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Extended family tried to set me up w/ a girl years ago. I didn’t like the pressure and only felt semi attracted to the girl. But having regrets now?

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My family in another state tried to set me up with another girl (friend if my cousins). This was awkward but well intentioned. I was 31 and she was 24 at the time.

I didn’t go along with it because:
  • I didn’t like being set up
  • She lives in another state and I would have to move. I saw them because I was traveling often.
  • I only felt semi attracted to the girl. She was definitely cute but she didn’t drive me crazy.
  • Her dad was a real hard ass and was acting like I was already dating his daughter (just real gruff around me). While I liked that she had a strong dad it was over the top a bit.
  • This girl would blab all her relationship problems with my cousins. I’ve already heard some negative things about her husband (which I shouldn’t know) because through “telephone” it went like this Girl blabs with cousins > cousins blab go my aunt and uncles > aunt and uncles blab to my parents. I got some quirks she would see if her and I dated. I want boundaries.
  • I got in a year relationship with someone else a month after I met her. That relationship ended badly (another story)
  • Around the time I met her I wasn’t looking to get serious with anyone. I was really invoked with a consuming hobby I wasn’t financially stable either (I am now).
However in the last 5 years I have decided I do want to get serious with someone. I was two other relationships that both ended badly. I can see on social media that this girl got married and seems happy with her 2 kids. I’m now the “weird uncle” in the family. I’ve struggled to find anyone decent to date and get serious with in the last few years.

I know there would be some big downsides if I pursued this girl (and she liked me). But I can’t help but feel regrets.
Extended family tried to set me up w/ a girl years ago. I didn’t like the pressure and only felt semi attracted to the girl. But having regrets now?
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