Why do women choose security over love?

[Knighted2170]

I think you're either combining or confusing two separate things.

There is monetary security and then there is emotional security. When I talk to women almost all of them define security as the emotional type.

Now, you want a transactional relationship where you stay with them so long as the money keeps rolling, that's up to you.

But most women I know want to know the guy is going to be there for them emotionally. He has their back when they they need him and the world is seemingly coming apart around her.
She can trust him not to cheat or take her for granted.
He is emotionally stable and strong. He be her rock when things seem unstable in other areas of her life.
He can be her sounding board when she has no one else to talk or vent her frustrations to.

Listening to the women I have talked to, that's the definition of security I have adopted.

[Somoneelse]

If my biology teacher is correct about this: It's because woman are "programmed" to make sure they and the children can survive. They want to be sure of a stable situation.

Other theory: Golddiggers...

[hellacray]

Lol I don't think they do. A lot of women seem to think the guy they meet at high school or the club is the one. And stick with him until they drive each other nuts.

They mistake their young infatuation for love and may even end up marrying over it. Then you know divorce happens etc..

I don't like gold diggers either, but it makes sense to date a guy that has a job and their act together.

Falling for a guy that's broke, has no job, and isn't doing anything with his life just makes no sense. But hey it happens, women complain about it.

Yet they still stick with that loser because he's so damn sweet...

[RingOfFire]

It's in our DNA from millions of years of evolution. A man's role is to be a provider of security and protection for the family. A woman's role is to bear children and provide nurturing for the family. Each is designed both physically and mentally for their role. We can make believe that the roles are interchangeable as the latest fad in certain societies seems to be obsessed with trying to do, but our DNA says otherwise. Each of the two genders is naturally attractive to those things that demonstrate that the someone of the opposite gender would be good at their roles. It's nature.

[silvermoon84]

Not all do. I want to marry for love, but he has to be in love with me as well. I won’t marry unless the feeling is mutual, or else I’m good staying single. I’d rather just not marry that get married to someone I can’t stand who’s touch repulses me just because he’s rich.

[MecheD]

It’s one of the oldest traditions that still is in effect. It was taught for them to look for someone with ambition to take on the world (financially). But not only that a lot of those circumstances are drawn based on kids or if they’ve got someone they look after. Truth be told bud it’s when they realize money doesn’t bring you happiness is when they will come around so until then work on you. And good luck

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is broke. We both have college work study jobs and are going into education. My family is worried since he comes from an impoverished family. However, I love him, and he’s perfect for me in every way. With what little money we make, we try to buy things for one another. I wouldn’t date a permanent bum, but I’m not dating for money. It’s the 21st century, if I’m working either way, then I want love not cash.

[jasco]

Well this is my personal reason for not choosing someone with no future, Simply put why would a broke, stupid, not willing to better themselves want to help me build my future. Why would she wanna help take care of my kids and help me in other areas. Would she even care enough to do anything with her life at all. Someone whose been broke for a long time is just lazy unless you live in this time period and u been broke for a few months. I can understand that

[Kiss_Me]

I call it going Pro. If you are trading sexual acts for good or services, you are officially a Prostitute.
NEVER, EVER again can they get pissed for being called a whore.

[cherryblossomXD]

I rather not date old guys. Money just means we would be financially stable and it would not be stressor in our relationship. But I only care about if we are compatible.

[Anonymous]

Safety in a secure position is easier than to take risks where there is a possibility that you end up with nothing. It's the same when it comes to asking somebody out – the fear of resentment can be stronger than the interest and responsibilities that come with a relationship. It is as many say—ignorance is bliss, better safe than sorry.

[Avicenna]

Hate to say it, but it makes perfect sense. There is too much economic instability to ignore someone being broke if they don’t have good financial prospects.

[bamesjond0069]

Why do you assume you can only love a young man? Are you extremely shallow and looks are the only thing that makes you fall in love? Maybe some girls like hard working men so a lazy younger guy they see as having a shitty personality.

[jshm2]

Because you can love nearly any idiot. But security can mean life or death.

[jamesgoldman]

Security is a basic requirement according to the heirarchy of needs by Maslow
Love is a desire not a need

[sheikalana]

Because they think a rich guy will probably give them a better life and future.

[Anonymous]

If you said older women i'd agree ( for obvious reasons). But i don't agree. Women aren't logical enough to choose money over love. If they are choosing money over love it's simple. They love material things.

[DocT1977]

Doesn't apply to all women, but the ones who go that route are superficial and fake. Any man with any dignity at all should avoid these types at all costs. They are just extremely expensive hookers and nothing more.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Some women are gold digger.

[Wedimir]

It's all at the level of the subconscious, instincts. A woman, as in the cave age, chooses what will protect her and her offspring. A beggar can't take care of her)

[Pejtu]

She prefairs $$$$$$ then Anything else
Simple as that

[Machiavellio]

Because after having too many sexual partners love don't mean a thing. That vagina is numb lol