But then there are women, unfortunately a lot, that will judge a man for not having a house because they think the man isn't financially stable or somehow not mature enough. I can see how a guy might get sick of this and Jay want to get all of these questions that women judge them on out of the way.
*just, not jay
However, I do agree with what you're saying for the most part.
Cutenerd9 i dont have a house of my own does that make me immature? I'm not financially stable yet as i just lost my job. The women who think like are probably the ones he wants to avoid anyway
@lilsezza101 I agree, those women should be avoided. I certainly don't agree with that point of view at all. I just know that's why some men advertise those things, because they're tied of being judged. I also don't think there's anything wrong with you.
That is not really correct. A man that has his own house and car is likely to be hard working and responsible with money, which are major factors in making a successful relationship. Finances are the number one cause of divorce, so picking a guy that you "love" but lacks work ethic or financial sense will bite you in the ass in the long run.
@CarolineHarper but isn't that point of view subjective to age, stage of life, and circumstances? It can be a good sign that a man owns a home, but isn't looking at what someone owns as a precursor to a relationship sowhat superficial? I have a friend who is 28, lives with his parents but has plenty of money. He lives with his parents because he's saving for his and his future wife and children's future. The less he spends now before marriage the more he has to choose a home with his future wife and provide for his family. Assumptions shouldn't be made on perceived wealth and possessions. Get to know a person before rejecting them.
Don't let him!
@tiajoka Im not going to!
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So i should have built a new home you think?
New? No, it's about accommodating her tastes, and doing that together, ideally. You have a home now and that's a great investment, and shows you are a responsible person who is thinking about his future.But there will always be some personalization, personal opinions that need to be factored in. And women tend to have a lot of opinions about the space they live in, so hopefully you won't get your back up when she makes some suggestions when she's there. (Honestly, a lot of the time, women make improvements that the guy didn't even think of. We are nesters, it's what we do.) Guys usually go for function over form, i. e. comfort more than women do - women definitely want to be comfortable, but they also want a bit of elegance and pretty in there. It's not just for show; it's eye candy when they're in their safe space, to relax.New builds are notoriously stressful, time-consuming, and go over budget substantially. They're suited to experienced homeowners, who have already lived in many spaces, renovated, and now know exactly what they want, and they haven't been able to find it on market, so it tends to be a narrower portion of the population that it makes sense for.
I'm confused.. thanks lol
she can still do interior design if it is that important. Other than location, you can always adjust
I guess I feel like I wanna be used sometimes if that is what it takes to find love
If that's the case then that means you don't got love and you to be sharing to begin with. You don't find Love, You Give Love that's already within you. But you trying to do all the stuff to people please, you're just going to leave yourself lonely, use and abuse, and those same women I just going to take advantage of you, and still everything that you own. And if you don't know how to handle the responsibilities of being a homeowner, now not only do you got a 15 or 30 year mortgage fixed until you pay it off, you going to have all these bills that you have to take care of simply because you're trying to get a woman into your home. That's not a smart man.
this is complicated anyway thanks for the advise
It's good to know someone with the same mindset who thinks about the future family or their future finance (building wealth) Not saying it's a negative if she doesn't have her own property. But the possibility of both being homeowners can already be a plus of building wealth for your family. You can keep both homes, save money to buy a home together when you marry or pull some of the money out of both homes to finance a new home you both will choose together for your family.
I forgot to mention you can rent your property. Now you a secondary income in the home to help build and maintain your family. Good college fund and retirement. It's how you want to flip it - you know.
Wow thanks so much for taking the time for such a thoughtful response, I’m really impressed thanks
You're welcome 😊
Thanks I hope this is true
She was the realtor
Yes it does
maybe meth addicted gold diggers. I'm not sure the more I think of it that it will attract a women though.
Gold diggers aren't going to waste their time on a guy JB he has a house, unless they are homeless lol you'll be able to attract more women bc of what I said, it shows stability and independence
I may have made a mistake then
*You vibe, not vote
ah okay so like if our vibrations are on the same wave length financial things are not so much of a thing that attracts a women more but it's a bonus if your vibrations are on the same wave length and he has a pool.
I think financial things are a bonus, yes.
I feel like maybe girls get it easy in that sense
In what sense?
I guess I feel like in the dating game the women have the upper hand in that a women really is only really encouraged to have financial things in order so she doesn't need a man but a man needs them in order to be more attractive to a women, have I got it wrong?
I guess? Then again, I know some women who are the breadwinners who provide for the husband. I guess it depends on who you ask/
my initial thought is that those same men are into pegging.
That's sweet and pure of heart, Thanks
My best wishes to you :)
It's not a bad thing, it's definitely a smart move, it shows you're mature and have your life in order. But I'm juts saying it won't guarantee a wife, that's mostly down to you and luck, not material posessions.
Yeah I was renting previous but I know twat you mean
Oh yes I forgot that that is also an option.But than it doesn't really matter. Renting or buying.At least to me it doesn't
these girls are lying lol.
At your age, I'd be disappointed in myself if I wasn't at least close to owning a home. Theyre not going to be dating a man with roommates or in their moms basement, don't listen to them.Good on you for getting your own home.