Thanks for the MHO.
Your welcome! Sadly he ghosted me after I told him what I like/dislike as he asked for it. I asked if everything was okay two days after and he unmatched me on our app instead. But thank you for your positive insights and honesty :) unfortunately I guess not all guys think like you and he might have been turned off by me.. or didn’t wanna waste his time talking to me since he may not meet it. But I don’t wanna settle for less than a good quality man.
Hmm. Sorry to hear that. What was on your list? Would you mind sharing it with me?
Thank you 😘
You are welcome
by the way don’t share the list with the guy, he may be tempted to fake certainly aspects of his personality to match what you want. Instead keep it to yourself and use it as a sanity check once you start to have feelings for him.
Oops the guy asked me my likes/dislikes. I gave him all my truth as I’m honest 😭😂 if a guy asked me next time, what should I say?
You can give him a few general likes but really you will need to talk to him and meet irl and date to get to see if you connect anyway. You can still be honest and give up information in bits and pieces. As you build trust you share a little more.
Oh man I gave him everything... haha
lol luckily there are no 100% rules in dating because think about it. Each of us are individuals and rules don’t apply to all of us. When two people meet its like trying to put together duel 10,000 piece puzzles simultaneously. Lol plus if the guy finds you attracted he’s likely wanting to have sex with you anyway ;)
You is right. I am an attractive woman. He did initially told me he’s kinky but his ex was conservative tho 😂 I don't know if that’s his hint that he was sexually attractive to me or wanna have the same compatibility in that area. Or I don’t know if all guys just randomly bring up sexual stuff if they aren’t sexually attracted to a girl. We haven’t talked anything sexual besides that though. I am looking for a relationship, not a casual one night stand if we go on a date.
Glad you know you are attractive, that confidence is key. Most guys are sexual and initially will think sexually about a new person. However we’ve been trained to only plant the seed of sexuality and restrain ourselves until we get to know someone more before fully releasing that sexual energy. So as you said you will find out once you go on a date or two.
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I know I’m a catch tbh lol. My long detail list was just about good qualities of a good partnership and good person that’s all due to bad experiences.
Okie I see that’s how you feel
My problem is I’m not picky enough in dating, but I wanna be more picky due to bad experiences lol. But isn’t my dislike list reasonable? I was gonna have it shorter with the more imprinting ones... but I was just honest. What I dislike: - pretentious or lies - don't want to properly communicate and compromise- anger problems - isn't kind nor respectful person - low hygiene - no passion or goals - drug use or smokes cig - low effort - not sexually adventurous lolz - doesn't keep their words- unfaithful - self-center and not considerate - close minded and not willingly to listen/be understanding - doesn't know how to have fun or laugh LOLLLL cuz life is better with smiles and a little laughter
Just keep the real important do not wants
So as an older man, my dislike list was too much and probably turned him off? 😭
That all are good things to have on your list.
No I did not see the list tel now
Sorry I’m confuse?
The sexually adventure one is one young people have but not older people. But remember as you fall in love and start doing the act that will come
He told me he’s a sexual guy and his ex was too conservative lol. I don’t think that will be bad for him right? I just wonder what was it that made him stopped replying...
I did not see your list when I replied (just keep the import ones)
So he told you "I'm into sex and that's it" when he told you that. I know lots of guys like that and love is not their thing only lust and sex. (You don't want a guy that is like that. He follows his penis not his heart)
Uh no his exact wordings were.. “Im newly getting back into dating and meeting people. I Don't wanna rush into a relationship. But if it happens it happens but im looking for someone to go have fun and see how things go or meeting new friends.”
Aka no committed? Haha
You right you right 🥺😩😭
Sighs I guess I messed up 😞
I noticed you talked at length about this with other people so I confess I haven’t thought about this as much as you have. Maybe you can have a tiered list where some things are really important and the rest are just stuff you’d like to have. And if you want a list just go ahead and do it I’m sure you’re still an attractive lady to men either way.
I’ll take your advice for the future as I’m realizing after this post I should have done that instead. Thank you 🥺 sighs I mean I am pretty, but compatibility is a biggie with dating. He never reply to me after I msged him my likes/dislikes. I’m afraid I scared him away because he might have felt overwhelmed or turned off... he usually don’t leave me hanging like this. So it just feels like a bad sign 😔
Yeah I hate texting sometimes cause I obsess over what they’re reaction is. Maybe he is just overwhelmed and collecting his thoughts. Maybe shoot him another text asking what’s up? Well anyway he probably still likes you I mean I find you likable person just through this website so others probably as well. Maybe no big deal hope it gets clearer.
He actually isn’t very wordy on texts.. so I don’t think he’s a big texted either lol. But he normally replies to me in secondsssss or less than an hour haha. Not tonight though 🥺🥺🥺 I don’t know, if a guy opted out.. I don’t wanna chase him... I want someone who wanna stay, not leave. So if he don’t text me tomorrow, I’ll just move on. Thank you for your kind words and advice though. Oh, how do you find me likable?
Just kinda really girly way of speaking I don’t know I’m tired and going to bed
Lol omg you can tell? 🙊🙈
😅😂 nuh cuz that’s a stereotype of what women is asking for in what she finds attractive. The list I gave was GOOD QUALITIES of what makes a good partner and good person basically. Ex: respectful, open communication, prioritize me, shared interests and passion with me vice versa, etc
Your expectations are reasonable and good.
I know it is but it was just “long list” of what I find attractive so sighs 😞😞😞 I feel like it scared and overwhelmed the fella... sighs
You can have long list, it just can't be unreasonable. Ex: I prefer women with big butts and breasts, but if she has medium size breasts then I will settle for that, but I won't settle for tiny breasts nor flat or small butt.
Oh lmao that’s yeah a list of physical attributes. Mines was about quality about a good person. The only subtle physical I have mentioned was groom himself LOOOOOL!!! Like the guy is good looking so I ain’t even worry lmao. But I just want a good partner...😭 and so I wrote a bunch of what I found attractive... but he never responded
I didn’t say he will have to meet all of it as obviously no one is perfect, but it’s a list of what I find attractive and looking for in a potential. It’s better to know what you like than not, so it’s not stupid.
Ah... damn 🙁 I’m not but this sucks
I’m not saying I’m very picky, but does it come off as I’m too picky just because I give a list of what I know I find attractive and looking for in a potential?
We all have things we find attractive and unattractive, though not necessarily in a list.
So if a girl wrote a lot in what she finds attractive, like, or looking for in a potential will turn you off then?
But why would she write that though? If a woman just gives me a list of things to see if I am that or not, I'd be turned off. I'd rather her just tell me than write it down.Is she writing down for no reason?
No he asked me what are my likes and dislikes... I said it was going to be long on text with a laughing emoji... I offer phone call but he said text was okay cuz it was loud where he was at apparently. So I wrote full texts as I told him I would 😭😂😅
Well in that case no because I asked lol
Yikes he hasn’t reply after I told him my likes/dislikes... maybe he realized he can’t be the guy for me?
That might be a reason or maybe he is occupied
Well it has been almost 5 hours as it is getting really late... he usually replies ASAP... I guess I scared him away 😭
It's possible, but I mean if he isn't what you want, he isn't what you want.
what was your list?
Ahem I will share my dislike one since my like list is long lol.What I dislike: - pretentious or lies - don't want to properly communicate and compromise- anger problems - isn't kind nor respectful person - low hygiene - no passion or goals - drug use or smokes cig - low effort - not sexually adventurous lolz - doesn't keep their words- unfaithful - self-center and not considerate - close minded and not willingly to listen/be understanding - doesn't know how to have fun or laugh LOLLLL cuz life is better with smiles and a little laughter
Not so bad. Very reasonable.
That’s what I thought so too... 😭😭😭 even my like list sounds good... but it’s just long because I just generally find different things attractive... 😭😭😭 but he hasn’t reply... so I feel like he took it badly?
Everyone finds different things attractive. As long as he isn't any of your dislikes, it shouldn't be much of a problem.
Ok I guess if the man don’t reply tomorrow, he has one of my dislikes and cowardly decided to opted out?
Maybe he is very few of your likes. If he doesn't reply and he isn't physically capable of reaching out to you, then yes.
Well that’s a bummer. Long list to a small brief phrase. My like list just contain qualities of a mature man who can be a good, loving, fun partner and person. . .
what's the like list? lol
Super long... 😂😂😂
fair enough. I was just curious.