Did I overreact?

Question

To shorten the story, we met a month ago on dating app, long distance. He seemed very interested in me and texted/call every day. I visit his city often and we agreed to meet when I come there. So I came on Friday and he suggested seeing each other on that weekend (kinda vague but ok). So this is how it went:

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23 d

He hasn't contact me since then.

Answer 1

Sharknado88

Xper 6

Wow that last sentence in the last text message! If I received that from a girl, no matter how good looking she is, I would stop talking to her too! I'm not one to demand exclusivity on the first date, but saying that just shows that he's just an option and you may not give him a fair shot if you're seeing several other guys while you're there. I have way too much respect for myself to knowingly meet someone that sees me like that , but that's just me

Asker

23 d
He is also seeing others though, said it himself.
Sharknado88

23 d
Didn't catch that the first time and not that I agree with him being flaky but the way he said it was very honest and he completely explained his situation to you. Sorry but yours still seemed very abrasive, especially with that emoji on the end. Seemed like it was in the heat of the moment, but im sure that sentence alone is what caused him to stop talking

Answer 2

Asker

He is also seeing others though, said it himself.

Answer 3

Sharknado88

Didn't catch that the first time and not that I agree with him being flaky but the way he said it was very honest and he completely explained his situation to you. Sorry but yours still seemed very abrasive, especially with that emoji on the end. Seemed like it was in the heat of the moment, but im sure that sentence alone is what caused him to stop talking

Answer 4

Anonymous

so from what I see, it seems like you were doing all the chasing and he was kinda blowing you off. I mean it sounds like he's busy but also he's blowing you off. I can understand why you got mad, but I think you overreacted. where I'm confused is you talk about wanting something serious and then say if you were to go out it would just be as friends. I don't think he's reached out because he probably really was blowing you off and you caught him, or maybe he just wasn't that into it

Asker

23 d
What confuses me is that he was texting me and calling me every day so far, for more then a month! Why would anyone spend time and effort in doing that if not interested to meet?
But yeah I agree I overreacted. The as friends part was more to soften the impact of me saying I was serious about him, and to let him know that because I'm angry I just want to see each other as friends now first, because before all this mess we also sexted and made plans about maybe going LDR and what not. He also offered me staying at his place and working remotely for as long as I want, so yeah I guess I thought he was actually considering relationship.
Opinion Owner

23 d
it sounds like maybe he genuinly like you and wanted a relationship and after you said you would only go out as friends, i think he took it as your not interested. or he took it as not wanting to deal with that.

Answer 5

Asker

What confuses me is that he was texting me and calling me every day so far, for more then a month! Why would anyone spend time and effort in doing that if not interested to meet?
But yeah I agree I overreacted. The as friends part was more to soften the impact of me saying I was serious about him, and to let him know that because I'm angry I just want to see each other as friends now first, because before all this mess we also sexted and made plans about maybe going LDR and what not. He also offered me staying at his place and working remotely for as long as I want, so yeah I guess I thought he was actually considering relationship.

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

it sounds like maybe he genuinly like you and wanted a relationship and after you said you would only go out as friends, i think he took it as your not interested. or he took it as not wanting to deal with that.

Answer 7

mindNsoul | 307 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

I think you both overreacted and you both had your ego hurt. I also think coordinating and fighting over texts is kinds childish.

Answer 8

CoolGuyJoe | 147 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

That was like watching a campfire turn into a blaze. I was saying "Woah... Woaaahhh. Woooaaahhhh" as it kept going on and on.

It really seems like there's some stuff you gotta work on. You started tweaking out when things didn't go as you believed they should have. Why not let things fizzle out? We should all be content enough to let missed connections pass us by. There was no need for your aggression in my opinion

Answer 9

ajeazyk

Xper 2

I would say you overreacted but I would still take your side in this. Like I think you were justified in being mad about him blowing you off just overreacted a little bit.

Answer 10

OneManOnly01

Xper 5

If he’s socially intelligent and a respected man. He will NOT contact you again and he won’t message you again. You chased after him and to make it worse, you chased him with DESPERATION.

You blowed way your chances and even if you get into a relationship, he will not take you seriously and he will not respect you and might even cheat on you.

NOW THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO FIX WHAT YOU HAVE DONE...

Answer 11

Hangry22 | 374 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Both of you over reacted but i don't see any problem here. Seems like it's going ok as friends

Answer 12

martinxdenver

Xper 4

This guy is obviously playing games... he asked if you the next day was cool to head out with you and then when the time comes he lies he's busy... my advice, block him... he behaves like a child.

Answer 13

joeldalton | 116 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Yes, you overreacted.

Answer 14

legalboxers | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

seems so. But its covid...

Answer 15

Cryptic-Game | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

It seems that you overreacted.

Answer 16

Silent_kisser

Xper 4

Yes, like always.

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