I’m 21 and There is this guy who’s 28 who decided to go back to his ex girlfriend who’s 29, while she never cared about him as much as I did, he think that I’m conventionally prettier ( and everyone else think the same way when they see our pics), I’m nicer, I fuck with him everyday cause I have a high sex drive while she deprive him from sex and she’s low key asexual , and add that she’s overweight while I’m in shape and have a hourglass figure! But he replied with: « you’re the prettiest, kindest woman I have ever met, but I love her and I can’t help it. Love is not about which one is better it’s not a competiton » and now they are dating again! I don’t know how to react to this, is it bad that I’m staring to hate men because of it? Why do they always go with the women that don’t care about them even if they aren’t pretty? It would be okay if she was AT LEAST nicer or prettier but she's barely average and bitchy with him!
I’m younger, nicer and better looking so why did he chooses her over me?
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Who knows? People choose people for weird reasons sometimes. It likely has to do with the fact that they have history together, maybe she is back on her best behavior in order to get him back in her life, and people tend to see things in people they have feelings for that the rest of us don't. I don't know how many times I've seen someone tolerate bullshit behavior from or develop feelings for someone who seemed to have absolutely nothing going for them and was a horrid person, but it happens all the time.
Also, there's the unfortunately very likely possibility that he was just using you for sex. People will tell you what you want to hear in order to get what they want from you, unfortunately. If she was depriving him of sex and you were willing to give it to him, it could've been that he wanted the sex in the moment, but was always still in love with her.
I know it's frustrating when things don't work out with people and when they choose someone else over you, but I think you would be much better off to move on and find someone else. If you need to take a hiatus from dating, that is also completely fine.
Him talking bad about her infront of you doesn't mean she was all bad. people tend to exaggerate how bad or how good a past relationship was. Especially when they're still not over it and they're trying to move on. You were the rebound and not his girlfriend. That sucks and obviously hurtful but it is the bitter truth.
Love as he said is not a competition and that also shows that he thinks that you are not that mature. You're not entitled of his heart and he wanted to say it in a nice way so he said it is not a competition. He loves her. That's all that is. He's happy she accepted him back. Everything else is irrelevant. Love is peace and love is joy. Love is feeling home in the arms of another. Beautiful or not. Healthy or not. Young or not. And the fact you don't know that to the extent you're asking here just shows that he wants something deeper he couldn't find in you.
I'm sorry you're hurting and rejection can be very painful especially if you wanted more of him. But you need to find your own love. If I were you I wouldn't go back to him. Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you. Block him and move on with your life. All the best.
Because he is a f••king damn idiot & you can tell him I said that. I did the same damn thing. My ex dad told me that if he were 25 years younger he try and kick my ass for taking his daughter back. She didn't clean house, didn't cook, didn't do laundry, didn't help with cutting the grass, didn't help wash the Tahoe or help put gas in the Tahoe, but she had no problems burning the gas in it. Her dad said why do you think she lives on the streets. Enough of me running her down. I had started to talk to a girl that was younger & had a job & didn't ask me for money like my ex did. I didn't like to my ex told her I had enough & that I was leaving she begged me not to kick her to the curb & that she would quite treating me like she was. so I broke it off with the new girl I was talking to which she said I was an idiot (which I was) because she wouldn't change which she hasn't. Now I lost a good woman & I'm stuck with a moody miserable ill tempered woman. Move on & let him regret his choice & he will. Find you a good man that will appreciate you.
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You’re literally the fourth man I see with the same story , I wonder why the ill tempered bitches Always get the men at the end
Both you and him have issues. You think you're pretty and that just because you are you should have better luck. You are conceited and that's generally going to turn off most men, and indicates that you don't have much else going for you and your physical mindset.
He is pathetic because he keeps running back to a girl who doesn't give a shit about him. He's psychologically bound to the need to go back even though he knows she's not good for him. That's a whole host of personal problems he has to work out for himself, that in the end will probably turn into hard lessons learned for him but will be necessary.
I don't think he deserves either one of you but I also don't think you deserve him either.
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