Do abusers really change when they say they will?

[Anonymous]

Not from my experience. My ex would attack me, leave bruises, see the bruises and will start crying or whining about how he needs help and that he’s bipolar with anger issues and that I should be treated like a queen etc sometimes he’ll even apologize with sex but a day or two later, if I said or did anything he didn’t like or if he had built up anger from something that had nothing to do with me he would threaten me just by balling up his fist and moving closer to me. He was an asshole about it. He knew that made me vulnerable and afraid. It had gotten so bad I would jump whenever He made any sudden moves even if I knew he wasn’t upset. Some days I would literally be sleep and jump out of my sleep from envisioning him about to hit me. I had ptsd from it. Sometimes he would even blame me saying “You make me hit you when you do etc etc etc.” so no for the most apart it’s just manipulation when they apologize and say they will change.

[dwiller943]

Abusers NEVER change. They just get better at hiding their abusive side.

[spartan55]

They might change after they finally murder you and go to prison.

[RoxyFoxx]

Some do, most don't. In general, it's NOT worth trusting their promises.

[codyccc]

99.7% not unless they went to prison or something extreme like that

[Snakeyes7]

9/10 they won't unless they get therapy, or they will just be better at flying it under the radar.

[Lunatic1]

Almost never, they usually just change their target or their methods if they change at all.

[Anonymous]

No, some might but most dont because change is extremely difficult for everyone. We behave a certain way for a good reason

[Anonymous]

No abusers are the biggest bunch of liars.

[FCDALLASFAN]

No!!!

[Anonymous]

nope.

[Anonymous]

Typically no.

[Anonymous]

No that lie is part of the abuse

[Pejtu]

No they never change

[Anonymous]

Nah never.