So I'm 27 and I've never had a girlfriend before. I've tried focusing on myself with work and hobbies. Every time I hear "stop looking" it makes me think i shouldn't talk to girls at all. "Stop looking" makes me feel more anxious and worried that even if i did talk to a girl at a party or somewhere, she might think "he's looking for a girlfriend". Is not looking going to make a girl spontaneously appear out of the blue? I admit, I've had crushes on some girls I've met, some i thought were cute, but I've always been afraid to make the first move. This saying has made me overly anxious to even do anything. How did you randomly meet your girlfriend? Something random better happen next year when i turn 28 or i will stab someone in the head.