Lol, ty for specifying dog poop
@RunningMan86 you're welcome, nobody wants to be friends with people that smell like poop. We all agree on that.
Oh I agreed with your entire list and the reasoning the asker was too vague in the original question.
I should’ve been specific. I meant like most single guys can’t be friends with woman because they want a partner and pretending to be a friend when you want something else is being disingenuous
I have plenty of female friends, no issues
Are they single and are they unattractive?
Two are married, 4 are single, 4 are in relationships. Their attraction varies.
For the single ones would you take a chance if you were single?
No, they are good looking but are all friends of my ex. Ironically when I broke up with my girlfriend they all secretly hit on me.
Yeah that is a tricky situation. If this wasn’t the case and they weren’t friends of your ex I’m certain you would take a chance.
*single guy friend
I guarantee he doesn’t want female friends, he wants a girlfriend. He is just scared to make a move
Probably. I think the problem is, he's so good at being a friend, he got stuck there. But between he and I, we were really platonic ever since
How do you be his friend without leading him?
I think we just knew we weren't each other's type 🤣 and if it makes any difference, I had a thing with his friend while he was attracted to another classmate of ours.
Okay that is normal. She isn’t really my type but I still told her I like her
It happens when you like someone who isn't normally your type but do you actually like her?
Honestly I like her but would I date her no
Why is that?
It may be very shallow but I’m 5’6 and she is 6’0 so it would be weird. I’m looking for someone more closer to my height. That is the main reason but she has a lot of emotional issues I can’t deal with
Then why did you tell her you like her?
I honestly don’t know. It was a in the moment thing. We were talking on FaceTime and I said it but I meant it like I like you as a person you are cool and I fucks with you. Excuse my language.
Ahh. I guess that's fine. As long as you clarified it and not led her on
I told her numerous times I don’t want to date you so you can stop acting weird. She doesn’t want to date me as well so there shouldn’t be a issue. But she is still texting me but refuse to meet up.
We're in the middle of a pandemic, meeting up is not a good idea lol
I understand that and you would have a valid point if this wasn’t going on way before the pandemic
Hmm I see. Then maybe because you're simply friends then meeting up isn't on top of her priorities? I mean I don't know if that makes sense
Plus if you're pushing to meet up that might come off a bit weird
It doesn’t make sense but she has her reasons and I can’t do anything about it. I know most people actually spend time with their friends in person and the fact she doesn’t with me says a lot about what she thinks of me. There has to be a bigger issue why a person would text you but not meet up. It seems like a big waste of time. I wouldn’t say I push to meet up but I ask and if she flakes I ask again a couple of weeks later. The problem is I don’t know why and I want to.
It sounds to me like you both have issues with each other like you, you don't know why she doesn't wanna hang out. For her, I would guess she's thinking why do you keep asking to hang out when she's already declined several times. I think some people really don't see the point of keeping in touch if you couldnt meet some time but since I identify as a lazy person myself, physically meeting up requires a lot of energy from me. Maybe it's the same for her? Or maybe she's a busy person with unpredictable schedule?
I’m a Lazy and shy person but I always make time to meet up with my friends occasionally not everyday shit not every week. I understand people are busy so I give them space but when they reach out to hang out or I reach out we are there. What you described In the second paragraph sounds like excuses to me. Essentially it comes down to if you wanna do it you will do it. She clearly doesn’t want to do it. If a friend constantly flakes or declines requests to hang out I take it as they want nothing to do with me and I leave them alone permanently. If It is a person I care about I try to talk to them and see what is going on which I did but it turned into an argument with her. I believe she rubs it in like I know you want to hang out and I don’t but I will text you that I’m at this party and I’m thinking about you or I’m hanging out with my friends and I’m having a lot of fun. See what I’m saying?
Oof. I guess there's your answer... Rounds me up to my initial theory, maybe meeting up with you isn't her priority. Have you tried not texting her at all?
I think you’re right meeting up with me is something she doesn’t even take into consideration. I think she just likes that I’m always available so she can get attention anytime she wants it. I tried the not texting her thing but it didn’t matter. I just thinks she doesn’t care. She’ll just come back anytime and I answer. I think I should have permanently ignored her messages since this situation made me out to be the most needy desperate guy on earth. Like my mother said I should’ve left her Alone
It sounds to me that you consider her a special friend otherwise it wouldn't be much of an issue for you. You can always cut her off for your own good, or learn to be chill about it. Like if she hits you up cool, if she doesn't, then she doesn't. But you don't have any obligation to be at her disposal anytime.
I wouldn’t say she is a special friend. She is only person in my life I ever had to go through this with. That is why this is frustrating and an issue. Maybe I’m crazy but I don’t see the point in sitting there and answering pointless text. I don’t have to cut her off because she already cut me off after our big argument. Obligation is the key word I tried to make it seem like she owes me something when she doesn’t. I was wrong. I just regret keeping myself in a bad situation. I prayed to get out but now that I’m out I want back in. I think I’m just lonely.
I understand that does sound frustrating. Give it time? She will either come around or you will learn to get less affected. I hope you don't fixate on her alone, it's not going to do you any good
Nah this situation is done. We probably won’t talk again and i think she hates me but that is okay. Lol im a sensitive person and I take everything personal regardless of how little it is. That was my detriment in this situation. If i had the I don’t care attitude this wouldn’t bother me at all. Im talking to more girls I’m Just trying to see what went wrong so it won’t happen again. We haven’t talked in a long time
Okay humor me, what if she suddenly popped up and asked how you're doing
Knowing how gullible i am I would probably answer but I know i shouldn’t. There were times in the past we fell out and she came back but I always answered. She takes advantage of that
I hope you realize that's not a weakness?
Are you being sarcastic or you really saying it is not a weakness?
I'm not being sarcastic lmao. You're not being gullible, you're just being genuine. She's the one taking advantage and that one there is the bad trait. But of course there comes a point when you have to draw the line because some people just don't understand what they're missing
I always been a forgiving kind of person maybe too forgiving. What I discovered being liked gets you nowhere but taking advantage of. I hate I’m this way but I’m gonna change who I am to fit in. But honestly I think I killed any chance of her coming back this time. The last argument we had felt different
Is trying to fit in better than finding someone who vibes like you?
Absolutely not. The goal is to find someone who I vibe with.
Me and her never vibed honestly speaking
So it's mostly an ego thing?
Can we continue this conversation through chat before the thread is getting really long?
Oh I didn't realize that. Sure I guess
You’ll either have to allow people who don’t follow you to message you or we have to follow each other
I cannot follow you as you're anonymous lol. But I opened my inbox
No problem I will message you and you could follow me if you like
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I’m suppose to believe if given the opportunity you wouldn’t fuck?
Why is there no reason to?
You can achieve friendship with virtually any one of the 7 billion people on this planet. You choose her or them for a reason..
You can say the same thing for her as she sought me out
But she isn’t interested
Right. There was a reason... and it was not friendship.Men and women can't be friends
I know but my point is if what you is saying is true why did she seek me out if she wasn’t interested?
Maybe she thought she was interested but upon getting to know you she decided it wasn't of Interest anymore
Could be but she made it known from the start she wasn’t interested unless she lied. Let me ask you something why would a girl text you but won’t meet up?
Probably because she's in a relationship already
If that is the case should I just permanently just ignore her messages since it seems like I’m Just giving her attention? What if she isn’t in a relationship
Unless she's actually a guy, what other reason is there?
I don't know she doesn’t like you but she likes the attention.
I believe you can’t because if you are single and they are very attractive you are gonna want to fuck and that is not being a friend.
You can choose not to fuck them. If you can not control yourself then you can not be trusted with anyone no matter what your status is.
That is true. I once told a friend I like you and although I didn’t want to date her she didn’t trust me
I tell my girl friends i love them all the time and they in turn do the same. Nothing wrong with that and they each have bfs or gfs and we know where are boundaries are.
That’s how it should be but I guess the girl involved in my situation was very immature. She acted really weird. She would text me but wouldn’t meet up
Yep that is a problem. You can not have a good relationship if the other person is immature.
That is why I felt like you can’t have female friends because of what I went through. If a friend never wants to hang out like literally never is that a problem if I want to?
Maybe for you and the girls you meet. But my friends hang out all the time. Lol
Just This one girl in particular. She wanted to be friends yet didn’t want to hang out. I don’t know what she wanted
It seems like most single guys can’t have female friends because he is single so he will be looking for a mate
Well I know it is false. I had female friends when I was single and didn't desire sex with them.
Yea I don’t believe that. If they said let’s fuck I’m certain you would be down unless they are physically unattractive.
You didn't specify they had to be attractive. You said why can't a single man have a female best friend and not an attractive female best friend.
I didn’t say why can’t a single guy have a best female friend, I said why can’t they have female friends in general. I don’t think guys want to be just friends regardless because what is the point?
Why have female friends in the first place?
We only have female friends to have something to look at and have fantasies about until we can take a shot.
Exactly I don’t know why females don’t understand guys don’t want to be friends. Why would I want to be a text buddy and sit there and listen to you complain about other guys and not get nothing in return?
Women will always believe in the bullshit fantasy they watch in crappy chick flicks
Usually when a guy is single he wants a girlfriend so anything the female does that indicates a little interest he will try something
How so? Eventually they will fall for the friend unless she is unattractive