Do you have stages of love?

[Youryeodongsaeng]

Since I don't have much experience, it was like:

I would say 'yes' to any guy who'd ask me out because I never got asked out.

Because I was so new to everything, the feeling love was there and gone.

One guy, he seemed scary in my opinion, was my first boyfriend. All he wanted sex. I couldn't bring myself to love him because he wanted something that I am not willingly to give. I was 12.

Second guy, he was cool. He has a love for animals and knows how to treat them. He was a few inches shorter than me. I fell out of love because he left me for one of the girls I have a great disliking to. That disliking turned into despise.
He left me because she was smaller and skinnier than I was. I am considered fat. I was still 12, not long after my first break up.


Third guy, he was sort of a rebel that I can confirm that I had deep feelings for. Same age as me, different race from the other two and I. He made me laugh. When I heard him saying that he had another girl in his district, I felt sad. We broke up because of this.


A year or a few months later, I was in love with a girl from a different race; the same race as my third ex-boyfriend, American. She was the best thing that had ever happened to me... her Christian mother found out about us, moved back to Pennsylvania and reported me as a pedopile. I was 13 and her daughter was 12.


I don't really get my stages of love... maybe I'm the one who'd get dumped in the end after genuinely loving someone. I know I was young, but me having a lover now, just seems so unlikely. The little experiences that I had were enough to make me actually think.

Maybe the three boys only dated me because I was the only girl in their class. We didn't know each other personally.

It is like, I got asked out, fell in love, and then get dumped.

[testersite00]

we begin as friends. but when IT starts, i make fun of them. a lot. not trying to be rude but more funny and honest. Sometimes i insult/roast them. i think i try to test to see how far they’ll let me go. then i become so amazed by everything they do. they are the funniest person on the planet, they dress perfectly, listen to the best music, and "wow you’re soooo cool/chill/pretty/great". i have stars in my eyes and they are the only person im looking at. then i care about them deeply. late night talks, waayyyy too much eye contact, and i can't stop smiling. “why can’t i stop smiling?” this entire time im in denial. “do i like him? have you SEEN his forehead? i could land a plane on that!” “you think i LIKE him? barf in my mouth! no friggin way!!” “love? never heard of it. only exists in movies i think”. my stomach constantly hurts when im around them. i get light headed and dizzy, feel like im gonna throw up. super anxious too “what do you mean in love? i only think about him every second of everyday?”... but... i know im f’d once i worry. i am NOT a worrisome person. i am known to have no worries! but if something happens, im a mess. since i don't worry, i don't know how to deal with it. so i just worry worry worry worry. and afterwards im so embarrassed cause i was the only one that was worried! then BOOM real-i-zation!!! im in love. and i can’t stop it. there’s nothing i can do. I can only sit and suffer and hope my heart doesn’t get broken.

[Jamie05rhs]

Once I become attracted to somebody and decide that I like them, then I am 100% on board with the idea of dating them (going through the dating process.). There are no additional hoops to jump through, other than her accepting me and saying yes to who I am.

But I think a lot of girls don't understand this. They think I don't really mean it when I say "I like you and I want you.". They're under the impression that I don't know them well enough to make that determination. But I actually do. I am a very perceptive person with a high attention to detail. If I decide that I like you, it means that I have already done my research and the results are in. You are Pre-qualified!
... But you say, " but what about this, or that?". It doesn't matter. I have priorities, and then there are other things that are NOT priorities. Simple as that. :)

[FakeNIK]

Well I'd say I've three..
1. Engaging in conversation..
2. Going out with her..
3. Final stage (you know what I mean... right?)

[tae_ie]

Realize that we are bonding well nothing special then, And then go holy shit you did it again, and tell myself if you do it again your dead but still does it anyways, And get deeper and question everything and try my best not to give it my all so i don’t end up hurt, Yup that’s all i’m gonna say.

[Billie_]

there's two stages.

1. shit, this person has been making me incandescently happy recently.
2. im in love.

[Lizzzzz288283]

Fun flirting stage, “honeymoon” stage, move-in stage (the start at which things start to go downhill), the breakup