I'm a newbie here and asked a question and only got (3) answers, I was hoping for more...But my next question is similar in nature: Is this possible? For a man who over a span of aprox. 3 months was making "short" phone calls and received a couple pics from escorts/sensual massage ads...the calls stopped. He claimed he was only curious. He says he never visited an escort or received a massage. I want to believe him very badly, But I've been cheated on before and I'm scarred. I don't believe that a man would ever admit to it, unless confronted with hard eviidence.. even if he did cheat..."well most men."
So is it possible that he was just curious, and a little lonely? or should I assume he called them to get an appointment and see them...NOT to just to flirt, have a little dirty talk as he claims. If you need more info on my situation...my other detailed question is Titled: "Are men that "occasionally" call/browse escort and sensual massage ads on C.L. & back page trustworthy?"
I deeply appreciate any input people can offer and I'm currently "weighing" my options carefully. I have a lot of time invested in him and love him deeply and believe he does love me. I just don't want to marry him, and be married to someone who occasionally visits escorts or massage parlors...How do I decide what to do, I'm scarred I'll screw it up either way! H.E.L.P.!
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I hope this doesn't hurt you, because that's the exact opposite of what I am trying to do.
It sounds like you are desperate to believe your man is a good one, when really, you already know his true nature.
When my ex left me to raise our six month old daughter on my own, the hardest thing I had to do was to let go of the illusion. I had had these dreams of our life together. I had this vision of the man I thought my ex could be. And for a very long time, I tortured myself believing that if I was a good enough woman, I could make him be a good enough man. It has been several years since he left, and I have seen him get married since then. I have seen the man he has become. And I can say, with complete certainty, that my ex is not able to be the man I thought (?hoped) he was. One of the benefits of dating when you are our age is that when your man shows his true nature, you don't have to beat yourself up wondering if he can change. He is who he is.
If you really don't want to be alone, and accept that you are going to be with a man that calls an escort service and lies to you, I cannot judge you. I know what it is like to face living your life alone.
I can honestly say though, that I would be happier alone than with a man like that. And I think you would be too.0