Is America turning into Japan when it comes to dating and relationships?

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Yes

No

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Answer 1

Cynicaldreamer | 3.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

You make it sound like that's a bad thing. Personally I don't see the issue: being single isn't a bad thing, especially if you choose to be that way and you're happy!

I think people everywhere, not just in America, are beginning to realize the perks of being single outweigh being in a relationship. Is that sad? To a degree, yes. But let's look over that article again: people are choose to stay single instead of pursuing relationships. What does that tell you? They're putting their own happiness over chasing after someone that may or may not be right for them. Not to mention, they don't like or want to deal with the dating scene: I don't blame them!!!

Personally I like being a "herbivore."
You carnivores have at the dating scene and all the drama that goes with it. I'm going to spend my Sunday doing what makes my herbivore self happy: playing video games and relaxing :)

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coachTanthony

1 y
No pancakes?
Cynicaldreamer

1 y
Nah, I had pancakes yesterday... oh, I should have taken a picture and shown you and Beauty! I topped them with whip cream and sliced bananas: they were delicious, lol.

This morning I had leftover pizza (which was not very good).
coachTanthony

1 y
I had yogurt and coffee but I love cold left over pizza and coffee... so good!
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lilyanony1

1 y
Is there an article to read?
Cynicaldreamer

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@lilyanony1 Yeah! You didn't see it- it's right underneath the picture.
Cherokeehp

1 y
Being single does not have perks that outweigh being in a relationship. They both have pros and cons, and they’re generally about equal, and it all comes down to personal preference and values.
Tea-Spaghetti

1 y
I don't like japanese culture I think they are judgmental. I typed this in a post but @coachTanthony deleted it. Shame on him. Japanese people are judgmental to other Asians and are a bad example for other countries. I think their culture is highly overrated. Why are japanese so judgmental?
lilyanony1

1 y
@Cynicaldreamer maybe because I'm on my mobile I can't see it. I can just see the two Asians sitting together 😢

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coachTanthony

No pancakes?

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Cynicaldreamer

Nah, I had pancakes yesterday... oh, I should have taken a picture and shown you and Beauty! I topped them with whip cream and sliced bananas: they were delicious, lol.

This morning I had leftover pizza (which was not very good).

Answer 4

coachTanthony

I had yogurt and coffee but I love cold left over pizza and coffee... so good!

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lilyanony1

Is there an article to read?

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Cynicaldreamer

@lilyanony1 Yeah! You didn't see it- it's right underneath the picture.

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Cherokeehp

Being single does not have perks that outweigh being in a relationship. They both have pros and cons, and they’re generally about equal, and it all comes down to personal preference and values.

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Tea-Spaghetti

I don't like japanese culture I think they are judgmental. I typed this in a post but @coachTanthony deleted it. Shame on him. Japanese people are judgmental to other Asians and are a bad example for other countries. I think their culture is highly overrated. Why are japanese so judgmental?

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lilyanony1

@Cynicaldreamer maybe because I'm on my mobile I can't see it. I can just see the two Asians sitting together 😢

Answer 10

RoxyFoxx

Xper 5

Not just the USA, but all developed countries. In fact, while Japan gets all the news, the same pattern of low rates of sexual activity, marriage and childbirth is found in South Korea, Italy, Greece and Germany. The economies of them all have peaked, which means that younger people know that the future will NOT get any better. Also, pornography is available for free in limitless quantities online, and most parents have only one child which they are very overprotective of, because of which they prevent their children from dating until after college.
On the other hand, in countries with rapidly growing economies like China, Vietnam or India, the opposite is happening: young people know the future is going to be better, and so they're celebrating by having lots of sex.

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Answer 11

bamesjond0069 | 2.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Yeah. Typical modern relationships are shit in my opinion. There are only three acceptable options in my opinion.

1. Traditional relationship. No hoes. If a girl slept around then she's not acceptable. If she's not sweet and family oriented it won't go anywhere either.

2. Hugh heffner playboy. If i can't find a good girl, id like 2 or 3 ho girlfriends who i dont need to commit to in a marriage sense but maybe they are serious enough we can live together etc. They can rotate out if better girls present themselves. Only requirements is they are hot and dont annoy me.

3. Just pure single. Putz around here and there with occasional hookups or super casual relationships that will definitely go nowhere on purpose.

No other option is acceptable at all to me.

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MCheetah | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Yes. Too many feminists and cucks, gold diggers and simps, and thots and f*ckbois out there making it hard for the normal people who just want to meet someone and enjoy each other's company. We're soon going to be a Children of Men society in the West and most people on Earth will only be Brazilians, Indians, and Chinese.

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AmandaYVR | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

Yes!! My husband and I talk about this all the time. Will America go the way of Japan?

I hope not. But it's definitely leaning in.

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lilyanony1 | 312 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I have no issue finding a guy especially when online dating but I find what makes for initial attraction isn't usually conducive to a long term thing. In all honesty I find it a little repulsive that guys selling points are the size of their equipment and how much money they're earning. I really dislike too that every guy seems to want a kim kardashian type woman/entrepreneur.
Might make me seem like I'm not ambitious but why should I be something other than I'm not, I'm not trying to change you, I'm trying to get yo know you.
Ugh!
I'm tired of people atm.
I'm giving up tbh.
I don't want to be famous.
I also don't want to be some kind of influencer either.
And since I'm dark skinned and a black woman I'm not really saying much for most men anyways.
Except what's between my legs so since I'm not really that interested in it anymore I think I'm kind of happy to look into this lifestyle.

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Answer 15

Anonymous

From a perspective of Japanese living in America- I don't think most people are actually disinterested in sexual activity or relationship stuff in general. They would be more than happy to get a partner and have sex if they could. At the end of the day we all want to love and be loved. It's just that things are more competitive than ever (a bachelors' degree is literally a minimum thing to get a decent job now. It wasn't before.) and most of us are either too busy or too stressed out to be involved in lovey-dovey stuff.
I can't speak of America but from what I've seen, a lot of my American friends in their 20s seem to have a hard time balancing work and their love life.

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VanillaSalt

1 y
Not really. I mean making $18/hour as an electrician isn’t bad. I work factory and though most of my 70k/ years overtime Japanese no stranger to long hours and hard work.
Opinion Owner

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@VanillaSalt I'm aware of people like you who are doing just fine w/o a college degree. I'm just saying that having a degree gives them more career options as most teenagers/20somethings are kinda lost and don't know exactly what they wanna do. Besides, not everyone can become successful as an electrician.
VanillaSalt

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Literally everyone with good studying skills can become an electrician and can make it. Also debt needs to be considered.
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Tea-Spaghetti

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I don't like japanese culture I think they are judgmental. I typed this in a post but @coachtanthony deleted it. Shame on him. Japanese people are judgmental to other Asians and are a bad example for other countries. I think their culture is highly overrated. Why are japanese so judgmental? ↗

Answer 16

VanillaSalt

Not really. I mean making $18/hour as an electrician isn’t bad. I work factory and though most of my 70k/ years overtime Japanese no stranger to long hours and hard work.

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Opinion Owner

@VanillaSalt I'm aware of people like you who are doing just fine w/o a college degree. I'm just saying that having a degree gives them more career options as most teenagers/20somethings are kinda lost and don't know exactly what they wanna do. Besides, not everyone can become successful as an electrician.

Answer 18

VanillaSalt

Literally everyone with good studying skills can become an electrician and can make it. Also debt needs to be considered.

Answer 19

Tea-Spaghetti

I don't like japanese culture I think they are judgmental. I typed this in a post but @coachtanthony deleted it. Shame on him. Japanese people are judgmental to other Asians and are a bad example for other countries. I think their culture is highly overrated. Why are japanese so judgmental? ↗

Answer 20

JSmuve | 3.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

No idea. But I do wonder what's going through the guy's mind in the picture when he sees his presumed "date" doing whatever she's doing. Probably something like, "what the fuck is this broad doing? Is this what's acutally out there nowadays; a bunch of half-retarded girls who take pictures of themselves pretending to eat while being oblivious to everyone else with them? Paaaaaaaass"

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Answer 21

Iceseeyou25

Xper 5

I don't care what anyone says. Relationships are not supposed to hurt. If your better off not being in the relationship with the person you are with then it isn't going to work. Another thing is that relationships aren't 50/50. But whatever. Why should I date a guy who says I'm pretty for a black girl when he's black himself? Why can't I just be pretty?

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Puppystarfish23 | 110 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

I doubt Americans will ever be similar to the Japanese they are the complete opposite in everything they do.

Japanese people tend to be shy, reversed and have everything small whilst most Americans are friendly, chatty people and have everything big compared to other countries.

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InferiorElegy | 889 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

It is to a point, men are opting out of relationships because it's safer to do so, to focus on careers, to be able to do whatever they want without having to ask someone else if it's ok.
Females are opting out of relationships as well for careers.

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InferiorElegy

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The difference between Japan and Western countries doing this is that females in Japan have been dubbed carnivorous women, which means as the men no longer hunt or chase to date the females, the females of the country have decided to take on that role, something that won't happen in western countries.

Answer 24

InferiorElegy

The difference between Japan and Western countries doing this is that females in Japan have been dubbed carnivorous women, which means as the men no longer hunt or chase to date the females, the females of the country have decided to take on that role, something that won't happen in western countries.

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DocT1977 | 248 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I don't think being single is all that bad. As a married man, I can honestly say there are pros and cons on each end. You just have to find what's right for you.

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Answer 26

OmNomaly

Xper 5

I wish that people would take time to become good friends first..

I have yet to see that. I see more hook up culture than I do anything else.

More like an orgy pit from ancient Greece

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Answer 27

Anonymous

Japanese men are incel without the hate.

Just allow prostitution 95% rather sell their pussy than work.

And if you want kids you can buy a chicks womb.

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Opinion Owner

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a lot of Japanese men not all
coachTanthony

1 y
They also now have SOLO weddings where the woman who knows it will never happen can do through a day like a Bride without the dude. It's certainly creating business opportunities lol
Opinion Owner

1 y
Lop that funny American woman are staring the Same thing called Self-parntering haha
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Opinion Owner

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Lol.

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Opinion Owner

a lot of Japanese men not all

Answer 29

coachTanthony

They also now have SOLO weddings where the woman who knows it will never happen can do through a day like a Bride without the dude. It's certainly creating business opportunities lol

Answer 30

Opinion Owner

Lop that funny American woman are staring the Same thing called Self-parntering haha

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Opinion Owner

Lol.

Answer 32

Anonymous

I do believe it is. I think the single biggest reason is cost of living. The cost of living for general America has gone up but wages have not followed suite. We’re in a time where career comes before relationships and people are ok with that. There’s students loans, careers goals, cost of living and children are very expensive with no return investment as cruel as it may sound. That’s just the tip of the iceberg

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IamLisaSmith

Xper 5

Yes I think so. We are focused on our careers and Men play video games.

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coachTanthony

1 y
Bahahahahaha we do love our Call of Duty!

Answer 34

coachTanthony

Bahahahahaha we do love our Call of Duty!

Answer 35

Anonymous

Yes, men are uninterested in dating and definitely uninterested in marriage. Why? Here:

#metoo
False accusations
alimony
child support
Divorce rape
paternity fraud
Judicial bias against men
legal protections and most child custody only for women

And on and on and on. After a while, men realize that women are an existential danger to them, and they refuse to date or marry them out of the need for self-preservation.

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jshm2 | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Don't be silly.

America has far more incest and hillbilly attitudes to dating, than Japan.

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Jjpayne | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

If it's about being single... I'd prefer to find someone 🥺😞 hopefully that's still an option

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sheikalana | 1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

You mean people are more into their gadgets then into their partners?

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loveslongnails | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

You think?https://www.youtube.com/embed/RLQeb5NGt3E

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AmandaYVR

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Do you know what this song is really about?
loveslongnails

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@AmandaYVR There have been many theories, including the popularized one about squinty faces people make while orgasming, or that the writer was masturbating to pics of his girlfriend while in jail. However, the writer, Dave Fenton, debunked those theories.
www.songmeaningsandfacts.com/.../
AmandaYVR

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Ah, very good. Glad to see it's been cleared up, thanks.
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loveslongnails

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@AmandaYVR LOL What did YOU think it meant?
AmandaYVR

1 y
I only vaguely knew the song, remembered it somewhat, but my husband and I just happen to talk about it like two weeks ago and he heard that it was about masturbation.
loveslongnails

1 y
@AmandaYVR Well, you shouldn't believe most of what you hear.
AmandaYVR

1 y
And don't throw the baby out with the bathwater too.
Not all things are untrue.
loveslongnails

1 y
@AmandaYVR I am going to have to "believe" the songwriter himself when he explains his song's meaning, rather than what the urban legend has been built up to mean. Here's a great example of that: Lucy In The Sky With Diamonds... obviously about LSD, right? Nope.

To this day, many music fans take it as a given that the title of "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds" is a nod to the songwriter's favorite drug (at least until he discovered heroin in 1968). But John Lennon, who was always very candid about his personal life and drug use, always told a different story. The title, he said repeatedly in interviews, came to him from his four-year-old son Julian, who had brought home a crayon drawing of his schoolfriend Lucy O'Donnell—in the sky, surrounded by diamonds. The verses, about a dreamy riverboat trip, were inspired by Lewis Carroll's Through the Looking-Glass. "It's not an acid song," insisted John. Paul McCartney and John's friend Pete Shotton corroborate that story: the title was Julian's, not a drug reference. In fact, the smoking gun here—the classroom drawing itself—still exists. According to Julian Lennon, it's now owned by David Gilmour of Pink Floyd!

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AmandaYVR

Do you know what this song is really about?

Answer 41

loveslongnails

@AmandaYVR There have been many theories, including the popularized one about squinty faces people make while orgasming, or that the writer was masturbating to pics of his girlfriend while in jail. However, the writer, Dave Fenton, debunked those theories.
www.songmeaningsandfacts.com/.../

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AmandaYVR

Ah, very good. Glad to see it's been cleared up, thanks.

Answer 43

loveslongnails

@AmandaYVR LOL What did YOU think it meant?

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AmandaYVR

I only vaguely knew the song, remembered it somewhat, but my husband and I just happen to talk about it like two weeks ago and he heard that it was about masturbation.

Answer 45

loveslongnails

@AmandaYVR Well, you shouldn't believe most of what you hear.

Answer 46

AmandaYVR

And don't throw the baby out with the bathwater too.
Not all things are untrue.

Answer 47

loveslongnails

@AmandaYVR I am going to have to "believe" the songwriter himself when he explains his song's meaning, rather than what the urban legend has been built up to mean. Here's a great example of that: Lucy In The Sky With Diamonds... obviously about LSD, right? Nope.

To this day, many music fans take it as a given that the title of "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds" is a nod to the songwriter's favorite drug (at least until he discovered heroin in 1968). But John Lennon, who was always very candid about his personal life and drug use, always told a different story. The title, he said repeatedly in interviews, came to him from his four-year-old son Julian, who had brought home a crayon drawing of his schoolfriend Lucy O'Donnell—in the sky, surrounded by diamonds. The verses, about a dreamy riverboat trip, were inspired by Lewis Carroll's Through the Looking-Glass. "It's not an acid song," insisted John. Paul McCartney and John's friend Pete Shotton corroborate that story: the title was Julian's, not a drug reference. In fact, the smoking gun here—the classroom drawing itself—still exists. According to Julian Lennon, it's now owned by David Gilmour of Pink Floyd!