Great answer and exactly! Agree 💯 Good luck with everything 🙏🤞💙♥️
Great answer 👍 as always 💜 and very true! And just so you know, I'm always secretly (🤫) hoping it happens for you cuz you seem like such an amazing person!
Aww, thank you!If I ever find a guy, I'm hosting a virtual party to celebrate- you're invited! 🤣
I'm there! 😂
Must if been fated,💜💙😊
Thanks for the MHO Toots! I don't thin AI Bot is going to give me the SO for this one though lol... but that's ok :)
Well you better get busy then.. Get on that bot😂😂
I've been trying... but AI Bot has a new sign on its motel room... sort of like the placards you see on bathroom doors... AIB's is a little different lol... it's expecting a minimum of 6 guys... :)
But the important thing is, you did find her! 💜😊
She IS pretty cool. It's amazing that we were at a similar point in our personal evolutions when we met. We just clicked. Even though are personalities and life experiences are very different, we have similar goals and values. But since being together, I've learned soooo much because of her. We've both continued to evolve along similar paths.
That's awesome 💜👍😊
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I truly hope you find someone You deserve to share all that older and wiser with someone 💙🙂 And she'll be lucky to have you 💙🙂
Thank you, ma'am!
Yeah that wasn't very good luck there
Reading that back it makes me sound like some kind of player, I was an awkward university student suddenly thrown into a situation with lots of other university students and I was as awkward (if not more so) than all the other 1000+ students thrown into a strange town, so the reality is that whilst they were interesting days, I'm fundamentally a boring guy lol
You could hardly be labeled boring 🙂 you have good sense of humor and that's never boring Lolo
Well, maybe you will. You never know... Sometimes you find love when you're not even looking, expecting it
No interesting women these days... besides this love is a stupid 4 letter word that don’t exist...
@VanillaSalt that's so not true... People just don't get what love is, means... Too busy looking for that fake fairytale love
Problem is that it is hard to find people with widespread interests and a matching personality. Even before I had my job's workload. Now I just don't have the time anymore to keep looking.
Lol conny I understand that I’m working 12 hour shifts 5 days a week thanks to covid... before it was 6-7 days a week... and their a gy shifts... Brains why don’t you tell me what love is cause as far as I’m concerned love is a parent to a child... a parent is willing to die for that child even though the child is not only not a benefit but a hindrance in many cases... I don’t believe in any other form of love... I believe two people come together with enough similarities to gravitate to one another and enough differences to bring different points of view to the table while being able to look past differences for the long term. That is what I think a relationship it...
@VanillaSalt when you hurt when they do, when you do the little things to make them feel better without them asking. .. when you'll do anything to brighten their day, make them smile.. just because YOU haven't experienced that, don't make it less real.
Yep and your 51 years old with no wife or kids. For the guys that want these sit and wait is equivalent to fuck it all lol
@VanillaSalt why don't you just stop already.. And why you trying to insult someone for their age? What do YOU have?
Jack I'm with you and understand.
@Brainsbeforebeauty Thank you, I would have said something stupid, and got into an irrational debate for no good reason!! :) :) Today, I started reading this book, by Jon Taffer, the "Bar Rescue" guy, on Paramount channel, and it is called "Don't 'Bullshit' yourself!" and only a couple chapters in, but I have already realized some good things, and YES, things you have told me before, and YOU WERE RIGHT!! :) :) Thanks for just being you, and being really understanding, and just all an all-around, GREAT PERSON!! 3> 3>
Oh that’s not me insulting. I was stating he is 51 and hasn’t found the one yet. He’s too old to have kids so I hope it’s not a priority because he missed out...
@VanillaSalt I will only say, that you don't know me, and don't know what matters to me, and you are a fool, judging me by the typical things, that Karens do, and other, sell-outs, just trying to fit in, and not be who they REALLY ARE!! I am feeling sad, for soooo many, that just 'do what is expected' and never really figure out what they really want, like, and need!!Sorry to say, but you are the "JOKE" and just doing what everyone expects, then hating it, and then hating ones like me, that are free to choose, and live what WE CHOOSE!!
Ok so normally this is where I blow up and call you a fuckwit... instead I’m going to reword my comment then I want to to go back to my first comment and see if maybe you take it better...Now your a data point... if men did what you did and waited they would be 51 years old and alone... and regardless what you want if THEY want kids then that’s the equivalent of says fuck it I’ll never have a family... Instead of going off on me like the fuckwit you, are try and believe that not everything someone says in contrast is meant as an insult to you or your beliefs...
@VanillaSalt I guess I could have some respect, if you could write properly, and understand the correct usage of words. I have no respect, or care, for ignorant ones that cannot differentiate between the proper usage of 'your' like something that is mine, and "you're' like YOU ARE!I AM LAUGHING, at your idea of "DATA" when you aren't even capable of writing PROPER English!!PISS OFF!! You are a JOKE TO ME, at best!!Come back, in 10 years, when you grow up, and learn to read and write! Then, maybe we can chat!! Punk!
Thank you 💙🙂
For me, neither of us pursued the other, friendship became love...
That might be the best way to find it
Has been in my experience anyway
Sometimes that's when it happens. When you're not looking for it least expect it.. And for me personally that's what feels more real to me
Great answer and so agree. And it turns out better, lasts longer when it just happens verses trying to force it
Ab-solutely like a six pack with yes tattooed across them. 😂
😂😂I wouldn't know I have a 8 pack or 12 pack 🤔😂😂😂
Well hope you find that someone
Yeah anyone that's trying to make you be something you're not, that's not real love
Actually that question stemmed from convo in this one lolol
Sounds about right me answering questions in wrong order lol.
Exactly!! The best love is the love that finds you, it's more real and natural that way and those are the ones that last! I'm happy you found the one for you! Thank you so much for sharing that! 💙👍😊
You and your money... 🙄 Lololol
Is that what the lady said when our hands collapsed?
When our hands collided *
Hahahaha you KNOW what I meant.. Broken record 🤷🏼♀️
Nein. I don't understand you.But if you don't want me to understand, that's fine by me. I'll pretend i didn't see this.
I mean we've had this convo so many times I feel stuck on repeat play lolol you think money is the answer to everything, and I don't 🤷🏼♀️
Ok then Ms. Triple B. I'll let my romantic fantasies play out in my head. Not gonna spoil the fun for you 😉
As if you could 🤪😂
Oh, i can even reserve the front seat for ya, special friendship privilege 😊😉
Aww gee I feel so honored 🤩😁
Let me know if you want a piece of it or two. You already know the interlude of my romantic and fabricated story 😉
I would agree with you 😊
... and give* “pursuit”. That should have read.
Lol you're good.. Me or my phone messes up all the time lol so I got what you meant
I think that’s not the same thing. See men are supposed to pursuit women. Women don’t have to look because men go looking for them lol.
@VanillaSalt really? Then why are women on dating sites? 🤔
Believe me, women are largely “hunting” just as men. They just go about it differently so as to ‘entice’ what they are after. Women definitely do pursue their interest. Some are even quite forward about it.Equally, women will definitely give overt hints when a man not of their interest tries to pursue them. If I was wrong, the poster would have disagreed and written her dissenting opinion rather than writing she agrees with me. Observe I even go as far as point out that certain women go about it differently so my comment is not even framed to be all encompassing of women like your assertion. Some women may in deed sit around waiting for a man to approach them with zero effort on their part some women will make their own advances. Some women will drop hints - which is where largely most women fall... and even in reading the many post on GaG alone women largely do admit to this activity. That is still pursuit. They are just more passive in this context. Some women wish to be completely left alone and not bothered at all. If women never pursued at all lesbian relationships and encounters would never occur in the first place. This certainly is not the case.
👏👏👏👏 THANK YOU!!! Once again great points!!!
Neither me or my hubby pursued one another. It just naturally transgressed from friendship to more
But your story won't apply to a lot of other people because it presumes that one is already friends with members of the opposing sex that they find attractive (which requires some level of pursuit to begin with) and that they spend enough time around them in order for things to "naturally" progress, which certainly isn't true for me. And even though it appears like it progressed on its own, someone had to get the ball rolling.
Women can be stupid 🤷🏼♀️I think a single dad who is a good dad and lives good children as much as you do should be a great catch
*loves his children
That's the best way in my opinion
Some still do, but I think less and less people than more people
oof dont give up!
No I get what you're saying
That's what I believe and what's usually happened for me
Can go that's true it takes someone reaching across that Gap are pursuing in order to get from friendship to a relationship
You would think at some point that I would watch those first words... I don't know why but it seems like it changes my first few words
Exactly, that's what I believe as well
I personally feel the real life is the love that happens when you least expect it
Because it’s by no means forced
Sorry I meant layed not payed dumb auto correct 🙄
Yeah auto correct gets me all the time 🙄😅Hence the penis butter instead of peanut butter incident I had 😂 but great love story, and exactly what I mean sometimes the best kind is the love that just happens.. Those are usually the ones that last!
I agree 💯
That's bull. That's wasn't about men it women just you but ok thanks for sharing
Would you elaborate? If you think it's bull then I respect your difference of opinion, but I'd like to understand the reasoning on where our views differ
Men are not always just the ones to pursue.. Maybe blind approach out in public. But women on dating sites, is that not women pursuing as well,? And I disagree where you said if men don't pursue, the go hungry. My husband and I were friends that just naturally developed into more.. It wasn't either of us pursuing the other We just knew each other since I was 14 and him 20. After my divorce from my first husband, we hung out a lot and it just naturally developed into a 20 year relationship till he passed almost 7 years ago. The whole point is people try to force it sometimes and that doesn't always work or end well
Ahh okay i get you, I probably phrased it as too much of a black and white thing. I do still think the onus tends to fall more on the guy in those initial stages of courting. But if things develop naturally as more of a "friends first" situation then I imagine it's probably more of a mutual input from the guy and the girl
Exactly 👍 and those are the best Relationships in my opinion and from my personal experience anyways
Fair play 🙃.. My own experience with dating/relationships has been the opposite. "friends first" never got me anywhere good, and all my best experiences and relationships came as a direct result of me assuming 100% of the burden of approaching/courting/setting dates/etc. But it's cool to hear that other people like yourself have had good results from a different approach. 😀
That said, I'm not saying guys should never just be friends with girls. I have some very close female friends who I wouldn't want to change for the world. I just try to keep "friends" and "romantic interests" in different boxes, so there's no room for confusion or mixed messages or awkward faux pas where Person A thinks the friendship means one thing, and Person B thinks it means something different.
Good analogy 👍🤣
Thanks. I don't horse around with horses😗
That works 👍👍🙂
Prefer it not order out... Stupid auto correct
Yeah Hear you in the autocorrect lol but I think naturally is better
Hope you find 🤞🤞
Thank you ☺
Well it worked once, it could work again
That's good 👍I personally think that's the best way
Yeah I personally feel that's the best way
3/4 for me it is
Exactly! Nice answer 👍🙂
Hope it works out 👍🙏
Harder for it to happen naturally when Corona keeping people more home bound but doesn't mean it still won't some day
LOL True... Hard to have much of a social life right now!
Right! Not that I had much of one before but that was by choice.. Different when the choice taken away from you
That's good! That's how I've always been myself
I was always the love found me when not looking. Neither me not my hubby was "looking"..
That's a totally valid point of view, luck is a factor in relationships too
Good relationships aren't luck, they're work like anything else
You didn't understand what I was saying. Luck can be a factor in you finding the right person not in making a relationship work
Oh okay my bad. Would you take blonde moment as an excuse 😂
But it's it luck 🤔 or fate 🤔
Hey that's a good question might be next question 🤔
It's all good :), excuse accepted 😅. Yh good question indeed
Thanks just posted question inspired by this thread. Luck or fate?
I agree. I think the more people try to force it, well those are the relationships that usually don't last
U said it in an even better way😘😘
Aw thanks 💙🤗
Right!! Nice answer and nice song 👍👍🙂
I believe that love only comes along when you are not trying to find it.So I try really hard to try not to find it.
Not weird at all, that's how I met both my ex husband and my second husband. Knew them both as friends first
Exactly.. If it's really meant to be, it will
Just because it hasn't, doesn't mean it won't
Ah okay 👍😊
Took my answer right out of my mouth lolol same here
I hope you do 🙏🤞
@Brainsbeforebeauty Thank you :)
Hopefully you don't mean the bars 😂
I don't. Places where people share your same interest, are healthy and positive.
Oh then that's awesome 👍🙂
No prob 😊
You're still young, it will!
Well good luck 🙏👍
That's usually the best way in my opinion
This was for you to answer for yourself not for a gender.. And women don't pursue love 🤔 then why do women use dating sites if they're not looking, pursuing 🤔 yeah, exactly!!
for hook ups? lol Women on those sites are looking for flings mostly.
@t-8900 women are? And men aren't?
Love has never come to me. So if I want it, I must pursue at least in the sense of putting myself out there. Merely existing does nothing for me. I'm definitely biased on this one, but I also see among my peers and not only the way it goes, and it usually involves the guy actively doing something for love to arise "naturally". Not that the love in forced, but that the opportunity for it develop is purposely created.
@Brainsbeforebeauty actually I would say that based on the Tinder data 80% of the guys were looking for long term relationships and 20% of the guys were looking to get laid. However the 20% that were looking to get laid got all the female attention. You can look that report up by the way I'm not just pulling that out of my ass. But my Xp level here isn't high enough to post links.
@t-8900 how many people are honest about that tho 🤔 true story not statistics:My younger sister's college friend was on a dating site and another of their college friend's husband answered her ad not knowing who she was... You think he told her he WAS MARRIED? 🤔 Answer: NO he was portraying himself to be single looking for a LTR🤷🏼♀️
Daaamn he got fucked. Rightfully so.
Right lol but proves it's men and women I get men experience it from the make angle, but men need to stop acting like only women do this only women do that... When it's fucked up PEOPLE period that do that kinda shit... Hell I admit some women can be a fucked up mess, more men need to admit men can be too, instead of blaming EVERYTHING on females 🤷🏼♀️
That comment is not for me
Sorry to hear that.. Sometimes love happens when you least expect it
I've waited 20+ years and honestly with this pandemic keeping me inside feel like it will never happen if only girls approached me then I'd know she's genuine.
👍I think real love is something that happens when you least expect it.. You just have to be open to receiving it
Personally I'm in two minds, some of it is that, but I think my actions have to be more calculated. It's more about having control, I need that more.
Don't mean it still couldn't happen