reasons why this is and you might want to watch this clip:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i_b7MTaP4Vc
@roland77 Thanks, I'm pretty sure at least one culprit could be due to a medication I need for health reasons. I'm okay with it, it doesn't bother me.
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Sane here. I'm typical for Libra, including some traits (good-hoping/easy believer). So cannot let go so easily, unless I start "dis-loving" her.
Ditto, working on yourself first is the best advice
@md170 yes I truly believe after each relationship ends one should take time to reevaluate the relationship and see their part in it and what they need to do not to repeat the behaviors or type relationship they had.
To fast is not good for me, too. I have never done this as I need time to reflect myself and rethink my position. Usually 6 months - a year.
That's how I am too
Two peas in a pod!
Let's say you just broke up with someone. Do you jump right into dating after?
Why did you break up?
@Sarahr123 Longer story. In enda lot sides were involved, myself included.
Some time to heal emotional wounds is always required after a committed relationship, you cannot love him that much if you can move on immediately. You need some time to detach your emotions from him.
@roland77 In my defence, every relationship I've had was in highschool and lasted at most a week... except the one guy I've been with for almost 10 years, and we're still togeather.
Congratulations for being together for 10 years! I won't judge about you here. :-) And I don't mean those short-term "relationships" (in high-school must "relationships" are just for friends or fuck-buddies).
I don't wish it for you, but just imagine it. Sure you don't want, but just give it a second of thought. How fast can you move on after loosing him after a so long time?
@roland77 I feel like I would never date again!
But how do you handle your emotions for your previous one? Especially when love-making and children are involved?
@roland77 What kind of relationship do you expect to have with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
Do I know you? 🤔🤣
No but I see you every where on here 🙄
That feels like she never loved him much or was not committed much to him. But how about you?
Possibly!Me... I've only ever been in one relationship
Then truly I hope you will find your love in some years. :-)
Thank you.. It's all in god's will
It doesn't say "How soon should I?"This was OBVIOUSLY a question to other people.
As soon as I felt comfortable with it again. That was different after each break up.
Yes, same. Comfortable with another person and ready to move on.
That's the healthy way to do it. So many people are rushing it because they're scared of having to learn to be happy with themselves, which is actually a crucial thing to learn.
That is okay, but it doesn't answer the question.
I mean it is okay, you liked one, sad to see they ended the relationship.
Chicks start dating long before before anything is over. You dumb dudes need to to learn this. She has fucked at least four of your budies and several of your friends. They will never tell you. You're just laughter commody.
I'm sorry that happened to you but it doesn't help to generalize all women.
You are all whores by varying degrees. To deny that fact is like holding you breath till you pass out. You're still gonna come to and nothing has changed.
@JimmyQYou are generalizing all woman in a sexust immature way. You still have a lot to learn but I think you refuse to and will continue to refuse to learn. So the way you think is if one woman does something negative then they all do it as well regardless if they do or not. That is a toxic way to think. Obviously you do not care. That makes you pathetic.
@MysteriousDarkness You're a dumb ass. Your friends are all laughing at you and you're too stupid to know it.
@JimmyQSince that is what you think then prove it. Just because you have been cheated on does not mean all women are cheaters.
@MysteriousDarkness Dude, all females would rather master-bate than have sex with you. They never tell you the whole truth about anything, either because they aren't sharpe enough to think things through to a logical conclusion or they just find it entertaining to lie. You are a second class citizen in the eyes of most women. They own you and you are happy to be owned like a stupid poodle.