Why do guys seem to hate smart girls?

[caring__1]

Smart and/or mature men like smart women (as long as these women don't spend all their time trying to prove they are better than everyone else). If guys don't choose you, it's probably because they believe they won't measure up to your expectations or they fear you'll have a greater earning capacity, which minimizes their ability to see themselves as the provider. Some guys feel all they have to offer a relationship is being a provider, and those guys often don't like any competition from their partner in that area, fearing it minimizes what they believe they can bring to the relationship. Start hanging around with smart guys rather than popular guys, and you'll probably find someone will rise out of the crowd. Another thing is many smart people are so focused on expanding their knowledge that they appear too focused on that and not interested in relationships. Let people know you are receptive by smiling at guys you're interested in and carrying on conversations with them. They'll especially be drawn in if you comment on things they've done or said that impress you.

[TheorionMage]

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One CAN be 'book smart' without being commensurately 'street smart'~

In my college days I was blessed to have the intimate attentions of a 'real life' Velma
from 'Scooby Doo' ... I delighted in the opportunity of 'friends-with-Benefits'
to take this VERY intelligent buxom hottie-Nerd and rock one another's worlds!
One of my life's fondest memories! <3

MANY a college swim class found my male classmates envious of the teeth bite mark hickies
and nail claw marks down MY back.
When a self-un-assured, Nerd girl with a repressed Libido lets loose
tis a thing of genuine beauty~
Chlorine STINGS! ;)

[DizzyDesii]

I usually see them impressed with intelligent girls. But no one likes someone who acts like a know it all. For those who dont like smart girls, it could be because the person finds them harder to manipulate

[Hangry22]

Guys like dumb girls. It's easier to act superior to them and cheat on them

[OlderAndWiser]

A guy with less intelligence than you is going to be intimidated by a girl who is beautiful AND intelligent. They may feel that they can't offer you enough to keep you interested. You just need to focus on the guys who are your intellectual equals.

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

Guys like being in a dominant position. The average guy is, well, average. Your intelligence is superior and he knows it. So, he doesn't bother. The gits don't hate you, they just don't know how to relate to you. You are basically limited to relationships with guys who are either equivalent to or more intelligent than you. Now, if you just want some sexual fun, you can easily put the moves on any guy and get what you want, but if it is a relationship you want, your options are limited.

One more thing, highly intelligent people seem to be constantly busy. You might need to analyse your own self-imposed schedule to determine if you have set up your life in such a way that you truly aren't available for a dating or a relationship. Part of success in the world of dating is to be able to say "yes" when a guy asks you out, and part of success in getting asked out comes from mixing and mingling and being approachable, if you spend all your time mastering the cello or nestled away in your dorm room studying organic chemistry and reading Tolstoy. . . . well, you get the idea.

[0112358]

I think there’s a bit of a circular thing here.

women have a tendency to say they prefer dating guys who are “as smart” or smarter. Men will say they don’t mind but that women will reject them if they aren’t smarter. Women will say guys are insecure when she’s smarter and THAT is the problem.

whether the problem is “women are hypergamous” or “men think women are hypergamous so are insecure” it’s a thing. Men tend to move in and anticipate better success with women who are attractive but in other ways they think they can impress.

anyway it’s probably less of a problem the further you go on life since you will more and more spend time with guys who are intellectually your peers - assuming you are doing things that require intelligence.

[Everyoneisplastic]

College is a breeding ground for flings and short term relationships. A shit ton of guys my age go to college to get some ass rather than actually focusing on getting a degree. And some smart girls are rude whereas most ditzy airheads are nicer, I have a smart sister and a sister who's kinda ditzy and my smart sister is always a smart-ass towards people and enjoys putting other people down so she seems smarter. Don't worry about it too much and just do you. Don't worry about trying to get more guys, just worry about finding the right type of guys who care more about you and not a notch on their bedpost.

[MCheetah]

Guys don't hate smart girls. But most people seem to dislike people smarter than them. Usually because it makes them feel insecure about their own intelligence, or lack of. Both smart men (the majority of intelligent people) and smart women have trouble fitting in, in a society that is largely filled with stupid people. I think I myself would have more in common with aliens than I do the average human.

[SjE78]

sounds like another case of dating the wrong guys, as not all guys hate smart women, those who do are clearly ones who feel threatened by them as they are less likely to buy into their lies and excuses... and less likely to be easily manipulated by them...

[JackSmy]

Smart women are so much better! THEY see through the guy's Bullshit, and they aren't 'panty-droppers' when he has a BS story!!
Smart women, and with glasses, expect more, and those guys insult her intelligence, thinking she is going to believe his 'pick-up' line, or lies, to get in her pants!!
LOVE those women! They pick the REAL MEN, the honest, caring ones, and the ones that don't just want to 'hit it and quit it'!

[Bluemax]

I don't think we do like ditzy airheads. Certainly not the men I know. I think we do like smart women... and smart people in general.

I have noticed that in some cases, bubbly, cheerful, and playful are *mistaken* for "ditzy airheads."

I'm suspecting this is the female equivalent of the "Why do girls always go for dumb jocks?" question that guys seem to ask.

[jshm2]

We don't. You're just small minded, jealous, petty, insufferable, or not as good company as you think you are.

Guys like girls who will be fun or entertaining most of the time, or will put out and be good company.

It's not a matter of "pretty" or "airheads". You should be smart enough to know humans are social animals. Being charming and able to align with others is a far superior quality than being a mere bookworm or cokehead academic.

[Mogtar]

Because y'all geniuses don't have fun in a way that we dumb ones can understand. We like to do stupid things like having a party, get drunk, get high, get stupid. And you all wanna solve some real problems in the world like curing cancer or figuring out the physics behind Star Trek's warp-drive or the ideal opening for Chess.

[GingerGuy]

I agree with @Angelo75 on the immaturity of the guys sometimes, but I also think it's not so much about her intelligence per say, but more her personality because of it. Like less intelligent women might seem more happy, easy going etc, and sometimes the more intelligent women can seem aloof (on the surface, may not be that way if he takes the time to get to know her, but people judge a lot before this).

[Reaperbot666]

it's more about if she embraces her femininity and natural beauty or not. because all girls have the ability to be naturally physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually attractive. which is what fuels the male brain to desire them more for reproduction. even smarter girls have this ability if they maintain themselves well. but what keeps a guy around is having a personality, attitude and character he enjoys.

[007kingifrit]

the biggest thing is that its often self defined "smart" and what that often translates to is being told you're smart by your teachers, teachers don't find students smart... only institutionalized. Men would rather see your creativity, playfullness, open mindedness, nurturing nature, approachability etc etc

none of these things have anything to do with being "smart"

[EssenceOfLight]

I like smart girls, dummies become easily boring. On the other hand some girls think they are smart because they challenge others without a reason. Personally I don't think it's really a smart strategy, because being obnoxious doesn't make someone especially popular.

[JDavid25]

Nothin wrong with a smart girl, but women usually look for somebody to match their intelligence orders smarter than them.. So there's that.. And maybe you have an air of arrogance about you that repels guys.

[jake_black]

Well you need to understand the mechanism of the man's brain.. we dont "dislike" a smart woman, on the contrary.. I like them so much.. but the thing is we man like to see beauty of women from the outside.. that doesn't mean that I don't care about her intellectual behavior as well

[ohshee]

I. Have to say your wrong there smart and confedent is the best then add in Good heart a good lover ,, passionate filled with desire mmm

[Zeus_66]

We don't. People gotta stop asking stereotypical questions on this forum. Maybe you should be looking for a real companion by looking at the whole person. Getting sick of false assumptions.

[Anonymous]

Smart women are a treat to talk to and spend time with. But many men are feeling threatened by them for some reason. I find them amazing in the other hand, much better than women with no braincell left standing.

[winterfox10]

Sometimes "smart" is interpreted as "thrusts opinions on you" other times the guy doesn't feel like he would have anything to talk with the woman about.