How can I stop being jealous when my boyfriend goes out with his friends?

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I don’t feel threatened, I just feel left out.. I know it’s silly.. I don’t and can’t see him during the week, we hang out almost every weekend.. my boyfriend posts pics of him and his friend going out to eat... I shouldn’t feel this way but when I see the pics I immediately felt jealous/left out. Maybe I need to get out more with friends it’s just the pandemic I haven’t been able to and stuff is just now starting to reopen...

Answer 1

HollyK21 | 506 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I’m going through something similar so I totally understand the feeling, especially if it feels as though time with you isn’t as much of a priority as time is with his friends. Does he ever (or has he ever) invited you along? Are you guys exclusive? Is he pretty busy? Sorry for all the questions lol but I think all that plays a role. He could just be trying to spread his time out between you and his friends. Maybe try asking why he doesn’t ask you along, at least sometimes..

Asker

5 mo
I don’t know.. my vibe is he makes his friends a bigger priority.. we went out to eat alone last weekend because his friend bailed... although I’m not really free during the week, and he goes out too late but I feel he doesn’t even give me a second thought only his friends
HollyK21

5 mo
Hmm, in general it sounds like your schedules don’t line up for you to join him and his friends anyway. But I definitely understand where you’re coming from. If you haven’t talked to him about it, maybe you should? The last thing you want is to feel like a secret or that he doesn’t wanna bring you around his friends. If after the talk he still doesn’t invite you even just occasionally, I think you should reconsider what you want from your S/O in a relationship and if this guy is willing to meet you halfway on that. No point in wasting time in something that’s hit a dead end..

Answer 2

Asker

I don’t know.. my vibe is he makes his friends a bigger priority.. we went out to eat alone last weekend because his friend bailed... although I’m not really free during the week, and he goes out too late but I feel he doesn’t even give me a second thought only his friends

Answer 3

HollyK21

Hmm, in general it sounds like your schedules don’t line up for you to join him and his friends anyway. But I definitely understand where you’re coming from. If you haven’t talked to him about it, maybe you should? The last thing you want is to feel like a secret or that he doesn’t wanna bring you around his friends. If after the talk he still doesn’t invite you even just occasionally, I think you should reconsider what you want from your S/O in a relationship and if this guy is willing to meet you halfway on that. No point in wasting time in something that’s hit a dead end..

Answer 4

yenofed840

Xper 4

It is natural because when you like someone very much, it means you really care for him/her. If you want to go with your friends, just go once. if he is really into you, he will feel jealousy also. It is a free world. Do experiment, you will know the reality about him that how serious he is about you. or how much trust you. Insecurity has no place in relatioship

Answer 5

Rabbit1o1

Xper 4

Hmm.. Maybe you could get back up plans in case? You think that help with your insecurities? Get a backup plans and keep working to better yourself and never stop. That way if it were to happen you could easily find somebody else if you wanted. Should put your mind at ease.

Answer 6

chriscdi | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

try going with them once and if you get bored then maybe you'll feel better lol

Asker

5 mo
In all reality I’m not sure I want to be there to hear the guy talk..
chriscdi

5 mo
well I don't know if youd hear the guy talk cause you are there but then why does it bother you 😂

Answer 7

Asker

In all reality I’m not sure I want to be there to hear the guy talk..

Answer 8

chriscdi

well I don't know if youd hear the guy talk cause you are there but then why does it bother you 😂

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