How are nerdy, introverted, socially awkward, eccentric weirdos supposed to get a girlfriend or even a date in a scene not meant for us?

[Anonymous]

You partly answered it at the end of yor question. In normal every day life women won't say 2 words to me.
But when i go to music festivals, clubs, concerts i usually get approached by at least 1 woman.
Why? I'm the same guy, there's no reason for the difference.
Real simple i'm the same, they're just seeing me differently. Alcohol is flowing, music is playing, and they're just out having fun.
Like i've said to you before man. All you can do is cast yourself in the best light possible.

[AlexanderAnttila]

Just go for being the strong and silent type, you're military. Loads of girls will love that!

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you think that there are women in this world who have similar feelings about themselves and not being accepted on the dating scene?

[hahahmm]

"I want a girlfriend" - why? A girlfriend means you think you're in a serious relationship but she sees it as casual and has other dudes behind your back. Yeah, I'm being cynical but it's what happens in like 75-80% of cases so slow down... instead of running towards a "relationship", I suggest you focus on really understanding how much you're worth and then having the mental strength to reject anybody who isn't a good match and worth your time & energy. A lot of guys mess up by being so desperate for a relationship that they settle for the wrong woman.

"I want a date" - why? A date means you pay for some woman who pretends to be interested in you to get some free stuff. Then she goes & sleeps with the other 2-5 dudes she has in rotation for casual. And those guys never take her out on dates.

Stop trying to get a girlfriend. Set life goals that will build your life up & don't require a woman. When you are successful in your goal (s) women will come to you and/or you will have way more confidence and you picking a woman & getting her is not a big deal. Don't waste your time on online dating either.

[Knighted2170]

I can do just that. But there is a limit to how many words I can put in an answer/opinion.

First off embrace your nerdiness. Girls are nerdy as well. I know models who love playing D&D and Magic. You just won't find that in their bio's.

Next know what you want. Define the traits you want the woman to have. It'll help in not wasting your time or theirs on a going no where relationship.

After that, learn to dress in a way that shows your personality. Go a step above the norm. You will attract women who can see what you are about before a conversation even starts.

After that, learn how to approach. Your introverted, so try asking for an opinion at first. It's low risk and no harm, no foul if a conversation doesn't come of it. You will need to learn how to transition from opinion into a conversation. It's not real difficult, but does take practice to make it smooth and natural.

Then learn your natural flirting style. Different styles have different outcomes. Your an introvert so I would say you are either a natural polite or sincere flirt. You might want to learn traditional and physical flirting to increase your chances that the woman knows you are actually flirting with her.

Like I said I am limited on how long I can do an answer/opinion. I can't get into great detail, but I hope this much helps.

Hit me up with a pm if you have questions.

[PushOrganic]

Dude listen

Find an immigrant woman in the US.

Let me explain, being a US citizen gives a attraction power up, her ticket to becoming an American, and "improving the race" to her family. Immigrant women are more feminine, they haven't been distorted by privileges like American girls here have, and to add to my last point speaking of privilege, they are disadvantaged because they have to jump through more hoops to get anywhere economically.

They will run to your open American arms. You served our country, the strongest military this planet has ever seen, the most economically powerful country in history, where people all over the world leave everything behind so they can be here. You have a lot going for you. You probably learned a lot about leadership too

You'll literally have the relationship under your full control. If your dating an immigrant, add plus 3 to your attraction level because to her you are an upgrade

Where can you find them? Go to a majority Spanish speaking neighborhood of your city, if you don't live in the city, move to one

[CasKimchi]

I just finished my contract in the US Navy and I understand how hard it is to find love in the military. I still know 30 years olds on my ship who’s still never had a girlfriend who one that could last at least a year or so. I’ve found love many times in my short years but they all never worked out and honestly maybe it wasn’t love because we’re all so stressed out and emotionally exhausted from what work takes from us that we’d find comfort in what we can get to feel sane. To keep us from breaking. For some the military is a relationship. But all I can say is that the right one takes time, the right one will somehow end up in your military schedule and it’ll make sense.

[Avicenna]

There aren’t enough equally nerdy women to fill this need. It used to be that Asian women were the preferred partners, and since you’re in Cali, maybe you should focus on them?
Guys like you describe are more marriageable than Datenabgleich, so they should focus on finding a wife instead of a girlfriend.

[LEADFOOTboi]

Q - Q i gotta agree... maybe wierdo eccentric womens are for us... but I don't know... but the dating environment is entirely secular now... everyone thinks they need to go to bars and drink and have nasty sects with eachother in the first 2 months to be happy or have fun...

[hellionthesagereborn]

That is a question I have wondered as well, if you find an answer let me know. Currently the only options avialable are to just know people and have it happen naturally when you do find some one you click with.

[FictionalCharacter]

That’s a surprise to me. I thought all you military guys would land a date/girlfriend/wife easily. Since you guys travel a lot around the world.

[Mogtar]

Mogtar think you need some strategery. Ambush, find weak point. Every girl has weak point. Strategery.

[boggboss]

By finding a women thats not into that type of stuff simply out it will be hard but many women are turned off by louder crowds

[WowwGirl]

Yeah I'd already have new plans because I'd assume you said no

[Agape93]

Try for calmer countries. Scandinavia, the UK and such are good for it.

[ColHathi]

I think you're right. We're fucked. Unless you can luck out or not be those things, you're fucked. 😥

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Could you get reassigned to another place in the world? The American dating scene is failing the majority of men and women, not just you

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You won't get one. You have to interact with woman if you ever plan on getting a girl.

[genericname85]

there's plenty of such women xD know your target group. that's the first step.

[zomegagon]

Bro, you're just seeing social media, which is skewed. There non-normies out there, you just gotta find em!

[bamesjond0069]

you're not supposed to. Try to be better. Being awkward is not a good thing to aspire to. Go improve yourself and then try again.

[Apple1996]

Gotta find someone as nerdy as you to date.