Just started dating someone with depression and social anxiety. What should I expect? Please help?

[Anonymous]

Should expect he's more likely to want to stay in than go out. When you do go out, he'll stick to you, let you do most of the talking. Will have days where he just wants to be left alone and may not "be himself."

Other than that, probably about what you're used to.

[TruthBringer]

Imagine holding a glass of water for 20 seconds - No problem.
Imagine holding a glass of water for 20 min - Your arm starts aching
Imagine holding a glass of water for 20 hours - Your arm becomes numb

The weight of the glass has not changed. But the effects on your mental and emotional health will be more and more severe. This is exactly the same thing with dating someone who suffers from depression. The longer you’re dealing with their mood swings and negativity, the more it will hurt you in the long run.

I have been there in the past and I regret it. NEVER AGAIN will I date a depressed person. Hurt people will always hurt people. I ended up in depression for 2 years after I ended my relationship with a chronically depressed girl who I’ve been with for 1.5 years. I’ve never had any problems and was always happy prior to the relationship. But that relationship had DRAINED ME. I’ve spent these 2 years single and wasn’t dating. I wanted to sort out my own issues and not bother someone else with it. Now that I’m over the depression caused by my ex, I am in a healthy & depression-free relationship with a wonderful girl.

Stay away from depressed people, no matter how cruel it sounds. ‘Happy’ people should seek out other ‘happy’ people. And those who are suffering from depression should sort out their issues before turning their lover into a daily personal therapist. Which is exhausting. You’re not obligated to give them something as personal as a relationship. Wish them the best, but don’t drown with them.

[Vulvalicker]

Don’t do it unless he’s under a Drs care