What online dating websites or apps have ever actually worked for you?

[AmandaYVR]

I’m married, never used any, myself. Have had a couple of girlfriends who used them and through helping and talking with them, I am very familiar with how they work.
But finding compatible people is not easy these days. You’d think it would be much, much easier, with all this technology, but in some ways it could be making it harder. Few people will commit to someone. They always think people aren’t good enough. This is probably more a function of cultural attitudes and the seeming abundance of choice out there.
But actually, your generations out there now have typically more choices, not fewer (it’s no longer limited to just who is in your immediate area, your community), and because people don’t marry as much out of family obligation, there’s fewer unplanned pregnancies (because of easily accessible birth control now), and a bunch of other reasons, people just think it’s a matter of bad luck, and not being able to find good quality options.
Maybe those are both true. But statistically speaking, it’s more like attitudes, mindsets, an inability to compromise on one’s ‘standards’ of another, and a sense of entitlement (“I deserve the best. I shouldn’t have to settle.”) So whether it’s the first person, or the second person, or both doing this, they don’t appreciate each other, don’t treat each other with the respect and courtesy that they should. And people either hop from one app to another, looking and looking for more options, or have bad experiences from the ones they did find and get hurt, fed up, and choose to opt out altogether.
I doubt you are one of the ones who is unwilling to compromise. And I always imagine that you would appreciate someone, flaws and all. But many people nowadays don’t. Or, they’ve been so hurt once (or more times) because of these prevailing cultural attitudes, that they decide the opposite sex is only good for temporary thrills, ‘hookups.’ Use each other to get off, for sex, and no one gets hurts. So they think.
But with all this time not really finding anyone, not committing, and spending it online, on social media, playing live video games, youtubing, etc etc it feels easier, quicker, and less depressing to just fill in with what is really lacking - really intimacy, real connection.
It’s a superficial culture right now, Green. You are all on dating apps, but you’re being quantified, assigned point values for how you measure up - age, height, body, salary, and everything about how you look. Most people don’t even make it past the first swipe. Well, actually guys are swiping yes on just about everybody, just to try and get one match. But Tinder is not a relationship finder. There are lots of other sites/apps, some of which do ask a ton of questions, so many that they are trying to match you based on key characteristics, important stuff, not the shallow. But they can’t make any girl reach out, or reply. The guys send out hundreds of “hey”s, and the girls just don’t care, cause they get so many. They pick and choose only the best of the best that tweaks their eye.
The game is rigged, Green. I’m sorry about that. Most guys don’t get a lot of matches, or replies. It’s not just you. The problem is bigger than you even know.

[meetkitty123]

Dating apps only work as a practice zone getting out there and practicing speaking with people.

Real women wants romance sure some younger ones might pretend they don't but thats because for some darn reason it's marked as the uncool thing lately or for some reason guys see it as acting as a nice guy well loose flash the women worth keeping do want the nice guys Listening women love when men listen and we love when men share their feelings especially when we ask them to.

Can't specify the importance of reading up on romance and a woman's needs and wants

The book
"five languages"
is an awesome a must read when coming to understanding how people love or perceive love

the book
"his needs hers needs"

if you really want to understand the opposite sex this is a must read book and get highlighters and take notes

If you just want to boost your confidence I suggest you read

"how to make friends and influence people in the digital age"

there's two versions of this book the original written around the depression and then it was modernized for today's people.

If you really want to get What Women want just go to Kindle Amazon and find some free romance books. this is a perfect way to figure out what's in a woman's head it's written by women for women.

The whole chivery is dead shouldn't be

Open doors pull out chairs compliments that rose on the first date all important.

[SissyFrenchMaid]

There are so many of them with so many fors and againsts. Some say they are free but are not, some are free for girls so many girls who join dont take it seriously enough.
Some are riddled with bots and scammerd, Some are expensive with no garauntees
I've wasted too much time on them without success, happily not so much money.
You have more chance of success going out to events, clubs and bars or joining groups with similar interests. Put yourself out there in the real world

[t-8900]

Well I've been offered sex a few times on OKcupid but since I dont sleep around like that I never capitalized. I have issues with random hook up culture. Lots of people carrying AIDS and the clap. I would rate the OKcupid as a success in that regard. As far as serious relationship? Not-a-one! POF being the bottom of the bottom too by the way.

[1Sophisticatedme]

its not easy to get dates, or in the websites, and Apps. But to get a date, you have to work for it if you realy want it badly.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

N/A for me because I don't use dating sites. But good luck 🤞💜🙂

[Anonymous]

Well on my experience on dating app. Being honest didn't work. These type of sites made people create the idea that relationships are so superficial as a swipe and that you can choose someone with a limit filter like: appereance/age. In some cases people can check personal information but isn't common.
I had more opportunities trying in apps that made people interact with others in a friendly way. It can take time, but is better and more honest.
And about your question, all of us (humans) deserve love and respect. But this have to start with ourselves first. I think when you feel encouraged and feel better with yourself you gonna find love. My best wishes to you.

[menina]

I'm sorry to hear that your experience with dating websites/apps hasn't been good. Maybe you should try to meet someone in person. I mean, not now of course but when things get better. Maybe you'll find someone who is really going to like you.
Of course you deserve to be loved. You're so nice! :) I've never tried to use them so I'm not the best person to advise you. But I'm sure there are people on GAG who can help you with that. :) Good luck! :)

[himynameisNicole]

I know a lot of men like bumble because women have to make the first move and there is not a ton of room for insecurity over rejection, and as a woman I prefer bumble because it gives me control, an advantage in a way. You have to know your strengths as a person when it comes to dating online or through dating apps, like I don’t count heavily on meeting people through dating apps just because I prefer meeting people in person. Long story short I have had success... (actually dated someone for a year & am still best friends with him to this day and we met through a dating app).

[Vero4567]

I feel you. I haven't really had any luck on dating apps well, which made me believe that it's not meant for me.

Now, i won't be surprised a lot people would say "it's easy for a women to find a match, you just have high standards". Well, that's not true at all. Its rather tough especially when you are looking for something serious. Most of the guys I have been matched with, were into hooking up. For me, that's a big a NO. And I can't blame them as well because that's the nature of most of the dating apps. (Generally), people on dating apps are have a mindset of "I'm here for a good time not a long time". I have nothing against them though. I understand people are entitled to their preferences. So, overall it was an experience which made me realise that dating apps are not meant for people like me. Also, it depends on your luck, if you are lucky you would come across the rare gems.

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

I never really used them that much. There was one time years ago i actually tried out a dating site that was for metalheads (yeah thats real lol) and i met a nice guy but we ended up being friends for a little while then lost contact, that was it.

A problem with online dating for anybody is that its easy for the other person to pretend to be who they are not because they are hidden at a computer/phone

[MelindaT510]

I'll tell you this. I've had "success" with a few different sites/apps. I used craigslist, facebook, and MySpace years ago. I've used adultfriendfinder, insta, fetlife, fabswingers, and tinder in some more recent years and had "success" with all those. If by success we mean we got what we were looking for.
But my husband I met through friends. And I have to believe that becomming a friend first boyfriend second has a lot to do with why we are married.

[1828avaava1828]

Hugs lad
keep at it. I’d say meet people in person. Find people who like similar things. I know these times make that extra hard.

dating apps can be so discouraging to 90 percent of people who try them. I’m not a fan

[offendedsorbet]

Met my boyfriend of 5 years on ok cupid.

I think it really just depends on the individual person. Obviously a lot of people simply use apps like that for hookups. Takes time and patience to find someone you connect with.

[purplepoppy]

Judging by your profile on her the problem is you don't take a good photo and that sign behind you saying "caution" really doesn't help. Consider getting a professional photographer as phones distort faces badly.
I've had dates off muckyboots but in reality you have to wade through a pile of shit to find a match.

[HOAAH]

i have tried Craigslist but that didn't work out. Then i found my current husband on Facebook. Don't give up. Just keep trying. I know it can be very frustrating.

[scott04sa22]

None of the dating sites worked for me. Too much headaches and let downs. It's best for people your trust let them introduce you to people then maybe you might get yourself a girlfriend.

[Godofmyownwurld]

I used Kik. Always ask for specific photos to prove they're real because there's lots of creeps.

[Anpu23]

I had success when I was playing the field. The site I used is no longer active though (bondage. com)

[SexyAshh]

I dont online date, i meet in person. But i have gotten bored and taken up some of 100s of tinder matches. And it was fun and worked with all, i just didn't want anything further then sex. So it worked out

[jcnum10]

I never tried any.

I think just be yourself and it should work out when it does and ya find the right person.

[swanask]

2bfs from Tinder, (over time)
Great friends (eventually) from Hinge

[Warmapplecrumble]

I found my husband on meetup.

And you are worth someone, you will find them. ❤️

[Flower7]

OKCupid is good at finding people who are a good match for your personality. It asks you a lot of questions and then lets you know which users you would get along with.