Nope... if you don't have enough confidence with that person calling her can be very intrusive. First text, then voice messages, then calls
Oh, and if she declines without offering an alternate time or place, she's just not interested. If she IS interested, but can't make it, she'll suggest an alternate. Guys are not very good at reading between the lines - girls are masters at it.
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wouldn't "hanging out" constitute dating?
No, it does not. You hang out with friends, do you not? Are you trying to date all of your friends? You can hang out with people platonically, and it gives you a sense of who they are instead of just how they look.
that only works if you are already friends with them. once you're out in the real world and you work full time and you only have limited places to socialize instead of a college campus "hanging out" with a new girl is dating, you can call it something different but its still dating
Awful weird. Im in the real world, work 40+ hours a week, take care of a child and a house plus 50+ animals daily and still " hangout" with people that im not interested in dating. Odd how that works. Point being, hanging out is not automatically linked to dating that person. If you want to date somebody you need to have a "introduction period". Getting to know each other, learn about goals and ambitions. there's a chance you two aren't even compatible personality wise. You asked my advice, you got it. Its not my fault you don't like my answer 🤷🏼♀️
but if you're hanging out with them to see if you want to date them... that's dating
Thats still hanging out. Thats establishing a type of friendship and getting to know the person before you determine that you want to take it farther.
its a date
Its not. Unless you literally ask her if she wants to go on a date with you. If you ask her to hang out with you, y'all are not on a date nor are you dating.
that's just a semantic difference
Thats legit the key difference my dude. You are not dating unless it is consented by both parties. Point blank period thats it. You don't invite a girl over for dinner with you then go and assume y'all are an item and tell people you're together or seeing each other, because you aren't UNLESS you BOTH have established that that is the case.
none of that has to do with the fact that hanging out to see if you are interested is a date
It isn't, its getting to know someone with potential dude. 🤦🏼♀️ You go on thinking that hanging out with someone you may like is a date, hopefully that works out for ya. ✌🏻
its exactly the same as a date. you sound like you have commitment issues and can't admit when you've gone on a date with someone
😂😂😂 oh man, you sure called me out 🙄. I dont have commitment issues, I have an issue with people feeling entitled and labeling things just because that's what they THINK it is. 🤷🏼♀️
its not the labels we are arguing about, its the fact that regardless of which label you put on it its the same thing
Its not anything but visiting another person until a mutual decision is made about where you both stand 🤷🏼♀️
... that's dating
Bro. Visiting someone is not dat I ng regardless of YOUR intentions. You BOTH have to have the intentions of a relationship for it to be dating
but if you have agreed to hang out for the purpose of exploring a relationship... that's a datewhich was the original context of the conversation
If its MUTUAL. If she is not interested in hanging out to further a possible relationship then it isn't a date. Thats what we are establishing. It isn't a date if you message her asking to hang out and she says yes, cuz neither of you have voiced that your intentions of hanging out are to further a relationship.
For the update. Just be up front and say something like "hey, wanna hang out? I was thinking of going to (whatever her fave restaurant is)." Its simple, honest, and if she's not interested you'll know right then instead of worrying about it. Hope it works out. 😁
*or at least I doubt so.
You need to start the conversation by making sure she knows who you are.
Yeah I wasn't gonna ask her right away but what should I say to her at first
Send a Follow requeat on InstaIf she accepts, check out her profileMaybe like photos and commentDon't go too overboard, it mightSend her a message and maybe thank her for accepting. wich will get it rolling
What should I say to her?
She’ll respond unless she’s not interested in you.