Why not? Would you prefer her to not tell you how happy she makes you etc?
You can do that if it makes you feel good, but it’s not valued as much as spending time together, doing kind hearted gestures, and physical warmth… That why the old adage the way to a man's heart is through his stomach exists. It’s not about the cooking, it that you thought to do kind things to help him without him asking for it. But even helping out and being dependable when he asks is great. You are companions after all. Physical touch/sex as well as just hanging out doing fun things together and talking (quality time) are all going to score higher than random compliments most of the time.
I get that, women feel the same. But it still doesn’t take away from the fact that less misunderstandings occur if you’re also clear in words too.
Words for men and women will always be a disconnect… Men like things short and sweet. More information in less words is the best outcome. This however is impossible for women. Women will talk for ten minutes without making a single point… This drives us mad. So while you think we talk too little, we definitely think you talk way too much or at least are not direct enough in your speech. That is, we can talk a hell of a lot so long as you cut out the extraneous stuff in the middle. Women see that as adding the mood or how they feel about a particular scenario and all we feel is frustration that you won’t cut tot he chase and tell us what you mean. It’s just part of the game women are horrible communicators when it comes to giving information. Women think men are horrible at communicating our emotions because we don’t tell you that our friend likes green apples when we are looking for our socks… I don’t know how the two are connected but that’s basically what it sounds like when you talk to every women.
I think you’re stereotyping too much tbh, it’s definitely the case for some, but funnily enough I’m more to the point and my guy mate can talk for England!! Lol
Yeah, maybe... I notice your succinct responses, yet you're still agitated that he won't tell you how he feels… So may not...
Or maybe that’s just your assumption your projecting. It’s generally curiosity, open to learning new things and all that. Doesn’t mean I have to agree with everything either though.
Well you stated “He… never says how he feels or anything”. So either you’re stating he is not expressive enough about details in conversation which goes to the different communication styles of men and women. Possibility two is that you want to know why he never showers you with compliments when you fish for them which goes back to my original point that actions speak louder than words. Or the third option is that you tried to have the how do you feel about me conversation because you are unsure if you are on the same page as him and he was like I don’t know… lol Take your pick and maybe we can tackle the point.
Oh no he gives lots of compliments. But its just be better to have more expression of how he feels. I’ve dated guys before who’ve been more expressive too so it’s not like men are incapable, he’s just a little more stoic.
I mean of course words alone are hollow, but I'd argue that communication is also key, actions alone can also be misinterpreted so surely a balance is best.
that would depend on what he does or does not do to show he loves you.
So what would you say doesn't require words in your opinion?
it can. like i already said that depends on actions used to show instead of saying it. that being said saying should happen at least sometimes just for the novelty of it if for no other reason. have you tried discussing this with him?
He said its just the way he is
then he is not the verbal type for showing affection. uts up to you to decide if you are ok with that or not. try telling him you would aporeciate hearing it sometimes and leave it at that, maybe as a gift like bday, vday, or Christmas.
Yeah I figured that
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That's what I thought too tbh
Intimacy issues? Haha