If you’re in the talking stages of dating, do you expect to connect with that person everyday?

[90sVibe]

I don't expect it at all because I'm an adult with responsibilities that can take up all my energy on some days and I, nor he owes eachother that kind of investment at that stage.

Don't get me wrong, it's nice to pursue or even interact regularly and every day and there's nothing wrong with it, but I don't expect it and am not bothered if it doesn't happen. It's a lot of fun and makes you feel special and brings a new element of excitement to your day but that will soon fade. Time in person is much more important and beneficial for a relationship even a new one rather than texts or snaps.

People are too obsessive with infatuation and need to learn boundaries with their time and interaction with others. I'm not going to blow off a phone call with my close friend of 5 years for some guy who asked for my snap or number a few days ago and have been flirting with. New interactions and relationships are fun and exciting but that's not a good enough reason to place a lot of pressure or expectations on each other like that.

[evangeline777]

I wouldn't want to talk, chat, meet that person every day.
I know I need some space. I am sure he needs some space to miss me, so even if I think about him every day, I intentionally stop myself reaching out on a daily basis.

If we get to the living together phase, I'd definitely leave them to be during the day. We meet in the evening, so I really don't need to be in a 24/7 contact.

[Kurαȷ]

Well, yes.
If I like someone I would want to talk to them consistently, and I kind of hope the same is true for them too.

Of course, I would only expect that in terms of meaningful conversation.
If they had a busy day and they don't have the faith that they will be able to hold a meaningful conversation, then I wouldn't think anything about having no contact that day.

If they contact me to let me know that this is the case that particular day, just to clarify that they aren't flaking on me, that would be appreciated, but it is not necessary.
Of course, for as long as they have that explanation ready the next day, and it doesn't become a common occurrence with that person.

[CaptainOverthink]

Nah.
There's too many responsibilities in life to be present by the phone waiting for the next text.
If they really NEED to hear from me then at least call me instead. Or suggest to meet.

I understand that if you're younger and life at work hasn't hit you yet then you might find it easier to tap away at the phone and be all obsessive and shit.
But I think longing to talk and be with someone is way better for your health than constantly crave their attention 24/7, patience.

The fact that they have a life beyond apps on their phone is a good sign. Put your phone down and get busy. Check in later.

[Knighted2170]

No not every day. It's too much and comes off as clingy.

It's nice for the first couple days, but we need time to live our own lives and just to have time to ourselves. Time to just think about the other person.

If it's been a day or two I'll send a little querky message or something nice.

Something like "Okay" or "Sure thing." She'll get that text back "what?" Then I can play like I heard her thoughts.

Or, I'll send a message like "just thinking of you" or send a flower emoji with a follow-up "I forgot the number to 1-800-flowers, that's the best I can right now"

Keep it light and fun but let them know you're thinking of them.

[MissDawn7961]

I voted no for I think it would be to much on my man to talk to me everyday especially if he has to work for a living but we can talk to each other every other day ! thanks

[Butterflyy88]

I think it's good to have some time away from talking, that way you don't run out of things to talk about and you'll appreciate the conversations more.

[Billie_]

Yes, but not excessively. A small catchup at the end of the day is nice. Not texting all day long though.

[kikino]

Possibly but depending on your work or school schedule mabye not every day but like 36hrs or every other day with a few daily chats.

[Avicenna]

No, that's too much unless there is incredible chemistry, and in that case you should be going exclusive anyway.

[GoogleWasMyIdea]

I said yes but it honestly depends. I don’t wanna feel forced to text you everyday. It’s better that I wanna talk to you everyday naturally.

[Gedaria]

I would it depends on what she wants. Work and family can get in the way.

[Anonymous]

I want to talk to my girlfriend as little as possible, Its more like a doctors appointment then a connecting.

[Kayla45]

Not everyday no, life takes priority.

[anon1903]

Yeah obvious