Why does my boyfriend want me to depend on him but doesn’t want to help?

[caring__1]

I'm sure there are more sides to this story than you are relating, but if this is truly all there is, you're probably dealing with someone who feels insecure but sees you more as a possession than a partner. In that case, he'd be focusing on what he is entitled to receive rather than what he can add to the relationship. Since he isn't adding anything, he'll want to limit any access you have to others, knowing anyone offering anything is going to be a threat to him and may lead to his losing his possession.

[Cherokeehp]

Seems controlling. Tell him no. You’re allowed to have multiple people in your support system, and if he can’t provide you with support you need then you’re allowed to turn to other people. If he really wants to be your main source of support then he should step his game up. Tell him to go read a book or do some research on emotional intelligence so he can better understand how to help you.

[kyliesz]

that seems controlling