What would make a guy see you as a back up plan?

- Never never never ever put up with being someone's back up plan at any point in time. It's a sign of disrespect, and if they know they can keep you on hold indefinitely they will always play every other option on the field before giving you a chance. There's no risk for them with doing the back up plan. The reason they'll do that is because no one ever actually wants to do the back up plan; they aren't invested in doing the back up plan. The back up plan is what you do when the plan you genuinely invested in doesn't work out, and you need an alternative that doesn't leave you feeling worse off.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
Almost every woman who gets married is marrying her "back up man". They all want the giga-chad but they can't hold on to him.
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- Back up plan, as in a road flair, in case your all weather tires are not all the manufacturer promised, or an extra set of batteries, in case the ones in your flashlight crap out on you on a camping trip?
Please tell me you are not referring too human beings, because that would seriously deplete my confidence in human nature.
In the unsavory event that you are, more specifically, referring too a lady as a spare girlfriend, wait, I have too evacuate the contents of my stomach before continuing.
There, no more dinner in my tum, tum, thanks to you, bum, bum.
I'm going too pretend I didn't read this question, for your sake, as well as mine, subhuman!1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- as a forever backup plan, in friends and romance alike, i'm super loyal and a little clueless. so as long as they don't directly piss me off, i will always be there for them. i'm reliable, funny, available, down for anything, and i never complain. i'm the PERFECT backup plan.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
- Just think about it if a guy just sees you as a back up plan that means he only sees you is someone that he can rebound with. Rebounds usually don’t work out well. Because there’s really no plan for the future.2|00|0Is this still revelant?
Wouldn’t you want a dude to just look at you and just say I wanna take her seriously right off the get-go sometimes it doesn’t start like that are you see some guys were like OK I wanna get to know her she seems cool oh wait feelings. And that’s how sometimes rebounds go but if you’re already a side piece they really don’t see your worth and they rarely ever do
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Yeah I’m not saying that you’re arguing with it I’m just saying like it just doesn’t look good no matter what unless someone’s OK with being worked on as that usually there delusional and think that it’s going to get farther but it really ever does
Exactly it’s because everyone thinks that they can be the one in the end up wasting their time
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510- Sometimes it does. Typically it's when one person is pursuing someone and they see you as a viable second prospect so they string you along and go after the original person. Maybe the other person is super hot or they have an awesome personality and you are like the first runner up a the beauty pageant. Sometimes the pursuit of the original person crashes and burns so they circle back to their second choice and realize they should have been the first choice all along. Could happen.1|00|0
- When he is unsure about you.
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when he isn’t sure whether he is ready to be in relationship with you considering his life circumstances.2|00|0 - Anonymous1 moNever allow yourself to become a backup plan not only does it not work out but it’s basically giving the person permission to use you whenever they want1|00|0
- Asker1 mo
I don’t need advice on what to do since I’m confident in my capabilities. I’m simply just curious about better understanding other people’s reasons and experiences around back up options.
- Asker1 mo
For example, I used to (unintentionally I suppose) have back up plans when I was younger because rejection and vulnerability was harder to deal with then, so a back up plan was a distraction from that pain to sweeten the blow of possible rejection. But as an adult I feel better equipped to deal with it all now so I don’t feel I need a back up plan. I don’t let myself get involved too much too soon with anyone until it’s had some time to feel genuinely right. I wouldn’t even consider marriage still until at least after 3 years (it always baffles me a little when I see people getting married sooner).
- Asker1 mo
It’s interesting that you say they never work out though. I presume that’s just in your experience because I have a feeling that some may somewhere, hence the question. I think it would depend on dynamics. But I agree for the most part it’s probably more unlikely to work.
- When he's interested in you but not willing to go forward with his feelings.0|00|0
- The girl with more "mileage" will usually be the backup.1|00|0
- He will make you a backup if you let him, respect yourself and tell him to go suk himself.1|00|0
- being always available.
taking mean comments and not fighting back.
who listens to you babble about your boyfriends treatment.1|00|0 - You may be attractive, but the guy doesn't see the prospect of a long-term relationship. Traits may be the reason.0|10|0
- Anonymous1 moPretty men know that women will throw themselves at them without caring how big an asshole they are. So they don't see the need to be loyal to any one. If your man is hot... then he probably has 6 or so women waiting to replace you.1|00|0
- I guess some people just see people as options2|00|0
because evolution and society and behavioral psychology and evolutionary psychology. because what you or society see as morally "right" isn't necessarily what's favored by the universe. I'm not exactly in the best mood³ this isn't meant to be rude
If you load a bullet and give someone the gun they would use it
- He probably thinks your easy to get into bed.1|00|0
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- Usually the sluttier girl is the backup plan.2|10|0
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