Why single moms always struggle in finding a good man to marry?

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is having kid before marriage & being left less desirable worth it?

Answer 1

EyeAmNiceGirl | 54 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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(1) Most women lose their figure, aspecially after the second child. At a minimum, there is stretched out belly skin; often, it's a lot more than that. Most good men out looking to get married want a woman who still has a nice figure.

(2) Kids mean there is an ex sex-partner (s) out there who will be in regular contact. Guys don't like you being in contact with past lovers. It's one thing that you aren't a virgin. It's quite another that he has to personally interact on a regular basis with one of the guys she has been with. I know I don't want to interact with a woman whose vagina my husband has put his penis in.

(3) Drama. MAJOR drama. Between kids that aren't yours and exes who can present all manner of problems (child support, fighting, trying to get her back, etc.), it makes a successful marriage less likely. Not to mention that none of those things are much fun.

(4) Most women with children can never put a new man in first place in her life. He will always be second in line behind somebody else's kids. Why would he want to deal with that?

Dchrls78104

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Well said.

Answer 2

Dchrls78104

Well said.

Answer 3

Billie_ | 193 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Men are temporary. Your children will love you unconditionally for life. And its usually not that hard to find a man who's into you as long as you're open about your children, especially single fathers! Your children are more important than having a sexual partner.

Asker

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Well taking care of the kid and your life and other responsibilities is difficult too. It's much wiser to have two heads taking care of it all than one person.
Asker

19 d
Sexual partner? That's not hard to find at all. I myself am attracted to hot single moms but not intend to marry one.
Barbaric

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Why would you plan to be a single mother?
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Billie_

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@Barbaric Huh? No one plans to be a single mother? If a woman is pregnant, its up to her to get the abortion. Which sometimes, she isn't going to do.
Barbaric

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If you say that men are temporary, and you're talking about being able to find a partner as a single mother, you're planning ahead for the time you become a single mother, when really if you want the best for your kids you should be focused on finding a good man and maintaining a healthy relationship/family.
Billie_

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@Barbaric ha ok sure I am, or perhaps I am just really good at empathising with other women? choice is yours!
Barbaric

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You're good at empathising with women who have stupid ideas and make shitty choices.
Billie_

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@Barbaric Yep, that's me!
Oigit

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Never take a child's love for granted. Because like every human, your kids do have a limit and they can end up leaving and never contact you again. Calling or expecting your child life unconditional and for life can lead a parent or parents down a bath that leads them to loosing it.
Billie_

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JUST TO CLEAR THIS UP: I don't have kids, nor do I plan to be a single mother! I just simply empathise with those that are.

Answer 4

Asker

Well taking care of the kid and your life and other responsibilities is difficult too. It's much wiser to have two heads taking care of it all than one person.

Answer 5

Asker

Sexual partner? That's not hard to find at all. I myself am attracted to hot single moms but not intend to marry one.

Answer 6

Barbaric

Why would you plan to be a single mother?

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Billie_

@Barbaric Huh? No one plans to be a single mother? If a woman is pregnant, its up to her to get the abortion. Which sometimes, she isn't going to do.

Answer 8

Barbaric

If you say that men are temporary, and you're talking about being able to find a partner as a single mother, you're planning ahead for the time you become a single mother, when really if you want the best for your kids you should be focused on finding a good man and maintaining a healthy relationship/family.

Answer 9

Billie_

@Barbaric ha ok sure I am, or perhaps I am just really good at empathising with other women? choice is yours!

Answer 10

Barbaric

You're good at empathising with women who have stupid ideas and make shitty choices.

Answer 11

Billie_

@Barbaric Yep, that's me!

Answer 12

Oigit

Never take a child's love for granted. Because like every human, your kids do have a limit and they can end up leaving and never contact you again. Calling or expecting your child life unconditional and for life can lead a parent or parents down a bath that leads them to loosing it.

Answer 13

Billie_

JUST TO CLEAR THIS UP: I don't have kids, nor do I plan to be a single mother! I just simply empathise with those that are.

Answer 14

Barbaric | 172 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Why would an attractive man who could marry a woman without kids marry a woman with kids? It's because they're stuck choosing from the lower-tier men who will take whatever they can get.

A lot of them are also just dysfunctional, and they only end up single mothers because they're stupid.

Answer 15

Hispanic-Cool-Guy | 3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Because single moms will always have an ex they will have involved wheather by phone calls, text etc since they have a child by another man. No smart man would want an ex calling your girl, but since she has a child she has no choice but to talk with her ex man.

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Yads_Is_Back | 522 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

The question answers itself. If you want respect you have to earn it. I wouldn’t want a man whore either, especially one who has kids and won’t claim them. No, leave me away from that. And even if the woman was to get abortions to cover it up, I doubt he wants his penis in a cemetery.

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JCT666 | 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Because there is a reason why she's a single mother in the first place and the most likely reason is that she's a ho.

Dating a single mother is like eating your friend's leftovers from last night's takeout.

Asker

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But why do they just end up having a baby with a man who she thinks doesn't even have a job or can't provide her and her kid?

Answer 18

Asker

But why do they just end up having a baby with a man who she thinks doesn't even have a job or can't provide her and her kid?

Answer 19

zagor | 6.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

They don't. I know some who found great guys to marry. OK, they were married (to other guys) when they had their kids.

Answer 20

Anonymous

MILFS or single moms prefer sleeping with 20-year-olds because 20 years has huge sex drives and have more energy then men around their ages.

Asker

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Opinion Owner

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Then start looking for one. Also just to let you know they prefer looks than personalities.

Answer 21

Asker

I'm dying to get hor milfs

Answer 22

Opinion Owner

Then start looking for one. Also just to let you know they prefer looks than personalities.

Answer 23

Anonymous

My mum was raped as a teenager when she had me so that’s why she’s a single mother

Asker

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I'm sorry to hear that. Rapes are rare in US.

Answer 24

Asker

I'm sorry to hear that. Rapes are rare in US.

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Iron_Man | 10.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

It’s just very difficult

Asker

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Only for single moms or just women in general?
Iron_Man

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It’s harder for single moms

Answer 26

Asker

Only for single moms or just women in general?

Answer 27

Iron_Man

It’s harder for single moms

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