What is wrong with me?

Question

Visually i am not too ugly, I am smart, successful at what I do, funny and very blunt when it comes to dating and all that but it seems like that one in a million person I choose or like... Doesn't like me back or simply treats me like i am nobody. I am giving up, I feel like I can't connect to any man, anywhere, never... 😭 Is it normal?

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MCheetah | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

"It seems like that one in a million person I choose or like..."

Well, there's your problem right there. You're picky AF. You probably come off conceited and vain too with the way you described yourself (most people who describe themselves as "funny" generally aren't especially women who claim they're "funny.")

"I feel like I can't connect to any man, anywhere"

This definitely isn't true, cause any dating sire will tell you there are LOTS of men you'd be able to connect to. As I already suggested, I would guess your standards are too high and you're probably too self-absorbed. For modern human beings (especially modern Western women), yeah, that's pretty normal, though.

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Minako

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Hmmmm. I feel I am the total opposite... 🤔🤔🤷‍♀️😂

With "funny" I meant... I have a good sense of humour. In fact I only have male friends Cuz my jokes or humour doesn't scare them... I am great at making friends... Male friends cuz i have mostly "male" Hobbys but when it comes to dating... I can't find the person who's open to connect to another level... More than a physical thing.
MCheetah

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Boyfriends/girlfriends are just friends you get to sleep with. So if "you're great at making friends," then you'd naturally be great at making boyfriends, as well. Again, unless you're way too picky/entitled, or way too full of yourself.

The fact you keep having to say "how great" you are, yet can't get a date, seems like common deflection, to me. Like, "It's not my fault men don't want to date me; I'm perfect! I'm perfect AF!"

In case I'm wrong about everything here, like I said, just go on a dating site, then. (An ACTUAL dating site, not garbage like Tinder.)

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Minako

Hmmmm. I feel I am the total opposite... 🤔🤔🤷‍♀️😂

With "funny" I meant... I have a good sense of humour. In fact I only have male friends Cuz my jokes or humour doesn't scare them... I am great at making friends... Male friends cuz i have mostly "male" Hobbys but when it comes to dating... I can't find the person who's open to connect to another level... More than a physical thing.

Answer 3

MCheetah

Boyfriends/girlfriends are just friends you get to sleep with. So if "you're great at making friends," then you'd naturally be great at making boyfriends, as well. Again, unless you're way too picky/entitled, or way too full of yourself.

The fact you keep having to say "how great" you are, yet can't get a date, seems like common deflection, to me. Like, "It's not my fault men don't want to date me; I'm perfect! I'm perfect AF!"

In case I'm wrong about everything here, like I said, just go on a dating site, then. (An ACTUAL dating site, not garbage like Tinder.)

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Avicenna | 11.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Are you sure you’re interpreting things correctly?

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Minako

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I try to read all the signals given and literally I've done nothing but being straight forward and honest about what am I and what I want from that "somebody"...

Once again. Is not like I'm crushing on whoever, all the time. I tend to be careful and choose wisely when it comes to my love interest but the one I choose is always the one that wants nothing to do with me or I am simply not of his interest. I feel like I have no chance to experience dating anymore Cuz I can't find anyone who will date me for who I am.

Answer 5

Minako

I try to read all the signals given and literally I've done nothing but being straight forward and honest about what am I and what I want from that "somebody"...

Once again. Is not like I'm crushing on whoever, all the time. I tend to be careful and choose wisely when it comes to my love interest but the one I choose is always the one that wants nothing to do with me or I am simply not of his interest. I feel like I have no chance to experience dating anymore Cuz I can't find anyone who will date me for who I am.

Answer 6

chriscdi

Master

welcome to real life 🤷🏽‍♂️🙃

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Minako

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Same? 🤔
chriscdi

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it happens lol
Minako

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Meow. 😔😭
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chriscdi

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uh bless you

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Minako

Same? 🤔

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chriscdi

it happens lol

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Minako

Meow. 😔😭

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chriscdi

uh bless you

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REDHOTLINE | 368 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Do you mean you can't find a man?

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Minako

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I have over 40 options but I need a good balance between looks and brains. At age 30 I am not only looking for a good fu&@... I like building certain connexion with that "somebody". Thing is, I set my eye on someone and I take the first step if he's the "shy" type to make him notice that is okay to talk to me... Etc etc. But it always ends up same way. No interest or i am simply nothing special. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
REDHOTLINE

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Ha ha ha 😀😅 you want einstein brain inside the brad pitt... food luck lady coz you need that so much 😀
Minako

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The opinions here let me see that I am fucked... Yep... Well its okay I appreciate it and needed it... The honest truth.

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Minako

I have over 40 options but I need a good balance between looks and brains. At age 30 I am not only looking for a good fu&@... I like building certain connexion with that "somebody". Thing is, I set my eye on someone and I take the first step if he's the "shy" type to make him notice that is okay to talk to me... Etc etc. But it always ends up same way. No interest or i am simply nothing special. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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REDHOTLINE

Ha ha ha 😀😅 you want einstein brain inside the brad pitt... food luck lady coz you need that so much 😀

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Minako

The opinions here let me see that I am fucked... Yep... Well its okay I appreciate it and needed it... The honest truth.

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Anonymous

sometimes bluntness is a major turnoiff

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Minako

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Then... What should I do? 🤔 Do you guys prefer lies or what exactly could help in this case?
Opinion Owner

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there are many ways to say the same thing and your delivery could be the problem. some things are better left unsaid too. Would you want someone to comment on your appearance, even if they felt it was true?>
Minako

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Maybe is the way I've been programmed... I simply speak what I think, I of course try to have tact and think before speaking but when it comes to "hey. I like you and I'd like to know more about you!"... I have no issues with it. I many times heard from guys "oh sucks we always have to make the first move!", "women to take the first step are awesome!". But when you do is like... "huh? What you want?" I'm confused.
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Opinion Owner

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I am not saying that telling a guy that you like him is being too blunt. I was talking in general. Some guys might be turned off by you telling them that and other might not be. I wasn't referring to that in my comments
Minako

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That's the issue, dude. When its good to be or not to be blunt/honest? 😱 I can't guess a man's reaction to honesty... In fact, other comments are making me wonder if it would be better if I just turn into another lying bitch. Men seem to be attracted to those kind.
Opinion Owner

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Would you tell a man that he is ugly?
too short?
smelled?
do you volunteer your opinion when it wasn't asked for?

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Minako

Then... What should I do? 🤔 Do you guys prefer lies or what exactly could help in this case?

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Opinion Owner

there are many ways to say the same thing and your delivery could be the problem. some things are better left unsaid too. Would you want someone to comment on your appearance, even if they felt it was true?>

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Minako

Maybe is the way I've been programmed... I simply speak what I think, I of course try to have tact and think before speaking but when it comes to "hey. I like you and I'd like to know more about you!"... I have no issues with it. I many times heard from guys "oh sucks we always have to make the first move!", "women to take the first step are awesome!". But when you do is like... "huh? What you want?" I'm confused.

Answer 19

Opinion Owner

I am not saying that telling a guy that you like him is being too blunt. I was talking in general. Some guys might be turned off by you telling them that and other might not be. I wasn't referring to that in my comments

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Minako

That's the issue, dude. When its good to be or not to be blunt/honest? 😱 I can't guess a man's reaction to honesty... In fact, other comments are making me wonder if it would be better if I just turn into another lying bitch. Men seem to be attracted to those kind.