Gentlemen, what would you do if you take a girl out on a date and she stayed glued to her phone?
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DeeDeeDeVour | 1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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2 mo
On a 4th date, everything was going well (just like the previous dates) until he got a call from an ex girlfriend who nagged him for the rest of our dinner. I told him he could have the rest of the night dealing with her as long as he allows me to go my own way from the restaurant or he can put his phone on silent mode and concentrate on both of us. But, every time his phone vibrated, he picked it up to check the screen, reply to a message and answer a call. I later told him that I believed he still has lots of unsettled issues with "others" and asked him if I be excused for the rest of the night. So, I asked a friend to pick me up and proceeded to a club with her.
He called me over a week after that night and admitted that he can't seem to move on yet. I appreciated that and gave him my blessings. Eventually, years later, he dated another friend of mine who vocally complained that he was always "distracted" in all 3 dates they had together. My friend & I last heard that he's still unattached.
Anyone that does that shows a lack of manners and respect... And shows that that's not someone that would have their priorities in order, big red flag there... If they can't even put their phone down to invest time getting to know you, will they really invest time in you or a relationship? The date would be over before the check came for me, the date would be over the minute the phone came out...
@Unit1 but if they said that you would know what they were doing right 🤔 and they ain't even finished dinner yet, isn't it a little presumptuous to be planning the next date 🤣🤣 and you know damn well that's not what she's doing, she probably planning the next date alright, with someone else, our checking up on her man and kids at home 🤣🤣🤣
My point is most people are too trigger happy or jumping the gun. I even heard an opinion around here (from a blue) that even if it's just to check the time/date he'd leave her on the spot.
@Unit1 you don't think it's rude to just be on your phone throughout dinner? Or on a date period? Too many people do that these days... Can't even do anything without being on their phone... That ain't being trigger happy... That's giving them more time for their phone cuz obviously that means more to them
@Unit1 then it's called "excuse me I'm so sorry, but I really have to take this call"... Or "I need to check on the kids/babysitter"... But again, that's not what usually happens... They usually checking notifications, texts, etc
I’d leave and be blunt/honest about why. I wouldn’t block her. Depending on how far she goes to apologize (if at all) and get another date would determine if I’d see her again. Of she really goes out of her way I’d give it another shot.
I believe in learning and giving people room to grow. I also like to believe that most people aren’t inherently rude or bad. People are complicated. Maybe other men she’s dated tolerated it and she doesn’t feel men expect much of her. Maybe she was nervous and her friends were giving her advice.
If I took her out again and she did the same thing, I wouldn’t see her again. If she didn’t do it again, problem solved. One date isn’t enough time to know a person’s not worth your time unless they do something extreme.
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2 mo
I'd actually aim to learn a few things from the experience, among them:
1) What did I plan for a date that opened up the possibility of her being glued to her phone? Perhaps I need to plan a different date next time? 2) How was I doing at being engaging? Perhaps not so well if she was on the phone. 3) Is she interested in me at all? How have I screened for this? Don't spend money (i. e., pay for a dinner) on girls you're not at LEAST hooking up with. 4) Is she hot enough and interested enough that I can put up with this?
1- Irrelevant, being glued to ones phone is rude and shows lack of interest 2- Irrelevant Being engaging is a two way street, If she is there to be on her phone she should not have come at all 3- Her actions would indicate no. 4- No girl is hot enough to suffer that kind of disrespect. I stand by what i said, i would leave her with her half of the check and block her. If i were an asshole, i would leave her with the whole check, but im not an asshole.
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2 mo
Hey, if she's hot and wants to hook up I have no problem with her being on the phone. Would I have an exclusive relationship with her? Probably not. But if she's hot and wants to get down--game on.
Also a good reason to at least make out before planning a dinner date. At least then you know she's interested enough to get it on.
These questions are good if you want to improve your game, apart from the last one, to which the answer is always "no".
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2 mo
@Barbaric The answer to the last one is most definitely not always no. If she's super model hot and if she's down to fuck, I don't give a damn if she's on her phone all the way through dinner. I'll put up with that if she's going to service me afterwards.
I'd finish the dinner, suggest we smash and then go cold fish and make her work for the next date. If she was like that and we didn't smash I'd just ignore her going forward.
I'd call the date early and get out. Rude women or men with their cell phones don't do it for me and if it's a first date or early in the dating ritual then get out and get out quick.
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Anonymous2 moI'd actually aim to learn a few things from the experience, among them:
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