There is that man who asked me out and he seemed to be super into me, and so I was. The thing is that when I told him that I was middle eastern he immediately stopped to be attracted to me, and he told me that he felt trapped cause I have blue eyes, blonde hair and an international name that doesn’t look arabe , and that if he knew that I wasn’t a real “white girl” he wouldn’t have been attracted to me, and that he would rather date a white girl who looks ethnic over an ethnic white passing woman like me, which is quite confusing for me. Why did my ethnicity turned him off? Just so you know, it has nothing to do with religion cause I’m a Christian just like him.
Many people believe stereotypes, and these stereotypes often control their choices. It's no different from believing horoscopes. With generalizations, people can believe whatever they choose. Either this guy believes negatives associated with the stereotype, or he isn't confident enough to deal with the flack he'll receive from others who believe negative stereotypes. You haven't lost anything by not having the opportunity to be with this closed-minded individual. How can a white-power individual associate with someone who isn't purely white genetically. Isn't this what was promoted by Hitler? The pure race is responsible for keeping the race pure. Unfortunately, there are too many people who still look up to Hitler and Trump, preferring hatred to harmony.
OneManOnly01 | 71 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Yes, that can happen, and you can’t really control who you are attracted to, physically.
But this case that you described, it was not about attraction, he was actually playing a silly ‘mind game’ on you, he probably is still attracted to you but he’s trying to make you insecure by telling you that.
That guy’s an idiot, he doesn’t have no belief or conviction in himself and he needs to play the cheap tactic.
Don’t get into a relationship with him because he will keep that up with you, he’ll keep putting you down and insulting and disrespecting you.
Based off the story you told, he’s racist, that’s his loss. I’m sure you’re stunning. In the long term you deserve someone who will accept you for who you are. I think you can reject people based off differences, and finding them unattractive. However, that’s not what happened to you. He sounds awful
NamerOfStars | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Well, you CAN, but it'd suck. It'd be a bit more reasonable if it were a cultural thing, and perhaps still more so if it were a religious thing (particularly if you want kids), but if it's just an ethnic thing? Well, better to have them reject you straight off, if they're the kind of person who would.
Still sucks to go through, though.
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Makeushiver | 303 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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I suppose you can if you're so inclined-as long as it isn't a work related relationship with laws protecting against that. It seems stupid to me to outright reject the possiblity of meeting someone hot and with similar mindsets just due to race or religion.
You can reject someone for their ethnicity, yes. That's called racism. It still exists even today. Not much we can do about it when it comes to choice of potential partner. It's sad, but at least you dodged a bullet.
I dated someone who I thought was caucasian and french, turned out they are from the middle east, I didn't bat an eyelid i just liked them for who they are.
You can reject anyone for any reason. Everyone is entitled to, and has a right to their own preferences no matter what anyone else has to say about it.
I had few dates with Black girl and well No way im gonna do that again probably Why Because all her family members and her brother also said he cannot be part of the family he ain't black Am like okay dude F this im out
You could be Northern Middle Eastern which explains why you have Blonde hair, Blue eyes it makes no difference to me, the guy sounds like a jerk, My friend I would move on Usually Southern Middle Eastern people have darker brown hair and brown eyes
Maybe he's worried it won't work out and is avoiding the drama early on. If you really like him, try and ask him again. Otherwise girl, there are so many men who might be attracted to you.
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