You're telling me that people who are saying dating is not only for sex are not trustworthy? I thought dating is for making memories with the person you love and hookups are the thing for just sex. I'm not saying that there's no sex in dating but it's not the only reason to date someone. Because if the person just wants sex, why didn't they just hook up instead of misleading someone by dating them?
Dating is not about making memories. Your either going to marry the person or ruin another's life. People don't want the responsibility of getting married to somebody they're not going to like having sex with so they take it for outside of marriage so they can fool around with other people. That's why hookups are hook ups, and dating is nothing more than just a sexual relationship. Many people are not going to get into a relationship if there is no sex involved. That's the whole point. People don't take it seriously.
I make memories with my friends and my family. I refuse to be a "memory" of somebody. I don't believe in fooling around with other people's lives. Actions speak louder than words. When the right thing is considered now religious, and the wrong thing is now considered society's standards, there's no way in hell I would ever date in this life. Unless the person is equally waiting for marriage, if you don't put out that's it. Otherwise yes dating is about having sex. It's not about only, but the fact that it shouldn't be at all. "Only" should ONLY be applied to marriage. In dating, I call it what it is as an adult. It's sex. And not sugarcoat it. Those fun "memories" dates are now more so for children. And that's not if today's children are not even thinking about sexual experimenting already. It's Not Innocent anymore. And that's why I hate it.
Good, but it ain't about blaming others.
True, but the thing is everyone is free to like or dislike it and each one has their own consequences and way to pay it.So if you like it, good for youIf you dislike it, good for you tooMy life my choice my destination my regrets
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Unfortunately you seem to put all women in the proverbial one basket. Men can be the same so don't skate to heavily on that thin ice. Your problem is you probably went for looks, tits, and ass. And you would probably right in that this particular group are what you say, entitled little tramps who use men for whatever they can get. It's your typical girl next door that you should probably looking at because you know what they say, the further you look for a suitable match, the more you ignore that perfect match on your own street because she is not a looker or have the tits and ass shallow men want. And then they have the gall to say all women are whorish. I mean many are, but not all. Me for instance. I have not had sex in at least 5 years and refuse to trade my morals and self respect to be a piece of meat for those men just looking for a fast lay or two. But I guess sometimes it take getting burned a few times to agree with me. :(
@Daniela1982 Actually I have dated big girls, small girls, hot girls, nerdy girls, punk girls, and it’s irrelevant to the observation of the general populous of western females.Finding a girl who doesn’t have some attention whoring images on vsco, insta, tiktok, etc. is almost impossible.Same goes for a girl who dresses with dignity. Tights as pants, see through, loose exposing stuff like rompers, jean shorts that are almost thongs, etc.Then there are the unrealistic expectations. The controlling, demanding nature of the standard relationship where the female is “the boss” and “happy wife happy life” bullshit. Men need to have a “man cave” in their own house. Because he isn’t allowed to have anything he like in his own house. He has to resort to going to a cave.In a divorce... we are literally fucked. Not even a debate there.The list goes on.It isn’t worth the trouble. Sadly.
There you go again, talking about the wrong type of women you dated. Why are you looking at those sites for it those are not the types of girls you want? Why are you going places where the trashy girls hang out? Sound to me like you enable their attention seeking ways by giving them the attention they seek and crave. That is why they dress that way is for the attention you provide them. I find it funny how guys complain about the girls who are only looking for sex, yet what are the threads here that guys jump on here on GaG like it was a train to the promised land? The ones with scantily dressed women and ones talking about trash sex and the physical attributes of certain types of women, most particularly the Ho's.
@Daniela1982 You seem to be ignoring the point where I said the women I dated does not matter to the facts of basic society.I don't have to seek these females out the same way I don’t need to seek out the sky... IT’S ALL AROUND ME!You can’t go to a mall or a park or anywhere without being constantly bombarded with almost naked lack of dignity tramps looking for cheap attention.You have missed the entire point of my comment.It’s not about what I am seeking... It’s women in general.I (and a lot of men) no longer see women as relationship worthy because relationships in general only benefit women and women don’t seem to have the dignity or class that makes them worth anything more than their vagina.
@Daniela1982 If you yourself have ever tried to stop a guy from hanging out with friends, ever given a guy shit test, shamed him about his natural fantasy, posted an obvious attention seeking photo online... you are no different than the rest.
Have you ever seen me post a trashy pic of myself here on GaG like some do, although I'm thinking half those pics are not really them? You can keep on being Negative Ned or you will wind up being alone and all the great women will be too because the good men stop looking and the only ones left will be the players and fuckboys so we both will lose and the Ho's and their fuck toys will go their sweet way and you will be reading their stories here about how some guy cheated on them or vice versa. I guess life is what you make of it.
@Daniela1982 I never said anything about picks on here although yes there are many (more likely fake) attention whores on here. I think you fail to see the point that I would rather be alone and free.It’s unfortunate that there are some good women out there who will lose out on good relationships because the majority have ruined society.
Okay, but why would they say it's the only reason "people" date? It's a bad generalization. Like, do I ought to be like them just because it's their lifestyle? Why can't they just leave in peace without insults when they get rejected.
Thats why i said they should be open about it.If they come forth with the desire to just have sex, you can decline their dating approach.
When you said "You should be open about it", I thought you meant to go along with it even if I don't like it. Sorry, I misunderstood.
No, thats not it.I meant if you meet someone, and he or she is only looking for a onenightstand or an only sexual relationship they should just tell you so you know what you are getting into.
Or not getting into if you are looking for a serious relationship
Like... having hatred for people because they only date to have sex... ... like you stated in your question
Okay. I wasn't very specific. The people I hate are those who come into contact with me who also told me to do as they do coz according to them it's fun and I'm wasting away. Otherwise, I don't care what they do.
Okay, I got it. I understand. 👍
@dcooperAs I said above, those are the bimbos you didn't want to get saddled with anyway. So count your blessings. Guys keep giving all these loose fillies 2nd, 3rd, and 4th chances when you are missing the women who are just looking for a 1st chance. Those are the ones who want more than sex also. You just don't meet them in clubs and bars.
@Daniela1982 You are right there, I have come to realize I wouldn't have been any better off with anyone who I ended up in the friend zone with. Furthermore I realize I don't want a serious relationship at all; I'm a happier and better version of myself without the drama, the added spending, and the whole roller coaster ride. So I can comment on these things objectively, as I don't have a dog in the race :)
One opinion giver, insulted me. Others who randomly messaged me in a different app, forces me to like the idea.
Unfortunate. I don't think that anyone would deny that any group above a certain size is going to have a certain percentage of jerks. But you can't let that turn you against the whole group. Leave them be and go on your own way.
What if they hide behind the "friend" word?
then thats premeditated and misleading to gain consent on false promises but your question originally wasn't so focussed so you got my general answer
Oh, you're answer is okay. This is just a follow up. Sorry, i tend to do follow up questions.
Because they force their lifestyles to other people saying that it's the way the world works, or something like that. 🙄
Wait, you were aking about "people who only date to have sex". Nowhere did it say anything about people who "force their lifestyle onto other people".
Uh, yeah, same people in question do it. Not saying all.
Well, NOW you're saying that lol. So many assumptions here, tsk tsk. Alright, if you're too lazy to be precise in what you're talking about, I'll do the work for you and give you my answer:"Do you hate people who only date to have sex?" - No, nothing wrong with that."Do you hate people who only date to have sex and try to force that onto others?" - Yes, that sucks. But not because they only want sex - because that's totally fine - but because they want to force their ways onto others.There you go. You're welcome.
Okay, better. I suppose I should have been clearer. Just some old guy went to share his opinions saying "Why else do you date people?" And it triggered me.
So does that mean you were looking for the same or at least willing to oblige them?
I didn't say sexless. But if it's the only thing they're after, it ain't good either.
Well, sure, fucking then leaving, sure but, like, im saying, having a sexless relationship, isn't a relationship
Disagree with you.The definition of a relationship is"a romantic or passionate attachment"You can be romantic or passionate without having sex. That is where people are mistaken when they think that you need sex in a relationship.
you can't have a relationship, without sexIt simply doesn't work
Perhaps for you it does not but for a great number of people it is perfectly possible.
NopeIt's simply not possibleSorry to burst your bubble you're in
Sorry to read that you are one of those people that prioritize the nitty gritty unimportant things in life over those that really matter :-(
i bet your'e asexual too
The thing is simply that I don't think with my genitals in life and don't let myself be ruled by my sexual hormones.Can I say the same thing of you? From all the replies you have given here on GAG, I fear that the opposite is the case.I feel sorry for you
I guarantee you, you can't have a relationship without sexI think you're just asexual
Oh come on. I have seen your replies before and I am fully aware that you like to troll a little here on GAG.That is fine, those tricks don't work with me. It is just sad that it is not possible to have a decent conversation.But anyway, have a great afternoon.
I guarantee you, a relationship isn't a relationship if there's no sexGUARAN FUCKING TEE IT
haha, sure, sure :-)
Get over it
Okay, bye Mr. Anus. Over and out!
I hate everyone, including myself. The only difference for each is my level of hatred.
No, annoyance. Who wouldn't be annoyed when after rejecting them, they would start with demeaning replies like "but you're already an adult", "boring, just have fun, try it", etc. I'm not saying all but I admit i have a tendency to use generalization subconsciously in my sentence constructions.
Okay, what if it's a guy asking you out, would you date him or even care to know his intentions for you?
No, they force their lifestyle on me. They say I'm an adult and I should have fun. If they got fed up with continuous refusal, they would start name calling and insults. I used to block them but these days, I just enjoy watching them lose their temper. Then, they start to disappear without a word. They are those who randomly message asking to be friends with me.