Girls, is it ok to date multiple people at the same time (without committing yet) so that if one doesn't work out, there are still the others?

[Cynicaldreamer]

Personally I don't agree with it, or do so, because when I'm dating a guy I ONLY focus on him! Not other guys.

That way I can get to know him better and see if we are compatible: it's hard to get to know a person if you're juggling to learn different names and personalities, meaning you'll have a harder time connecting with a person.

That "keeping your options open" bs irks me. Date one person and get to know them. If they're wrong for you, then see someone else! It's not that complicated.

If another person approaches you at the same time you're seeing someone, tell them, "I'm getting to know someone right now. Hopefully it works out, but if not, can I contact you?" How hard is it to be honest with people?
I'd respect and like a guy WAY more if he told me that, than seeing me, and x amount of other women on the side.

If a guy comes to me and says he's seeing other girls, or I'm not the only girl he's with? Gone.
When he's ready to get to know just me? He can come find me.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I said no, not because it or polyamory in itself is bad, but because most people do it TO avoid the responsibility of proper communication, expectation setting, and working towards integrating another person into a sustainable lifestyle.

Often, because one is conflict avoidant, one avoids spending too much time with one person where conflict is inevitable. When one has options, it becomes very easy to jump ship and ghost instead of sitting down and talking about what behavior of theirs upset you to understand the miscommunication.

If you are serious about finding someone, usually dating one at a time, and 'pulling the plug' early, is a straightforward strategy to maximize your time, while also not leading someone else on.

We all want to be the "good guy" and to not deliver the bad news. But when you are interacting with other people intimately, the kindest thing to do is to timebox your decisions so the other person knows you are looking for some criteria, not just using them for convenience.

If you're at a point in your life where you know you wouldn't let a romantic partner change the outcome of your life, be up front about it. Its okay. Weve all been there. There are plenty of people out there who would also not choose a partner over a career and its easiest to build healthy balanced relationships with people who also want that.

[little_bird1]

I'm against it. Because why would you date others if it's going well with one? It's totally okay being friendly and staying in touch with others in case it doesn't work out, obviously you don't push people away just because you're unavailable at the moment. But going on dates and being intimate with others is just bad in my opinion. If you were serious about wanting a relationship and you are decent, mature human being wouldn't do that. Just don't actively seek others and politely decline when approached.

[Alyssa11]

I used to be loyal to each guy I ever talked to/dated. It's a stupid concept personally, because rarely did the other party ever do that and I always ended up heartbroken. Every time I meet a new guy now I am reminded of the immense pain I'd felt in the past, and I've promised myself I'm never committing to someone until I've been given a very good and stable reason to do so.

[Butterflyy88]

If you're being sneaky about it, then no. But if you tell me up front that you're keeping your options open, than fair enough. Obviously it's ok if you're trying to find you're best suit, just don't make out there aren't others and lead me on.

[Minnie97]

I feel it is absolutely fine. If you are not committed or have a title with anyone then you would still be in the " dating" stages and free to see whomever you like. I will say, that if this is the case itd be nice to let everyone involved know

[PrettyBama]

I wouldn’t have sex with multiple at the same time but i usually have 2-3 people in rotation for dates. Until someone says “I want you to be my girlfriend” I’ll assume they don’t want me to be lmao

[angelgirl7]

As long as you're open about that up front, I don't see the problem. That way a girl can choose if she wants to get involved with you or if she'd rather be in a monogamous relationship.

[tae_ie]

Instead of dating them at the same time, why don’t you just try to get to know them one on one and just pick which one you feel a connection with, And if it doesn’t work out just move on.

[Hangry22]

It's up to you and the person you're dating
It's not ok for me. Loyalty is my number one priority and i need it from the beginning

[Zhisad]

Nope that's cheating especially if you plan on sleeping with other woman.

[ririissleepy]

If everyone you are dating knows that it is not exclusive it is fine.