Talkative and a great listener? Hard to find
Not at all. Found many
Yesterday I went out with a guy friend and his female friend, I've noticed that she was attracted to me when I wasn't talking at all, she even told me that my friend and she isn't anything serious. Then then she said to me "you need to be little more extrovert" and I laterally started talking and making jokes, and the whole attraction part was out of the window.
Doesn't being silent and not talking much comes out as boring?
There's always a middle ground, being goofy isn't attractive but not uttering a words isn't attractive either you can come off as cool and mysterious a bit but then you'll become boring cause people cannot get to know you at all. You need to be in the middle ground (which is honestly the hardest to do because everyone middle ground isn't the same so)
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Then theyll cry whine and complain that he's not goofy enough.
... no. If someone is not into goofy they are not into goofy. Why would zhey complain.
Cause that's all women do
Well if all woman do is cry, whine and compain about you... i am sorry to say... you are doing sth wrong.
I don't recall specificity what they cry and complain about. You seem butthurt though. I would be too if I was a flat slab of wood shape like you. Goodbye.
Okey :) that definitely explains where your experiences with woman go wrong.
C'mon man. I can be resentful but she isn't saying anything wrong.
What do you mean by exhausting? Trying to put up a show? Make you laugh?
For example my friends boyfriend is very goofy but if she tries to initiate a normal conversation about important more serious topics he tries to deflect with jokes etc.
Is he insecure and talkative and braggy?
No none of that just too immature
My coworker was taking about her ex today and she said he was immature. What does it really mean to you?
To me it means that the person is showing an emotional development that is fitting for someone younger than his age would suggest. I think it is important to be on the same wavelength in that regard. Not being able to have a conversation about important topics like the future or emotions is a sign of immaturity for me.
How does one fix that problem? I see guys in their late 20's acting like teens
What is yours in detail?
What's my personal preference?
Well, I like guys who have a good personality, who likes me as me, and not use me. Because I have been used and cheated on multiple times...
You might need to know yourself if you get cheated so often
I'm working on it, I got cheated on when I first started dating, plus the guys who cheated on me were players.
Well, changing is a tough one.
What do you mean changing by?
We have certain paradigms that we learn in childhood and we follow similar paradigms until we are fully aware of what we are doing, and how we are thinking and going through our life everyday
That's a good one.