Why has dating changed 🤔?

[OlderAndWiser]

Dating has not changed much for me. I look or someone to approach. I now use internet sites to meet women and that is the only difference. Usually, I initiate the conversation. I am the one who moves the conversation along to the point of asking her to meet me for dinner. I ask her what kind of food she likes and I suggest a restaurant that serves that cuisine. I suggest a date and time. I make a dinner reservation. I always get there early so that she does not arrive first and thereby forced to wait alone. When we are shown to our table, I help her to get seated. I ask if she would like a glass of wine (but never any pressure.) Appetizer? I usually initiate the conversation at dinner but if I do a good job, the conversation does not lull and she tells me about herself. After dinner, I know she wants a dessert but is bashful about admitting that, so I ask her if she would like to share a dessert with me. After dinner, I ask if she would like to adjourn to the lounge to sit, share a drink, and continue the conversation. (I have a "go to" location for first dates that is moderately upscale by local standards and it has a nice lounge: no bar fights!) After one drink (never more than two. I am not trying to get her smashed!) I walk her to her car, holding her hand. If the mood feels right, I lean in and give her a good night kiss. About 30 minutes later, I text to ask if she arrived home safely, I tell her that I had a wonderful time, and that I'll call soon and hope to schedule our next date.

Except for meeting online and the text message, it's just like it was fifty years ago. She wants me to chase her and thereby flatter her ego. When I have done that, she rewards me with some token of affection. She may be shy and think that she doesn't want a kiss but she is glad when I lean in and "steal" a kiss from her. She wants me to be the aggressor and that's what I do.

[LEADFOOTboi]

I don't know... i think it's peoples expectations... and the hookup culture being "normalized" by the media...

[Beautyforeverybody]

Thanks for the mention :)
I think it has something to do with the idea of modern third wave feminism and the idea that gender is a social construct. I believe that both genders were created uniquely and beautifully so we should appreciate and respect each other’s individual needs instead of trying to be the same.

[cjgsu]

I don't know.

[AmandaYVR]

The Death of Dating

[Don-__-Don]

Because everyone wants new stuff like "polygamy" amd stuff.
Everyone just wants hook ups, and now incels are a thing.

And hypergamy got people all salty and etc.

And you get called a simp or whatever

The shit that mainstream media or just social media puts out infect our minds and it ruins everything.


To put it in the best words I know:

IT REALLY JUST RUINS ANY GENUINE AND AUTHENTIC VALUE DATING MIGHT HAVE EVER HAD.

I only dated twice and my ass don't even wanma date no more.

Just seems like a worthless endeavor.

[slatyb]

You mean instead of asking someone out to dinner, people just invite someone to "hang out" ?

Maybe it's because young people today, at least in the US, are so poorly paid compared to their parents. The boomers, even the blue collar union men, were buying starter homes in their twenties. That's impossible today. Most union jobs are gone, either automated or moved overseas. A decent meal in a non-chain restaurant can easily run over $100. Not easy for someone making $15 or $20/hour.

Still there are a lot of worthwhile activities that are inexpensive or free -- hiking, visiting a museum, having a picnic in the park, biking (if you have a bicycle), tennis on a public court, cooking a dinner at your place.

[Wedimir]

Let's say that some of the residents of your house decided to hang themselves. Will you follow their example? so is fashion. Someone decides what needs to be done this way and not otherwise. for example, walking in torn jeans or with bare ankles, BRR. There is beauty and harmony and they do not depend on fashion! it's just a matter of TASTE, CULTURE of a person! If they are developed, then his whole life, not just Dating, is very beautiful! The partner is very important and therefore for him flowers, poems, romances to the guitar. Don't be a zombie! Live aesthetically! Choose partners who know a lot about how beautiful courtship is

[The_Inquisitor]

feminists killed it

I haven't been comfortable attempting to date sense i drove a drunk bitch home and nearly went to prison because she falsely claimed sexual assault.

the good people don't go out anymore so you only run into assholes

[Liam_Hayden]

WARNING: One of Liam's usually blunt responses follows.

Dating used to be a mating ritual. With most women now willing to have sex within a few dates, many before even dating at all, the dynamic had changed. Guys know that in all likelihood the girl he's "seeing" has had several, maybe even dozens or hundreds, of previous partners. Why put in a bunch of effort when it obviously doesn't take much? Unfortunately, the girls with higher standards end up getting caught up in these assumptions, and when they don't "put out" by the third date, the guy moves on to an easier target.

[MountAverage]

The world and society is constantly changing and evolving. Why on Earth would dating stay the same? That makes no sense. Also, when you speak of "old fashioned dating" you're referring to some specific time in history. And guess what, dating back then was alao very different than what it was prior to that. And people back then also complained about how it changed. It's always the same, ever repeating cycle.
Change will always happen, whether you like it or not. It's up to you how well you adapt to it.

[bamesjond0069]

Its obvious. Women are willing to have sex more casually now.

If that wasn't a thing, men would stick to more serious relationships.
Men wouldn't have the opportunity to be fuck boys.
Men would have to treat a girl nice.
Men would be willing to treat a girl nice.
Men would be more interested in marriage.

Today the options are basically be a chump simp who marries a ho. Or be a playboy and fuck everyone you want (which is a lot of girls since many girls are willing to have casual sex). Is it surprising many men choose to pump and dump hos instead of cuckold themselves?

[Paolaa988]

Social media and hook up culture has impacted it. Most people dont wanna make the effort face to face anymore either. They kind of just wanna get things over with. It's sad. They are kind of following what everyone else is doing and losing focus on reality. It only got worse over the years too :( it's a shame.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I was going to blame feminism to troll but someone beat me to it. 😭

Its all about getting with right person for you. Date a lot and you will come in contact with some dirtbags of people. Gotta be patient and be the best person possible.

[Celtero]

I don't like women, they're often bad people not worth pursuing or doing romantic things for. I'd rather be by myself. I know many guys who feel similar these days.

[TonyMetal___86]

Do you love to become a housewife? Do you still believe that a man is the head of the house and that you should respect him as your everything in this life?
Do you believe that a girl should stay a virgin till marriage and that marriage must be forevere?

[Anonymous]

Technology has made our world faster passed and people want to spend as little time as possible looking for someone. The advancements in technology, plastic surgery and beauty industry have set the bar for beauty standards extremely high, creating unrealistic expectations and making people feeling like they have a lot of options...

[Gwenhwyfar]

I still do it 😊. Well, old fashioned like the 2000s when I grew up, not the 1950s lol.

[lanadelrey25]

I still am going to be doing things the "old fashioned" way.

[MLGbreezy]

Between our generation and the next the nature level dropped dramatically somewhere. I'm sure you can guess where 🤦🏾‍♂️

[little_bird1]

Because of feminism and social media. Too many options and available instant gratifications. It's the prize for improved technology. Phones are getting smarter and people are becoming dumber.

[Valnac]

Girls used to take Home Making in high school.
Marriage was the focus.
Today everyone wants a hookup or friends with benefits.

[AFellowWeeb]

there is a lot of studies that are found online that show that promiscuous people tend to cheat/ask for divorces more often, and we living in a society that promotes promiscuity, so there's no point in trying to get real with someone

[Xavier16]

Social media🤦🏽 I hate it when it comes to a relationship.

[Mark987]

I wanna know too... back in the day it was dates.. and chilvary.. now it's more apps and let's just do it

[triff]

Sexual freedom hype was raised Romance took a dive and peer pressure took the flloor

[Avicenna]

I think economic uncertainty and instability has a lot to do with the instability and short term thinking that currently pervades dating

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hook up culture, friends with benefits, video dating

[lightbulb27]

social order was trashed starting around the 1960's.

[Anonymous]

Because times have changed

I suspect I'll be single for the rest of my life because I don't buy into modern dating

At least with the reset that'll only be a few years

[1starco101]

I don't know thing that can't go back the way it is were getting old / yes I agreed what did happened to the old day of dating I do miss it / I wish thing can go back the way it use to be but that impossible

[alance99]

Due to advancement in technology with website made specially for hookup and divorce rates getting higher the old dating style changed

[Clarke498]

Dunno. Trying my best to avoid it. Never got Tinder, but being anti social as fuck, it's getting rough. Meet no one...

[In_Trance]

The core of what dating is hasn't changed; the methods and perceptions have, but dating hasn't

[Anonymous]

Ghetto values have crept into mainstream culture through social media.

[JSmuve]

Social media changed it

[7Roses]

The internet messed it up.

[pizzalovershouse]

There still are dates like that I've doe them

[bklynbadboy1]

The internet happened

[Alexalex92]

Didn't changed that much

[Cherokeehp]

What do you mean?

[Anonymous]

The dynamic of women and men have changed

[Anonymous]

Women have so much access to so many men now.

[Ripper_E]

care to elaborate?

[okeydoke]

#thepandemic