There is everything wrong with having sex on the first date if you are looking for a long term relationship, and the most wrong part about it is the fact that a woman is willing to fuck someone she barely knows. That kind of girl is not the kind of girl any intelligent man would consider being the mother of his children one day, she is not long term material and should not be invested in
Your argument is falling on itself. Even if that girl doesn’t have sex with you on the first date, you’d consider her long term material or mother material if that one date went well?Get to know the girl. If she has sex with you on the first date or not. Get to know her. You don’t know a person unless you know them.
If she is willing to have sex with someone she just met that very day, then I have just learned a lot about her. I don't know how you can’t see this. If she does that, I’ve pretty much seen enough. Im not even saying id have the willpower to resist, most men don’t, but it would be unwise to get involved with a girl who gives it up so easily
You know once upon a time men actually had to put in effort for sex, not like the faggoty cologne and gay fashion effort, but real investment, building a relationship. Been about a century since those times and our society has completely fallen to pieces. If u can't connect the dots, well fuck man thats just ignorance and lack of study
But it would be wise to get involved with a man who’d sleep with a girl on the first date?
Go ahead and make your own poll with that question. Women decide whether or not sex happens, outside of rape thats how its always been. If we want a better society women r the ones who need to resume their role as gatekeeper
the guys who prefer experienced girls are not boyfriend material. They are just looking for amazing sex day 1, they aren't willing to invest, they just wanna fuck
LOL, speaking of myself, the PRIMARY reason why I date into have sex. (For otherwise I would rather attend church for friendship and seek out platonic companionship.)I think many guys have similar thoughts. Why go through the difficult process of getting a date if end endpoint is "just friends" (platonic)?Hence to be utterly honest, sex is what guys look for in a relationship like money in work. And "boyfriend material" is not merely sex, but the 3C -- "Condominium, Car and Card". Clever girls add one more C, "Commitment".
@Shamalien. Thats where your wrong, You take an experienced girl and make her yours. Girls with a lot of experience are fun, and it dosent make them bad people. I invested in a woman that has slept with over 30+ guys including me. And we have ben together for over a year and are planning to get married and start a family. Its not impossible. She might have ben a whoreBut i can look past all that. that doesn't change how her heart is. I think she will make a great mother and wife. she's a great person.
@PrudentGuy. Your right
if you've known eachother for years before the first date obviously that's a little different.
yeah there are exceptions, and people love pointing out exceptions anytime I mention a rule XD but I generally live life by rules not exceptions
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that expression is retarded, I've only ever heard people say that when trying to justify casual sex
I am not justifying anything. I don't like casual sex. I always want to know the person. But there should not be a double standard anymore. That ship has sailed.
Male and female sexuality is different, and while both should not engage in casual sex, the onus will always be on the female gender to dictate what level of casual sex is or is not permissible in a society. Unless of course you want it to be like it is in the middle east, where we just cover you up instead. Make a choice ladies, because this insanity that exists in western nations currently will not go on. You wanna talk about double standards? Let's talk about society bending over backwards for women and not giving a shit about men. Men and women r different, end of story
Lol nope I just want there to be some un fucked ladies out there so that I can make one of em my wife one day, and these girls that fucked on the first date, they will never give me what im looking for
Shamalien, this is like saying, "Hey, give me that [whatever's in their hand]. Thank you." Nom nom nom. Now do away. You're a terrible person for giving me what I asked for. Shame on you. Oh and I rock.
* go away
So basically if u have sex on the first date ur fuckbuddy material, not girlfriend material XD
I suppose. Better to say maybe, fucking on the first date without knowing the other person or without having met before, makes one just flesh to have sex with. Mere eye candy and a real life toy to be used and cast away when finished/used up/served its purpose.
Yah I mean if uv known em for a long time thats obviously different. Fking someone u just met is crazy tho, crazy irresponsible for one, its something a dumb kid does. I speak from experience XD
Yes, if you want a girlfriend like that and she wants a steady relationship, sure. If you're the kind of piece of shit that takes advantage of women and judges them by their sexual desires though, I recommend no girl ever go into a relationship though. Bye
I don't know wtf ur responding to, it's not my question. You seem to have a problem with the wording?
Its a problem of the modern times I think, we don’t know any other way other than just hopping into bed. This is a situation where u can't trust ur feelings to guide u, u gotta use logic. If it always ends in misery then stop doing it
It was my first year of college, that seemed to be the option. Do what you do and see if something comes of it. It doesn't end in misery, just sooner than I'd like, so no real harm done I suppose. Who knows. Try again next year.
you're saying it doesn't end in misery because you aren't anywhere near the 'end' that im referring to yet. Unless you get really lucky, you're gunna be on the wrong side of 5 failed relationships and your heart will likely be in tatters. The odds of that tattered heart being able to form a sturdy long term bond with a potential husband will be low, so it's not a risk I'd advise taking, even though mainstream culture is pushing u in that direction. Take my advice or don't, you probably won't, I'm just a random guy after all right?
eh I'm a big believer that past things shouldn't affect my future relationships so I make sure not to put up walls to protect myself and stuff. I get what you're trying to say, and yeah I've been hurt a couple times from thinking I could count on guys when that wasn't the case, but I think my future husband will get all the love he deserves. I appreciate your advice, I just don't know what to do at the moment really, so we'll see.
just remember this: Although you believe that your past should not affect your future, your past DOES affect your future, in fact, a person's past is the single best predictor of their future. TREAD CAREFULLY
like there's no way of 'putting up walls' to protect yourself if you're sleeping with the guy, biology is biology and you can't control what your brain is doing to your emotional state. All you can do is not get into a situation you don't wanna stay in
hmm, well it is possible for idiots to fall into fortune XD but I wouldn't go making life bets on it
Nobody is making life bets on anything, sir. I'm simply saying that just because a woman is willing to have sex with someone on the first date/meeting doesn't mean that they wouldn't be a good girlfriend/boyfriend/partner. Sex is a natural part of life and willingness to participate in the act without knowing someone for a long period of time first doesn't necessarily mean that said person wouldn't be a good spouse.
No, it just means they very, very likely wouldn't. Believe what you want, you are most definitely making life bets, to have sex with someone is supposed to be a big decision, but you are of the belief that it's just healthy to do it like animals do. Whatever, I ent gunna waste time arguing with ya, you know my opinion and I know yours. Just try and be open minded to the idea that you may be mistaken, you never know what this life will teach you
You don't know my beliefs. Nobody said "it's just healthy to do it like animals do" BUT that is literally what we are made to do. Humans are animals, more evolved and domestic yes, but animals none the less. No argument here, just a friendly discussion with difference of opinions, doll. I am very open minded, I can guarantee that. And you are correct, you never do know what this life could teach you, you will also never know how something could or would have gone if you aren't open to the thought or experience of it.
lemme know how it turns out :P
if you are both young and undamaged, it could work out, but if it doesn't and you continue to behave as you have, the odds of it working out are just gunna be less and less as life goes on...
He was literally the first person I’ve ever done it with and I’m not attracted to anyone else. It’ll be fine. Everyone’s situation is different
u must think ur really special. If she sleeps with u the first night, then that's how long it takes for her to cheat1 night. Risky business if you ask me.
Yea but any girl can go out and do that so what makes her any different?
Yeah, any girl canbut some girls won't, and those are the keepers
Doesn’t mean she will ither. Its just you assumed it automatically.When your single you can do whatever you want.I told her. You can do anything you want to go anywhere you want to, But dont ever do anything behind my back you would be ashamed to tell me about. Idc what she does as long as i know about it, or was there. If she ever did cheat on me Behind my back. . I would see that as a green light to do the same.
lol so if your partner cheated you would cheat? Says all I need to know about you. I would leave them and then it wouldn't be cheating
a girl who just wants to fuck and puts that above stable long term relationships is by definition, NOT GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL
To you. Many guys in the world. Many different opinions. 🤷🏼♀️
A girl who is with you purely because she 'just wants to fuck' and you happen to be the one who's currently her fuckbuddy; that's what people call a fuckbuddy. That is no girlfriend, don't kid yourself.
Lol if you were so damn sure of the answer why are you asking other people’s opinions? Just To say they are the wrong opinion? Lol. Try again
Can’t agree. Not everyone thinks like you, shocking isn’t it!!! 😮
Hey where did you go? Did you get tired of saying the exact same thing over and over to have me just disagree over and over?
I went to bed XD and I'm not asking peoples opinions because im unsure of my own, as you clearly can see, I have my opinion, I stated that from the beginning.
lol wtf you're like some alien facehugger that just copies all data from the host's brain go back to whatever planet u came from
I am a little alien👽👽👽
male and female sexuality is different, tired of explaining this to people
To answer your question tho, generally he is not boyfriend material if he's willing to fuck on the first date, but we aren't talking about that right now so open your own question if you wanna talk about that
Out sexuality is not different, its just that women are more shamed about it
trendy hipster faggot begoneyour cucked ways will not work with women forever, times are changing
You can't want sex and at the same time judge girls that give it freely, it makes you seem like a dipshit. If a girl being comfortable turns you away, then you're just a simp.
What do you know about me? Oh right, not a damn thing. So you were saying?
Ah yes, and you know that I'm a trendy hipster faggot? Don't ya simp boy
Cause you have a pic LOL so I know somethin about you
Yes, and you don't so I know you're insecure, and a 36 year old.
by the way we aren't talking about girls being comfortable, we are talking about a girl sleeping with hundreds of guys, still having them as friends on social media, been in gangbangs multiple times with different dudes, and hiding all that from her FIANCE the person she is supposedly going to share her heart with. What is your definition of 'comfortable'? Is it having a different cock rammed up inside you every time you sit down? How about multiple cocks, one in front one in behind, is that nice and 'comfortable' ?Trendy hipster faggot appears to have been a very accurate assessment
I'm 25 and i don't have a pic because im not a trendy faggot and my opinions actually offend the vast majority of people in society
No where does it say anything about a fiance, no where does it say anything about hundreds of guys, and gangbangs. I think a guy deserves to know to an extent, and it looks like simp boy just gave me a bunch of information not included in the original question.
LOL my bad was talking on another similar post where the chick had banged 100s of guys and all that jazz yada yada, curious though, what do you think about that situation? Let's say she was doing all the stuff I mentioned in my previous comments, would she still be girlfriend material for you?
I know the post you're talking about where she kept it from him, absolutely not. Lying about having a past like that is not excusable. Also sorry for the insults, that was childish after I had already responded to yours the one time.
yeah okay fair enough dude
Also what a huge misunderstanding
yup that was my bad lol
still tho 9 times outta 10 I would not date a chick who would sleep with a dude she just met :P but hey not everyone's had the good graces of being involved with batshit crazy bitches XD
the first to draw! Well said my friend