If two people ask you to choose between them, how do you choose?

[Keyboardkat]

You mean like if I love two women and each one says about the other, "It's her or me"? That's a tough one, since whichever one you choose, you might have thoughts at times that you should have picked the other one! The first time you two get in an argument, you're gonna think, "Dang, why didn't I choose the other one?"
One possible way of choosing is, if you were sick or went through some bad times, did one of them seem to really care for you and to be there for you, more than the other one? But maybe that didn't happen, so then we're left with... what?
Whichever you choose, you're going to make someone really happy, and you're going to really hurt the other one, and she's presumably nice, also. I just can't come up with an answer!
A story: The great composer and pianist Franz Liszt (1811-1886) used to leave an urn at the front of the stage for people to drop in requests for what they wanted him to play. He once reached in and instead of a musical request, there was a life question: "Is it better to marry or to remain single?" (You know, celebrities are supposed to have superior wisdom to all the rest of us).
He thought a minute and said, "Whichever course one chooses, one is sure to regret it." It's not a helpful answer here, but I though it was an amusing story.

[Knighted2170]

If I hadn't chosen either one by that point, it's likely I wasn't going to choose to begin with.

It's no secret that I date multiple people at the same time. They know it, their cool with it. They also know I'm looking for specific traits.

So, playing along with the question, I would choose the one who displayed the most, or a stronger sense of, the traits I'm looking for.

Having those traits means we have the best chance at a deeper and more meaningful relationship than someone who has fewer.

Just to be clear, the traits are not looks. They are characteristics I look for.

[DizzyDesii]

I should be a love triangle expertise at this point 🤣 but tbh almost all my choices were the wrong choice. I always chose who wanted what i wanted in that moment. I thought they would be longterm but nope almost all were just into “the now.” So i say choose someone whos into what you want NOW AND THEN. They need to have same or similar beliefs/goals/interests. A lot of the short term had the beliefs/interests and SHORT TERM goals but not LONG TERM goals. So thats where i failed

[proNutro]

You don’t. You leave both. If you cannot decide who you want then I believe you don’t truly want any of them. If you wanted one of them then you’d already know your answer deep down.


Just save them both the trouble and tell them both to move on. I don’t even know why a woman would even ask you to choose between them because if it was me and a man didn’t know who he wanted, I’d gladly tell him to pick the other girl because I’m out haha.

[In_Trance]

walk away from both

[Anonymous]

Eeny Meeny Miny Moe

[Epic-Jerome]

Flip coin