This sounds like what PUAs say
Some of what PUA say is true, but all of them are too thirsty and desperate. In my experience, I've met many women that showed absolutely no interest in me, but I was attracted to them so I initiated, flirted etc. Without fail, almost every single time those women went from zero interest to very interested in a matter of days. On a few occasions I've had women attracted and interested just from seeing me, but it's the exception to the rule.
But I think flirting and actively showing interest can only strengthen an attraction which is already there from the beginning. So if she’s got 0 attraction to you in the first place, flirting will just make her few uncomfortable.
Flirting will make her uncomfortable if a guy has no idea how to do it, is awkward, or is very unattractive, or feels very unattractive. Flirting doesn't have to be obvious, or frequent either.The examples I gave you. One was a girl I met that had absolutely zero interest in me. She didn't even look at me, didn't care who I was. 100% o choosing signals, no attraction nothing. But now she's the one flirting.
So what’s the correct way of doing it? Also might not just be if he’s unattractive, might also be a if he’s a certain type, age, race, height she doesn’t go for.
I think there does need to be an initial physical attraction for flirting to work.
Perhaps, but I've had women attracted to me and I was the complete opposite of their type. The first rule in flirting, and everything else to do with women (and life in general) is to never ever be desperate, and always be willing to walk away. With that said, flirting will be about reading her body language, expressions, vibe, and flowing with that. It can also be done with tone of voice, eye contact, and mannerism.When I met this new girl at work that I liked, I simply talked to her. I'd use eye contact and not turn away when she noticed. At first she didn't respond, then after a few days she started initiating. Her type of guy was the complete opposite to me.Eventually I started teasing her a little during conversation. But things heated up when I stopped flirting, and she started to miss it and then began breaking the touch barrier. But you also need to be unafraid of saying the wrong thing as well, and speak your mind.
So there still needs to be an initial spark for her to say yes to a date?
She has to find you physically attractive. That may or may not lead to a spark, but if you don’t look good to her you are in the potential friendship bucket. That’s why feedback like confidence, style, grooming, and having a healthy body are so important. While some women would agree to date for different reasons.. of you are looking for a romantic track then yes they need to be into you physically before you open your mouth. After you open your mouth and show your personality that initial attraction can expand. But unless it’s rare circumstances that sexual attraction is needed off the bat, in less than one minute.
So it’s a shared job?
They can do things together to create intimacy and build attraction but each person has to be attractive on their own initially for the other person to become interested.
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