Lmaoo what text did you read? What I got from this is not that she’s forcing him to change put more so that he’s obviously hurting her both physically and verbally and emotionally as well since she even sent this and apparently he never apologizes and she’s calling him out on it quite frankly more nicely than I would have so big thumbs up to her for that. Find it weird that the girl is clearly the victim in the situation and you’re calling her emotionally dependent and desperate lol what a world we live in.
@Destiny0827 If he's doing all these things, in my belief that's his business, as I don't own another. nor am entitled to demand behavior out of them (plus often too frustrating to try & change others) If he never changes, assuming I were the girl, I would take control of my own destiny, tell him how I'm going to respond, and let him react as he chooses.After constant effort, and lack of progress, I would follow all this text up with "goodbye" - unless she's literally in danger on leaving, which hasn't been established, if she stays, consequences are her responsibility.
@Destiny0827 your reply seems to paint her as the helpless victim, and him the evil wrongdoer... but who chooses to stay with who? It seems to be a mutual choice, meaning both are responsible for the creation of the situation, not only poor, helpless victim woman & "evil" man.
@Destiny0827 ... nothing? you haven' responded to my observation she still chooses to maintain the relationship, and has mutual responsibility over the consequences she is confronting..
I never said she didn’t have a choice in the issue. She’s responsible to leave if he stays the same after she has confessed his actions are hurting her and he’s responsible to heed to what she’s saying or ignore her and they both go their separate ways. My issue was with you calling her Codependent on someone else, her boyfriend at that not some stranger, all because she spoke up rather than stay silent. It’s like you were saying her opening up to him about how he’s hurting her means she’s trying to change him and I’m no way is that what that is. She’s opening up to him so he can acknowledge what she already has acknowledged and hope that he will stop what’s he’s doing which could be stop hitting her, stop yelling at her, stop calling her out of her name whatever it is it may be. We don’t know exactly because it’s not enough detail but it’s just enough to know in more ways than one he’s abusing her and doesn’t apologize for it and she’s fed up. That’s all I was saying.
@Destiny0827 " in more ways than one he’s abusing her and doesn’t apologize for it and she’s fed up."... Done. Finished. Leave... or stay & accept what, after multiple instances, has proven unlikely to change. She goes. Problem solved. In fact, experience has shown with others, assuming he's not legitimately dangerous, and allows her to leave, the minute there's serious consequences, he'll suddenly be trying much harder than when she sticks around & enables him by not enforcing strong consequences.
Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions
Well let’s just say I was an asshole and told her to stop texting me rather than own up to it and even then she just said “okay and take care of yourself.” She still cares after I’ve been a asshole and now I haven’t replied because I feel horrible. I know it says it’s a girls account but I’m a guy.
you feel horrible because you dont self reflect on your actions. She is saying these things because of a reason , not because she unnecessarily wants to fight. As she said her problem is you never own up to the mistake or even apologize and she thinks she is the only one who has to always has to compromise and give it her allIts your relationship dude , you know it better than a stranger like me. Its still not too late , tell her you have thought about what all she has said and you will improve your behaviour and start treating her better from now onYou need to understand her viewpoint as well , why she thinks you are insecure and what is making her unsatisfied with youSometimes you need to say sorry even if you think you didn't do anything wrong because the person you love is far more important than a simple sorry. She is thinking that since you never say sorry , you think everything is her mistake and that's very absurd , no one can be right 100% of the time