Lol why? You wouldn’t contact ur crush even though she has contacted u couple times?
No, because I'm terribly insecure. I'd be worried she see me as too clingy, that I'm being creepy, that maybe she's not that interested if interested at all anymore, and so on. Last thing I'd want is to scare her off. I also have trouble loving myself, so I'd probably think something like she's probably better off anyway if she doesn't want to write me.It's very irrational and counterproductive, I know. But there you go. I have very few friends and family relations for that same reason. It sucks.
In that case the girl should keep contacting u first or straight up tell u that she’s interested?
Hopefully you'd reach a point where the guy feels confident enough around you that he doesn't worry about losing you or your interest, but maybe in the meantime or until/if you help him overcome that, you might want to just contact him first. in my opinion, anyway.You could tell him you're interested. I know I'd love to hear that. I'd definitely be scared to assume that she was interested, and I'd much rather just have all the cards out on the table. But I'm also afraid that just telling him you're interested wouldn't be enough to make him comfortable enough to make contact first. At least not unless you continue to remind him that you're still just as interested. That is, in my case anyway.
And you might not be able to notice the insecurity, by the way. I constantly get told by people that they can't tell that I have anxiety and stuff.
I’ve described down below my interactions with my crush. Do you think he could be one of those shy guys?I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me first. Now we haven’t talke for a month since Iast time replied to his story.I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
I’ve noticed that my crush posts stories that are like ”bait” to reply to his story. Like ”ask me a question” or ”mention something” I’ve wondered is he doing that me/girls would contact him first so he doesn’t have to do that lol?
I wouldn't be surprised if that's at least part of why he does it, lol. I honestly couldn't tell ya if he's shy or not. I think he could be, at least to an extent maybe, but I know that's not very helpful :pHonestly, if I were you I'd maybe just try and talk to him and figure out what's going on in his head and what sort of feelings he may or may not have about your relationship. Friendship and otherwise. Cards on the table.
I’m just afraid that he thinks I’m desperate since I’m the one contacting him first...
I get it. Ask him casually then. Once you've been chatting for a minute, go "So hey, I've been meaning to ask you if you ________" and fill in the blank. Maybe ask him if he sees the relationship going anywhere. If he wants to grab a coffee. If he's interested in more. You could also just tell him straight up that you've had a low key crush on him for a while and just wanted to ask him what he thinks of that. Maybe not ^^ I don't want to pressure you either, but I'm just thinking it'd be a shame if you didn't ask him out of fear or because you'd rather wait to see if he asks you first.Either way I'm sure he wouldn't think that you're desperate. For one thing you haven't spoken in a month :p
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