Frustration is right. Major frustration. I try hating her but it doesn't work. I try focusing on her "flaws" but it just makes me think she's cute. I would cut her out of my life completely but it's not an option. I have a girlfriend and am crushing on a female friend. Have been for a long time now. Don't know what to do.
There are all sorts of permutation to these types of things, which greatly affect how they could be handled.Attraction by both parties is very different than by one party. And then there's - do they both know, or has one or both people never declared their feelings.If both people know, that one's the most fun. You can sort of play with it, have a bit of fun, but know that it won't go beyond a certain point.If one person only feels that way, and they're pretty sure the other person wouldn't reciprocate, that one can be slow torture.So there's no chance you and your girlfriend will break up, and you could get with this girl instead?Maybe the connection between the two of them is also a sticking point for you. You wouldn't be able to cross that barrier? They'd both hate you, or one would, I presume.Is she attractive? And if she is, would you still want to be with her if she wasn't?What does this girl have that your current girlfriend doesn't? And, what does your girlfriend have that this girl doesn't? Remind yourself of that.Do you know what type of guys she's attracted to? If you find out, in detail, and it doesn't match at all who you are, there you have your answer and it would make a relationship between you even more unlikely.
Try talking to her about something that's troubling you, go to her for some emotional support or practical help, and if she's not good with that, doesn't that it seriously, then she wouldn't make a great girlfriend anyway. (But if she's great... uh oh.)Here's a stupid, only semi-serious piece of advice - start a conflict with her, and see how she handles it. Be a brat, yourself, or argue on some tense wedge issue, and if she handles herself or it poorly, well it might make you see another side of her and not crave her so much. Because you know, psychologists say the biggest factor in whether a relationship will survive is how the two particular people handle conflict. It's crucial that they can resolve them when they invariably happen.And I would suggest try to not masturbate thinking about her. Those feelings will probably just be reinforced unless you get to act it out.
Crush is younger, slimmer, fitter, nicer and funnier. By the way. I don't know if she would reciprocate in normal circumstances but in these she definitely wouldn't... even she did feel something back. Just got to live with the slow torture you mentioned. Need a way out. Can't break up with girlfriend. I like her a lot. And financially can't survive with my current standard of living without her. Plus it would be crazy to split up during lockdown
Yep, you're in a mess there.Do you see her often? No 'out of sight, out of mind'?
Every few months or so. Spending about a week hanging out with both my girlfriend and crush. Currently all in the same room right now. It's a mess. No out of sight at all unless I break up with girlfriend.
Do they know you have an account on GAG? Guard it carefully.But maybe you can chuckle to yourself, while they're next to you, and then say, casually, "Hey, check this out - this girl posted a question asking about how she wants to do a FFM threesome." And then see what they say.Here's some sample qs you can refer to:www.girlsaskguys.com/search
If the other person is saying no when your intentions and interests are clear... there is an option. Move on. It's painful being near someone when you know who it can never happen.
yeah but your question was " can man and woman be friends?"I can move on and find some other girl I like , doesn't mean I will have to break friendship with her just because she said no
I can be friends with her and date someone else if she isn't interested
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Exactly. Women are naive about men's intentions.
I have never had female "friends". Just a girlfriend and now a potential female friend...(who I am now crushing on). I can't not want a woman if I like her as a friend and find her attractive physically
I think that is more typical than my situation.