I was madly in love with a blonde years ago that I was in a relationship with long term. She had an emotional affair, and left me for this guy in a band. I was so heartbroken that for years every blonde reminded me of her. I was in denial that I really preferred brunettes anyway. But, since then I rarely feel attracted to blondes unless something about their personality really outweighs the lack of attraction. I feel bad that it’s hard for me to feel attracted to blondes because of her. But, I don’t think my attraction preferences will change much even though I forgave her to move on.