Are you angry if your date doesn't offer to pay?

Question

As a girl of course I was raised that the guy pays for dates and not to expect anything less and even if the girl offers to pay , the man is suppose to decline and pay anyway. If he doesn't i would just see him as a friend and we are just buddies hanging out.
I know some men HATE this but most girls are raised this way too and we grow up watching in ever movie/TV show ever.

So how much anger is there toward this?

Answer 1

virtue2332

Xper 5

I understand as I was raised the same way. You should also stay home with the kids and have dinner ready when I get home from work. Breakfast in the morning along with my suit and newspaper. Oh and the boss will be over for lunch so lets tidy up and try to impress. Seriously I would feel awkward if a girl pd but you see how things that use to be expected to be a certain way sound crazy now right. Im just saying we should all have an open mind when we raise our kids and understand that times change and its okay for a girl to pay for her meal if thats what she is comgortable with. I have all girls 3 and I have to have an open mind when it comes to gender biases because they are as quick to point out when Im not up to date.

Answer 2

cooldog980sw

Xper 1

Tbh that's kinda a sexist mentality. That's like guys saying that because he paid for your meal and because you're a girl, he's entitled to sleep with you.

The majority of the time, I pay for my girlfriend's meals, but sometimes we split it, and sometimes she buys. Money shouldn't be so one sided. That's back to the mentality that guys should be working to provide for the family and that only girls should be home to raise the kids. Relationships are about being equal. 1 sided relationships don't last

Asker

5 mo
Honestly, its not like that. Its way more likely for the guy to pay than the girl to fuck. But free food and sex sounds awesome to many, some will wait

Answer 3

Asker

Honestly, its not like that. Its way more likely for the guy to pay than the girl to fuck. But free food and sex sounds awesome to many, some will wait

Answer 4

AaronKrieger | 640 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

This is how I see it.

Whoever asked the other person out on the date should be the one paying for it. It doesn't matter if the person asking is a girl or a boy. If the person that was asked out offers to pay half, then yeah that's nice of the person and go ahead, do it.

Asker

5 mo
Cool but eventually dates just start happening a lot more when u are with someone and the guy does usually pay for everything
AaronKrieger

5 mo
Later on just pay half or even pay for some meals and don't let the guy pay for everything.
Asker

5 mo
I'm married, so obviously he works and pays for everything.
As far a dating though, usually the longer you date the more often the guy will pay, thats for younger guys, older always pay, ever had one not pay
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AaronKrieger

5 mo
I feel like it's better if both just take turns unless one of the parties wants to pay instead majority of the time or if one of them is unable to afford it, so the other does it instead

Answer 5

Asker

Cool but eventually dates just start happening a lot more when u are with someone and the guy does usually pay for everything

Answer 6

AaronKrieger

Later on just pay half or even pay for some meals and don't let the guy pay for everything.

Answer 7

Asker

I'm married, so obviously he works and pays for everything.
As far a dating though, usually the longer you date the more often the guy will pay, thats for younger guys, older always pay, ever had one not pay

Answer 8

AaronKrieger

I feel like it's better if both just take turns unless one of the parties wants to pay instead majority of the time or if one of them is unable to afford it, so the other does it instead

Answer 9

winterfox10 | 3.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I've never gotten angry at the girl not offering to pay. If we've gone out a few times though, I should hope that you could start kicking some money into things eventually, because that becomes a statement about your willingness to invest in our relationship. Just small things, like if I buy our dinner and you want to go watch a movie afterwards, it would be nice if you offered to pay for my ticket. Or maybe even something smaller, like you buy us ice cream.

Answer 10

Reaperbot666

Guru

I typically say 50/50 or go douche while dating. but once we're a legit couple then I'll pay most of the time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4E8qEDi_xg

Answer 11

CikaZivan | 62 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

As a guy, i'm raised to pay on dates, and i'd pay regardless whether she offered or not.
The only difference is that i'd have much better opinion about a woman who at least offered to pay.
A girl that is persistant, and still wants to pay even though i said i'd pay, she's even worse than the ones who didn't offer.

Answer 12

Lliam | 517 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Not at all. If I ask someone on a date, I don't expect them to pay. It's my treat. They're my guest. But if someone asks me on a date, it pretty odd if they expect me to pay for everything.

Asker

5 mo
Agree 👍

Answer 13

Asker

Agree 👍

Answer 14

AdithyaR | 233 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Well you should know movies and tv shows aren't reality.
Besides most guys don't mind paying but it seems annoying if we're doing it because the girl feels entitled to it.
My rule is that the person who invites is the one who pays. So if I ask her out, I pay, if she asked me out, she pays. And if it's a blind date, we should split for the first couple dates. Once in a relationship, it can always go back and forth with each oke paying during different times.

Asker

5 mo
People see movies and TV as how life goes though, like we know the superhero isn't real and we know the date scenes are more real life
AdithyaR

5 mo
Sure. That's actually a problem on both sides. Romantic movies tend to distort women's views on dating and porn tends to distort men's views on women.
AdithyaR

5 mo
Although there are some romantic movies that actually are very realistic.
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Asker

5 mo
Its not romantic movies. Its literally every movie on a date.
Girla watch porn like crazy. I've been addicted since i was a kid.
But gurls will still expect free food and a dude crazy fun in bed.
AdithyaR

5 mo
Yeah well I guess that's how some people are. I'll just wait for the more mature ones.
Asker

5 mo
I see nothing wrong with free food and sex.
AdithyaR

5 mo
There's nothing wrong with free food and sex.
What's wrong is feeling and acting entitled to free food and sex.
Asker

5 mo
Ah. Well we are raised that way often. My question is, is there anger about that
AdithyaR

5 mo
Of course, people who aren't raised like that would be offended by it. But it's actually changing, lesser people are following that trend
Asker

5 mo
Sad. Im definitely raising my kids with old fashion traditional gender roles
AdithyaR

5 mo
Well that gender role is kinda pointless and unfair towards both genders. Why should the guy always have to pay? Why is is it bad if the woman pays?
Asker

5 mo
I dont see it as unfair but Its just roles. How I live, men work and woman take care of the home so its expected that men pay for everything
AdithyaR

5 mo
In that kind of scenario it's acceptable since the woman is dependent on the man financially.
But the world isn't like that anymore. Both women and men work even if they are married and women are just as financially independent as men, so everyone is capable of paying for themselves.

Answer 15

Asker

People see movies and TV as how life goes though, like we know the superhero isn't real and we know the date scenes are more real life

Answer 16

AdithyaR

Sure. That's actually a problem on both sides. Romantic movies tend to distort women's views on dating and porn tends to distort men's views on women.

Answer 17

AdithyaR

Although there are some romantic movies that actually are very realistic.

Answer 18

Asker

Its not romantic movies. Its literally every movie on a date.
Girla watch porn like crazy. I've been addicted since i was a kid.
But gurls will still expect free food and a dude crazy fun in bed.

Answer 19

AdithyaR

Yeah well I guess that's how some people are. I'll just wait for the more mature ones.

Answer 20

Asker

I see nothing wrong with free food and sex.

Answer 21

AdithyaR

There's nothing wrong with free food and sex.
What's wrong is feeling and acting entitled to free food and sex.

Answer 22

Asker

Ah. Well we are raised that way often. My question is, is there anger about that

Answer 23

AdithyaR

Of course, people who aren't raised like that would be offended by it. But it's actually changing, lesser people are following that trend

Answer 24

Asker

Sad. Im definitely raising my kids with old fashion traditional gender roles

Answer 25

AdithyaR

Well that gender role is kinda pointless and unfair towards both genders. Why should the guy always have to pay? Why is is it bad if the woman pays?

Answer 26

Asker

I dont see it as unfair but Its just roles. How I live, men work and woman take care of the home so its expected that men pay for everything

Answer 27

AdithyaR

In that kind of scenario it's acceptable since the woman is dependent on the man financially.
But the world isn't like that anymore. Both women and men work even if they are married and women are just as financially independent as men, so everyone is capable of paying for themselves.

Answer 28

asshole_

Yoda

I will always pay. Guy, always pays. That's how it is, and if he isn't, he's not a good guy, however, if she's not at least offering to pay, I get irritated because then it looks like she's just after me for my money

Answer 29

hellacray | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Ok... Well I was raised to find a pretty girl that knows how to cook and take care of kids.

Asker

5 mo
Yes! Exactly! I love how u were raised. Me too!
Asker

5 mo
I wish more people understood this, the younger ones aren't getting this training as much

Answer 30

Asker

Yes! Exactly! I love how u were raised. Me too!

Answer 31

Asker

I wish more people understood this, the younger ones aren't getting this training as much

Answer 32

BeMuse | 967 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

If that’s how a girl acts she can’t ever get close to me. That’s pretty much all there is to that. Act like a prostitute, get treated like one.

Asker

5 mo
I dont understand the answer
BeMuse

5 mo
I’m not surprised.

Answer 33

Asker

I dont understand the answer

Answer 34

BeMuse

I’m not surprised.

Answer 35

admles | 734 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I don't know about anger, but it certainly speaks volumes about her entitled character.

Answer 36

jaylovesfood1998

Xper 3

I'm not upset but it shows a lot about you if you expect a man to pay because he's a man I pay because I want to but if they except me to pay because I'm a man I would pay my half and thsts then end of that

jaylovesfood1998

5 mo
Sorry for my typos

Answer 37

jaylovesfood1998

Sorry for my typos

Answer 38

COMMODOREII | 4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

More like a laugh. No wonder you are not treated like an equal.

Asker

5 mo
I dont think many girls want to be treated as an equal, more like a woman.
COMMODOREII

5 mo
My women friends tell me different.

Answer 39

Asker

I dont think many girls want to be treated as an equal, more like a woman.

Answer 40

COMMODOREII

My women friends tell me different.

Answer 41

Enochian | 195 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

No. As a guy I generally like to pay.

Answer 42

Cryptic-Game | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

It does not anger me.

Answer 43

In_Trance | 3.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

not at all

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