What are your dating/relationship morals and rules?

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

Regarding relationships, I strongly value expressing love, care, kindness, and loyalty because doing so keep relationships healthy and intact. When you love your partner, you express your affection towards him or her and have that strong urge to grow together and fill that empty void you might have felt when you were single. When you care for your partner, you provide him or her with support and help whenever he or she needs it. When you are kind to your partner, you treat him or her with respect and ease any negative emotions that might be bringing you both down. When you are loyal to your partner, you stick with him or her until the very end. If you're not expressing your love, care, kindness, and loyalty in your relationship, you might as well not even be in one.

To answer the other question, I am more "old fashioned," at least for the initial dates. I strongly believe that, as a woman, always have the man pay for the dates. I remember paying for dates when I was in college. It sounded good on paper, but I realized that I became known as the girl that paid for dates, prompting men to use me specifically for that reason, then ghost me after sex. I had to learn the hard way that this wasn't wise. Technically, when you begin the initial dates, you're (for the most part) dating a stranger with the primary goal of getting in your pants. In the process, it is up to you as a woman to determine whether or not he is a good man and would stick around after sex for the first time. The best way to safely do that is to have him pay for dates. If he truly wants to be with you, he would have no problem making a sacrifice. However, if he does pay, but somehow still ends up using you for sex, you wouldn't have lost anything behind it as opposed to you paying and getting taken advantage of in the end. Losing your money and the man you thought was your boyfriend at the same time is a terrible feeling. After he has proved that he's loyal and sticks around long after having sex for the first time, it becomes safe to pay for him.

[Puppystarfish23]

Im very traditional, practical and logical.

Always have a first date at a bar then if you don't like him after two drinks you can go and there's always code words or sayings you can use at the bar to let staff know if you feel unsafe. Also don't let your drink out of your sight

Two drinks max. no one wants to get drunk on a date it's not attractive and very unsafe too.

Always tell a friend or family member were you are going and who with and set a time for when you'll be home with them.

Offer to split the bill but if he offers to pay let him if its the first date. Its usually a sign the man wants to show you he's a gentleman.

Dress nice and practical for the occasion. Always make sure no matter the date you looks like you've actually put some effort in and want to impress.

Brush your teeth before going on a date and always carry around mints for obvious reasons.

Text them to say thank you for a good time after the date and plan another meet up if it went well. If your a guy too and it's a late night date extra brownie points if you text her to ask if she got home safely it tells her you want to protect her and you care.

Also if you're a guy make sure you walk back with her to her car, taxi or other form of transport. It's also tells her you want her to feel safe and that you care.

Don't talk negativity about ex partners or people in general.

don't avoid politics like others may suggest because you want to actually know if you and your date share similar view points.

Don't start telling them everything bad about your life at the end of the day, especially on a first date you've gotta see it as a fun, casual job interview. You've still gotta sell yourself to that person and no wants a debbie downer.

Don't sleep with them until you are both ready and have gotten to know each other well enough.

Also kissing on the first date is okay but it's not always good idea id suggest just a peck on the cheek and a hug as a better option.

[Knighted2170]

Me personally. I'm old fashioned. A total romance type with a high moral code.
Just look at my history of replies/opinions.

However I'm a bit of a blend of traditional and 50/50. Being strictly one way or the other doesn't really work in my opinion. Sometimes it's good to be traditional, others it better to be 50/50. It just depends on the relationship and the needs of the person I'm going out with.

As far as rules. I won't lie to her. She can ask me anything. I'll tell her the truth. She'll find out anyway, so what's the point of lying?
I also have a rule of wanting her to be open and honest as well. Tell me what you want, need, and desire. Not like on the first date, but as we get to know each other and you begin to trust me. Allow me to see who you are.

Finally, I have a no judgement rule. I don't judge her because of her past. I wasn't there. I wasn't in her shoes when she made a decision. I am not her past, I am her future. Don't hold her past against her. That past, whatever it is, made her what she is and why I became attracted to her in the first place. Why would I judge that and now hold it against her?

That's me. Did it answer the question?

[TruthBringer]

I do hold certain traditional values like paying for my girl, being the leader in the relationship, paying the bills, and paying when we go out. She also likes to pay for me when we go out or when we get some snacks. But it's mostly me. She cooks, cleans and gives me love. We btoh hold certain traditional values, but can't be labeled "traditional".

My rules are pretty much like the majority of exclusive relationships. To keep things exclusive. You also won't see me date any feminist and I don't date girls who their circle of friends are either all or half guy friends. We all know those kind of girls often bring troubles.

[coachTanthony]

----------------I want to find my Ride or Die and build an empire together whatever that may look like.

[jennifer_bloom]

I won’t accept abusive behaviour or hypocritical treatment if the guy judges me by a standard he himself does not live to and I won’t date a guy who has no internal sense of ethics but must be controlled by outside social influence because it means if relationships break down that his behaviour will be bad

[Cynicaldreamer]

I expect a man to treat me with respect and loyalty. Relationships are about being equal and balancing each other out right? If he's respectful and loving to me, I'll treat him just as well, if not better.
For example, he wants to take me out to dinner? Fine, next time I'll take him out (my treat), or cook him a gourmet meal!

Yet at the same time, I want him to be a gentleman as well. Basically, I want to date a man with good manners and treats me like he would want to be treated.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am a very traditional male with respect to my courting behaviors and most women are happily surprised when I open doors, help them to get seated, put my jacket on them when they are cold, etc.

[Don-__-Don]

I like things traditional and exclusive more or less.

My main rule is honesty, I can't handle being lied to if I'm dating someone.

My morals are to of course don't cheat, if you cheat on me then the relationship ends faster than you can say "I'm sorry".

I value integrity to the upmost degree, so I expect my partner to have integrity.

I'm a strict individual, but I won't put that strictness on my partner.

I mainly want honesty, love, communication, respect, and loyalty. Also someone that is capable of being a good mother, because if I'm dating you then I see you as someone who I can start a family with.

What's the 50/50 rule by the way?

[weasley8]

As much as I think it’s sweet when a guy offers to pay and stuff, I’ve known way too many guys who act like because they paid for dinner they’re owed sex or a relationship, so I probably won’t accept the offer to pay for me until I’ve known a guy for a while. And even then, I’d offer the same thing. It is sweet to feel spoiled.


As far as chivalry and manners go, I think it’s sweet again. But also, I just think it’s good for everyone to be polite to everyone.


As far as sex goes. I’d wait a while. But it’s not for religious reasons. It’s just because I take a long time to trust people.


And there aren’t many deal breakers for me, but violence means an instant cutoff.


Oh and please don’t ask my father for permission. That’s just gross. And he agrees with me. He once said if someone asked him before dating me, he’d tell them no on principle.

[zeitgeist057]

Rules: Honesty or GTFO. The rules are it's a relationship so we make the rules together.
As for dating, if she's not interested, I'm not interested; I'm don't mess around with girls who are sitting back wanting to be entertained and don't express interest or engagement. I get that some girls are playing a "hard to get" game, but see my first rule about honesty. If you're interested, don't pretend like you're not, because honesty and also rule #2: mutual consent.

Morals: This should be a no brainer. Be nice, honest, kind. Don't be sneaky or dishonest. It's okay to put your best for forward and be the best person you can be; it's not okay to lie about who you are or what you want, etc. People pull this BS then wonder what happened when the relationship falls apart. Your partner fell in love with someone you were pretending to be is what happened, and when they found out who you really are, they fell out of love.

[ohshee]

For me there's only 1 rule , if I ask you out then that means I like you , and if I like you I want to please you and show you who I am and have a good time ,, the only 50 /50 that I know is when splitting up , and I walked from thst so it was more like 90/10,, or the other one the ice cream bar now if your talking about that , then yes please lol , bottom line is if we are going out I want you to have fun and I want to have fun so I know how to do that so I'm going to make sure it happens , so we can do it again

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Don't lie to me.

Don't give me shit in front of other people. To quote a line from Kingsman, "if you have a problem, you can come over and whisper it in my ear."

Don't tell me what I want to hear while holding back your true thoughts or feelings.

Be kind. It's not a form of weakness.

Be patient. I won't fix all my flaws overnight, nor do I expect you to fix yours overnight. We're both works in progress.

Don't fake sexual pleasure. I want to earn the privilege of your orgasms.

Don't ghost me or try to create artifical scarcity by purposely ignoring me. I want you to want to be around me. If you pull away, I won't "chase". You're an adult, so decide what you want, and tell me you want it.

If you must be crazy, be crazy in love.

[Dchrls78104]

You might call me traditional, because:
1. My date must be a Christian.
2. Thongs and the like are deal-breakers.
3. The body must be natural and free from tattoos and piercings.
4. Dignified and modest dress is a must.
5. My date must be totally single, not with someone; there must be no ex that she hasn't gotten over.
6. Cursing, nagging, and disrespectful or violent behaviour are out.
7. I'm interested only in natural born and fully heterosexual adult females.
8. There must be no secrets.
9. Racists, feminists, and those who support abortion are not attractive to me.
10. My date must not be morbidly emaciated or obese.

[Guardian45]

Well, this is interesting. As for me, I believe in being a gentleman, especially with a woman I like on first dates, who can appreciate it.

That said, good manners are mostly lost on people today; just look around you in the outside world!

With friends and acquaintances, I am not as old-fashioned and traditional, and will let them open their own doors or pay their own bills. NOT so on first and early dates! With girlfriend or SO, it depends on the woman. For example, one of my GFs used to love when I brought her flowers (they didn't have to be roses!) every week and wrote love poems for her.

[HartleyB]

Rules? I just communicate clearly and honestly with people and make common sense decisions that won't obviously hurt them and if I am unsure if it will then I ask them.. finances effort and support are all depending on the circumstances like if I have the resources to help someone then I will and if I chose the right person then they may do the same for me if it is necessary

[CurlyGirl42]

Treat others respectfully and be open and honest about what you want. An ok balance (not exactly 50/50) in giving and taking and showing initiative in general.
I might take initiative to go on the first two dates and if he does not step up to make a third happen I am out. Like wise if he set up the first two and I do not feel like setting up the third then I see it as a bad sign.

[nooneee124]

No cheating is a big one my boyfriend and I live by. No lying, say sorry when you fuck up, try hard to make the other person smile, meet small requests, (I often ask him to cuddle me in the middle of the night til I fall asleep and ask him to do it again) are the biggest ones. Treat the other person like a queen/king. My flare is breakfast in bed, mimosas, cheap staycations, great liquor, and cooking him dinner when he asks, as he loves my cooking aka meeting small requests, as I love cooking, and I love cooking for him especially. And on the bad days, be there for them in the way they need you to or, go with their favorites is what works for me at least on the bad days when they won’t talk about whatever it is. Being what the other person needs you to be to them.

[ShortCircuit]

I think 50/50 should be the expectation/default. However, I'd be more than happy to take up more of a traditional role after, and only after, my partner demonstrated that she's not the type to take advantage of it and expect the benefits without the responsibilities.

[likelyOK]

The dating courting Ali like traditional I would not move in with a man again until marriage. When married the bills can be 50/50 as well as the chores. But honestly if I’m married it depends on the money we make if we make the same it’s a split if he is younger And not making as much I’m okay with paying more than 50%. Like as much as 70-80 depends.

[Alyssa11]

- I'm all for 50:50 in relationships, whether thats house chores or finance.
- I also want a man to offer masculine energy into the RS and I'll offer feminine energy. This includes things like protecting/providing for me when I need it, and I'd offer loyalty/comfort etc.

[Shiningtempest]

Here are my dating rules:

Only date a woman who enjoys same hobbies because having no shared hobbies increase the chance of failure.

Only date a woman who's atheist because I don't want to date a woman who's very religious.

Never date a woman who takes anti-depressant since it tells me she has no idea how to manage mental health.

Don't date a woman who hates my graphic t-shirt or sweatpants since I consider it as a sign of high maintenance.

Never date a woman who enjoys traveling because I only want to date a woman who enjoys relaxing at home.

Don't date a woman who cares about finance because emotional stability is more important than ability to manage finance effectively.

[leonidas69]

First of all like me is only a reference for people that know you well enough. 😅

I pay for the first date if it feels like it was actually a date. After that communication and equality.

Not sure how much further you want to go into this.

[serious]

Well, firstly I never wish to date in my life and I wish to remain single for lifetime. Secondly even if I try to answer this hypothetically, it will be long as I have plenty of morals, rules regarding this and is not possible to put it here.

[StephenCF]

There’s nothing more respectful than traditional dating etiquette. The modern version is usually objectification

[Anonymous]

1. Obviously traditional and a gentleman who is VIRGIN. I don't wanna date a dirty f**k dog.
2. I value HONESTY and he's dead if I find out that he lied to me or tried to trick me.
3. I hate insincerity, emotional detachment and lack of communication. The moment I sense this, I'll immediately break up.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I’m traditional. The cool thing about the “50/50 rule” (equality) is that there are multiple ways to look at it.
People who favor it usually say it as meaning neither one is making sacrifices; let’s both date each other as long as both are happy 100% of the time. Well look how long those relationships last. Lol So that’s both partners only going halfway. No good 🤷🏻‍♀️
I’ll go 100% and so will my partner.

So...
50/50 = 100/100 yep just depends on how you look at it

[prince350]

By and large none - gut feeling and interest - the rest is a matter of that individual relationship (at this point my goal is to have a child or a few, so house/marriage stuff, which means me happy enough and her happy enough to get it done - and then not just like but tolerate rate each other for a decade or two)

[iFarted]

It's flexible, I adjust to the situation. Like if she's still paying student loans and is actually working on that then I don't mind footing the bill more often. If we're both earning decent amount then we're going 50/50 but not like split the bill each time, more like I'll pay once, then she pays next.

[JoyGirl]

I like it traditional and old fashioned, but guys these days are different. 😔

[dragoblack]

Don't be an asshole, don't use me for a free meal, treat the woman with respect, and get to know her, make sure the date is in an open comfortable atmosphere, and don't invite her over until she is comfortable with me. If she treats the date like I'm just there to buy her stuff, she's not interested in me, just my money. Always choose a place that won't financially hurt us should things not work out

[The_Inquisitor]

I live 50/50 I don't do people who take advantage. I can't afford to feed into other peoples greed when going on dates, especially in this economy.

[veecutie]

Don't do to others what you wouldn't like others do to you.
Don't expect others to read your mind.
Treat each other as you did in the beginning so there can never be an end

[Dsg1193]

- No sex on the first date, not even a first kiss
-Preferably wait for sex till marriage or until we have over a year in the relationship
-Whoever asked who out first should pay

[Anonymous]

broad question.
Treat each other with respect
Well discover each other and our wounds... honor them.
Work to better each other but love each other as you are
Im sure there's more.

[Ally247]

Gotta have romance, a lot of communication and effort from both sides.

[Texaskid1]

1. She must agree with everything I say.
2. The first date shall consist of a trial of her sandwich making abilities.
3. She must not speak unless spoken to.

[Samtheman_]

Tell eachother the whole truth, and make sure all parties in the relationship are getting their needs met or are working as a team to fix an unattended need

[Guanfei]

I would like to be a traditional one, but girls take advantage of it too much, and I'm tired to be the "free food" idiot.
Now it's 50/50 for the first couple of dates, then if it becomes official, I'll think about it.

[pantyloverr]

Old fashion with dating practices i think its more respectful

[Nephilim000]

I do my best to be traditional. I'd hate to be with someone who would be overly offended by that so it's a good way to find out

[Liam_Hayden]

I tend to be the asker and, as I have argued repeatedly on here, "The asker should pay." so functionally I am traditional even though it is not part of my persona.

[bolverk]

I'm traditional and old fashioned, but if my date wants to go with the 50/50 rule, then its not a problem.
But I have yet to meet a date that wants to go by the 50/50 rule !

[Shark_61695]

I'd prefer traditional but I'm skint so I can't afford it.

[JohnO45]

If I think she's relationship/marriage material I'm very old fashioned such as paying for dates and treating her special.
If it's only a hookup or casual girlfriend then I'm a feminist and everything is 50/50

[Anonymous]

Neither. I don’t care for tradition at all. The only thing that matters is what I want and what I am willing to compromise on. I end up taking traditional roles because I’m just trying to appeal to whatever nonsense women like and I tolerate it.

[bklynbadboy1]

I'm old fashion when it comes to. dating I believe things should be done a certain way like the guy should pay and if he can't afford it he shouldn't be dating

[Julietchicago]

Old fashioned. If I wanted it 50/50, I'd date a chick

[blondfrog]

I don't remember all of them but I will tell her once she does it lol. I have like basic ones but can't remember all of them.

[FCDALLASFAN]

I tend to be little more old school. Criminal history, drugs, and STDs are a no go for me. Outside of that I'm usually open to at least considering a relationship with someone.

[Jamie05rhs]

I am sexually conservative but not necessarily old-fashioned.

What is the 50/50 rule?

[dy8alexUk]

I want to know 1st how she kisses if she is crap kisser dump her

[Anonymous]

It's a reminder of my lifelong resentment towards initiating an interaction is that it always falls on the guy's shoulders

[sp33d]

My firm belief is don't talk shop on first date. E. g how much you make or what your house is like and all that gold-digger friendly language.

[AFellowWeeb]

''Are you traditional and old fashioned like me'' than that means that you are a virgin waiting to get married virgin, because if you are not, then you aren't traditional

[OddBeMe]

I'm guessing 50/50 means you cheat, I cheat. To save a relationship, you do need mutually assured destruction and maybe even punishment.

[Anonymous]

She must first be my friend, if she wants to go somewhere and she wants to pay that's her perogative. If I ask her some place I'm buying.

[jasco]

well honestly more of the traditional type now that i am getting older

[A1513]

I’m not sure anymore. The only one I’m still certain of is no gay marriage.

[michael1469]

Either we works her ass off at a job, or better yet, make my house a home, i will gladly work to make sure she is taken care of in return.

[Anonymous]

Damn this comment section ain't for me. To me "traditional values" scream toxic masculinity and sexsism.
I'd peg him so clearly we aren't on the same page lmao.

[bamesjond0069]

Traditional and old fashioned. Modern dating is the worst.

[jimmy2]

I like 50/50 so we are in a level postion to help each other grow together

[Slim57]

Im old fashioner but I still like both partners to contribute just as much to the relationship