Guys, Should A Girl Shoot Her Shot?

[Jjpayne]

It's a tough place... But it's true that guys are very careful and tactful when saying "I love you" they know those words are not just need words of affection, but a contract. So... It's tough because guys I think are scared of commitment. Especially younger guys. I admire you for your boldness! And I'm sorry it worked out that way. 😔 But I'd say, if that's how he felt about commitment then maybe he might not have been for you anyway. You want a guy that can handle that comment. It's the difference between a boy and a man. A man would say, I appreciate what you are saying but I'm not quite ready for that level of commitment but I'd be open to it in the future and I'll let know when I'm ready. A boy would say, hell naw, I'm gonna bounce. It's that moment me that either their parents or at least their grandparents would hit them upside the head and say, you apologize to that young lady. I think to me, you want a mature guy that knows how to handle that conversation, not in discomfort but in thoughtfulness.

That's my take anyway

[Dongtai]

Why would you leave it up to chance to who you date? I think it would suck if I literally had to wait and hope one of the attractive women I noticed also noticed me and approached me. I’d be single! 😂😂


I’ve dated girls I was genuinely attracted to. I’m picky. But I seriously doubt I’d get those dates if I never put myself out there. They say girls choose but it’s really guys who choose. We can pick through hundreds of women until we find one who has looks AND personality. Girls on the other hand usually wait for a guy to approach, it might not necessarily be the guy she dreams of but he might have “some” of the qualities of that dream guy. But if she passes him there’s no telling when the next one will approach her. And if she’s not physically attractive the waiting game might take long.

[Ripper_E]

Then you've been interested in the wrong men. Some men enjoy the chase and they are often the men you should avoid. It's not necessarily that they don't want to make the first move. It's that they don't want to waste their time on a woman that has not proven herself to be worth the investment. You either want to get to know him or you don't. Play hard to get if you want but more often than not, the girl that's ready and available will get him. A woman making the first move lets him know you are interested.

[Everyoneisplastic]

Good for you in focusing on a better life instead of a hotter guy. What us guys mean when we say we would love for a girl to "shoot her shot" first isn't them telling us they love us, but rather her SHOWING interest first or APPROACHING us first. My fist girlfriend was where she showed interest and started talking to me and stuff then her parents told me that she had a major crush on me, so I then asked her out. There's something about us guys and wanting to ask a girl out or telling her that he wants to date her. I can't place it, but it's like our dignity is taken from us when the girl is the first one to ask us out or tell us they love us before we had a chance to kiss her. It's definitely not a "chase" thing because I hate it when girls play "hard to get". Hope this helps.

[VanillaSalt]

It’s only fair with all the societal changes. You women want us men to be less masculine and more feminine which goes against our nature... that being said no women shouldn’t ask men out... I want women to shut down all together and never date or have sex with another man again.

[NamerOfStars]

Absolutely. Why should she have to wait for him to make the first move? You get a more egalitarian society, and you also get more understanding, as each sex comes to understand how the other sex's traditional romantic role sucks. What's not to like? Getting rejected, obviously, but besides that?

It does sound like you'd be better served doing your own thing for a while, though, so by all means, go ahead and do that. There will still be guys when you want to come back into the field.

[Unit1]

Yeah, like totally. Like men totally don't love it when women ask them out. /sarcasm

This collection here proves otherwise Girls, want to know how to ask a guy out?

[jace13]

Equal opportunity, men go through what you went through more times than anyone cares to count.
It's part of life, go after what you want and accept failure. Makes the reward much more sweeter.
You're going to fail more than you succeed because you only need to succeed once

[Blueeyes81]

A mote accurate statement would be they never had interest to begin with. It happens. You just end up limiting yourself by being scared of rejection. The quicker a person can master acceptance of rejection (it will happen a lot in life in general) the better off they are.

[ColHathi]

Some guys are gonna be like that :p I refuse to believe that it's a general 'guy thing' to want to chase girls. I'm telling you, I would not be put off because the girl approached me first, and it's a damn shame that guys have to be the ones to approach girls always. It's not right.

[Anonymous]

You and your vast experience of life at the ripe old age of 18, are absolutely right. Never initiate anything with a guy. That way you can easily weed out those sad losers who would be okay with the concept of a woman taking the lead. As correctly implied, women are rabbits and deer, to be tracked down, chased and hunted.
Never let him know you like him. Ever. Even after you start dating, even if you get married to a guy, always keep him guessing. If you have kids, don't let the kids know either. Make sure everyone is wondering if you even like your husband. Dig your own grave and die alone. "Wow, she literally always left them wondering", your gravestone will say.

[winterfox10]

Yes, definitely. Take risks. Life is too short to let fear control you. Imagine looking back on your life and missing out on something you wanted, simply because you never felt ready to take your chance.

[LEADFOOTboi]

as a shyguy, myself... i'm perfectly ok with a woman shootin her shot at me...
it would make me think i have a chance with such a gal...
and yee, the dating market is trash... WGTOW IT, IF YOU WANNA

[Avicenna]

A girl should, BUT she should also choose the guy wisely. Only immature guys do that sort of stuff you described.

[TonyMetal___86]

What's wrong miss ash, who made the sensitive girl sad? 🙂
Don't be sad cause there will be guys out there who will appreciate you and love your way!

[BjornIronPeenus]

Why on earth would a man lose interest in a girl because she shows interest? If anything it makes the man more confident around her.

[Anonymous]

If you won’t then why should they? If your unwilling to make a move then you’re not worth making a move on. Guys on the other hand are actually forced into that situation. If anyone deserves to not initiate its guys.

[bklynbadboy1]

Absolutely a girl shout shoot her shot. Sorry that happened to you but he was never interested in you cause you can't just turn it on and off you feel me.

[okeydoke]

I find it incredibly attractive when I’m approached by a woman first.

[TheAfrikan]

It is totally okay if she is to stand firm and make her own shot.

[jevvo]

It's a good feel when a girl tells u first see likes its fine

[Paul09]

Welcome to the world of men's dating lives! We suffer so you don't have too! Imagine how some of us feel everytime we tell a women we like her.