Is a first date too early to ask someone to be your girlfriend?

- I mean at 14 probably not since the whole relationship would be just a demo version of the real thing.
But at 24... It's risky, people usually take their time with this stuff. At least 3 dates before you decide to make it a thing.
Me I went on a date with a girl not long ago and it went great so we went on anther one and I kissed her but after that date we decided not to go further.
Had I asked her to be my girlfriend on date 1 I would have had to go through the process of breaking up.
So yeah it's too early and you should point it out to him.Is this still revelant?A process or breaking up? as if you haven't just done it by text. If not putting yourself on tinder and waiting until she finds out is popular.
I suppose you could do it like that but me I'm a little old fashioned when it comes to this stuff. If I'm gonna break up with my girlfriend I'd like to look her in the eye when I do it. And likewise if he's dumping me I'd prefer to hear it.
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True but it speaks a lot about the kind of person you are.
After all her friends will know how it ended so will mine, I don't wanna be known as the guy who wimps out of a breakup, what if my next girlfriend is someone who I knew while I was dating and she knows about it.
It could get dramatic and all that but if the relationship isn't working and it's time to end it then I can suck it up
- It sounds like a guy who has no clue what he is doing. A man should never ever do that.
1) After one date you dont even know this chic. Have some standards and get to know her emotionally and sexually first.
2) It takes about 2 months for a girl to even fall in love
3) NO man should ever be the one to bring up a relationship. That is what the woman should do. It must be a woman's realization and idea.
This guy either has already creeped you out or will likely turn you off in the future.Is this still revelant?
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- For me, yes. Assuming we didn't know each other (or barely knew each other) prior to the date, it would require a lot more time for me to get to know a person, and I absolutely have to get to know someone before I can even develop an attraction to them, let alone feelings and the desire for a romantic relationship.Is this still revelant?
Honestly, I'd honestly be pretty leery of any guy who wants to start a relationship after the first date. It usually means he's very desperate, which isn't a good sign.
Of course, I know at least a few guys who seem to have the high school mindset of being "official" after one date. For me, it's really rushing things.
- Well if u feel that the someone u are on a date with is the person u want a relationship with then it is a good question to ask but i think that u should accept the response that the person gives to u and know that it is the first date tho but still a good time if u feel that u want that person to be with uIs this still revelant?
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743- Yes it's too early. My friendgroup consists of entirely 17 year old boys though so please take this with a pinch of salt and a dash of pepper as with any internet advice. You know the guy and I don't but I will say most guys I know who talk like this bounce from one relationship to the next, each lasting less than a week. It's not intentional and most start online, but as soon as they find someone they even kind of like they jump into a relationship, even saying I love you the first week because they're lonely. They are hoping to find happiness in another person instead of themselves.React
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- Depends on the mood / flow, also being girlfriend/boyfriend just gives a name to dating him, something your already doing by going out with him.
in my opinion it means u know what he wants from your encounter which is better then some fuckboy playing hookie with your feelingsReactLike
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- One of my ex girlfriend, she became my girlfriend first and then we started dating. We really liked each other in our school days when we were 16 and we would always be together in school so we knew each other really well. And we just became boyfriend and girlfriend and then we went on a date a couple days later.React
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- Definitely. Dating usually happens after 2-4 months of talking, meeting and getting to know each other, to ask somebody to date on your 1st date is a bit obnoxious and quite dumb of him. Unless you felt like you and him had a real connection, you should say no and ask to keep talking for now.React
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- I'm guessing he hasn't known you long. He can express his interest in that by asking me on a second date. I won't know him enough on the first. Really, if I accept a second date I'm probably seriously considering him too. Of course, that's how I think I'd be. I usually end up falling for friends so I already know them.React
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- It totally depends on how long you're in the talking stage for. I think if I talk to someone for at least 2 months (calling & texting) and go on a date for the first time. I wouldn't consider it too early in my opinion. When you get a feeling, you get a feeling.React
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- Not really.
I know a guy who proposed on the 2nd date and she said yes.
Then on the 3rd date she got pregnant from unprotected sex
The 4th date she moved into his house
The 5th date they met the parents
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- Way to fucking soon. You know next to nothing about someone from one date and a billion texts. Just keep going on dates. Hanging out. Let it fall into place on its own. You'll be "a thing" without a conversation about it even happening.React
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- There are no rules here. Just make sure she's feeling it too or you will not get the results your looking for.React
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- If a guy has to "ask" a girl to be his girlfriend, she's not. When you're boyfriend/girlfriend, you both know. If either of you DON'T know, then again... you're not.React
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- YES! You still don't know the person unless you have known them for years, and possibly grew up with them. You should be friends for at least two years before talking serious commitment.React
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- I'd say no, not if you connected really well and both seem to want thatReact
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- if ur average or ugly, it dont matter... its only offensive if a guy asks a hot girl out that early... then its disrespectful... if she's ugly or average, who cares? ask all u want... fuck how she feelsReact
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- Yes. That’s a sign of desperation and general cluelessness. If you like him then you could explain it to him.React
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- Well... What do you think about him? If you think he's worth it you could at least try, if you think you may be able to develop feelings towards him while getting to know each other better (sorry if something's not correctly said, I'm french and still learning, and don't hesitate to correct me if necessary🙂)React
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- depends if you knew each other before. but just are now getting to date.
also depends on the vibs you feel about each other.ReactLike
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- Unless you've known each other for a long time and know you like each other already, and it's just like your first "official" date or whatever, then yeah, it's way too early.React
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- A little, it gives you something to chat about on the next dateReact
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- Run. Run fast in the other direction! Stage 5 clinger alert. 😂https://www.youtube.com/embed/14ZO1b3T6joReact
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- Depends on how long you want the relationship to last, given that he says yes. Because after that you’re just taking a random shot being that you don’t know him too well.React
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