Thats so true! Thats actually why i dont date or bother getting in a relationship, its all become a waste of time, effort, and emotions. Now people only get in them to fulfil their sexual desires and fill their lonlieness. Its not even about bonding and helping each other grow now. You know the sad part is their isn't a lot of girls like you, y'all are the rarest girls out there.
- much love and respect for being a real woman🌹
I'm not really a fan of Tinder and the like either, but that is because a) I don't have a lot of success there, and b) I find selecting dates from a "catalogue" very unromantic and empty. I like that thing where you meet someone e. g. at work, and you can feel that there is a mutual interest, and you get the shy smiles and tentative conversation and all that shit. Getting to know each other slowly and naturally. I like that.
I agree because when you are swiping on tinder you are judging them by their looks and not personality. I'm sorry but I have to be physically attracted to someone. They say go by character but I dont see it working out just by their personality I got to have both. Guys on tinder dont want any serious anyway.
I also want to be physically attracted. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. But I would agree that Tinder does not exactly incentivize guys to look for a serious relationship or to put in a whole lot of effort. And because a lot of women will go for the same few hot guys, those guys can pick and choose and don't "need" to treat a woman well, because there will always be a new one waiting in line.
Exactly I heard when a beautiful woman is with an ugly dude just because he treats her good. Than other women will see that and then he will cheat on that woman because now other women want him. Some women say that it ended up working out for them because they grew to love their men even though they didn't find them attractive at first.
Honest answer? To have sex.
Ya I'm a guy. There is only one reason why I date: to have the opportunity to fuck.
And since the "indemnity" of marriage is so high (woman's liberation, no man's consideration law), why marry when I can get sex before marrying?
Finally, with the logical mind of a guy, since almost all first marriages fails, why get into the "legal entanglement" when we can have sex without legal commitment?
Hence I agree with you, marriage is meaningless but dating is a need, to get sex.
I don't understand your thinking at all. With respect, very close minded and naïve.
Dating is how you learn. Everyone has a lot to learn before they're ready for the commitment of a lifetime.
Dating allows you to learn everything you need from a variety of people; every situation and person has their nuances to learn from. This allows endless room for error also. That way, when the right person comes along, you've learned everything you need to know (in theory) to make for a successful relationship. All too often, people choose not to reflect on dates and past relationships and acknowledge the valuable lessons they've learned and foolishly rush into the next (relationship) repeating the same mistakes.
Dating is whatever you make it to be. A waste of time...…. never
Yeah to you I seem naive but you are narrow minded for not seeing what I am trying to say. I'm not wasting any more of my time if I am dating with a purpose. Maybe they aren't dating for what I am looking for. But what sense does that make if I date guys who aren't looking for what I am wanting in life. Come on use your common sense.
What's a waste of time to one is a valuable use to another. Their purpose is different than yours, but with the same endgame I f you're dating guys that don't want the same thing you want from life, you've just proven what I said in my first response, so thank for that. Using common sense eliminates moral absolutions; which is also beneficial when you're trying to find yourself and understand others.
Because they want a relationship?
What does marriage have anything to do with it?
Marriage is for insecure people who seek validation and assurance that their relationship is going to last.
That's just a fact.
Two people who genuinely wish to be together have no need for marriage.
So, no baby making, no sex? There are some that go that route. There are also some that use sex only to maximize pleasure. And then there are some that just date for companionship and the need to formalize asset consolidation for the probate system is low on their list.
I have zero interest in marriage under current laws, but dating is not a waste to me. I date for fun and companionship. It is fine if you have different dating goals, but you should not assume that people who do not share your goals are wasting their time.
Some people don’t want to participate in the institution of marriage but still want a relationship. Some people do want marriage and don’t see themselves marrying the person they’re dating, but they can still enjoy the companionship and intimacy that person brings. A relationship isn’t a waste just because it doesn’t end in marriage.
@WalkingCorpse Getting married or being together long-term aren’t the only ways for a relationship to have value. You don’t have to do either of those things to bond with someone or enrich their life. And you don’t decide what’s valuable or worthwhile for other people. If you only feel like marriage or long-term commitment make your relationships not wasteful, that’s fine. But it’s not your place to determine whether someone else is wasting their time when they have different priorities.
Sometimes you find someone who is exactly what you need for where you are in life. Situations change though, and you can't always see far enough ahead to know how things will change.
Companionship! Dating and marriage are two different things.
Why do you have to be married? You can "live happily ever after" and not be married. Think of the divorce rate... how does it prove "commitment" or "seriousness"? Think about that.
Love activates the same part of your brain as cocaine so in reality love in a chemical addiction according to your brain so its hard to break
Because guys date to get sex.
It’s women who want the lock down shit.
Because their penises are still getting hard, just like animals they meet for fuck, and they are less human and more animal.
Gaining experience, exploring choices
Sampling.
It's like wine tasting.
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