Can you write a reason or reasons why you would consider rejecting a person of the opposite gender as a date?

[N192K001]

A whole host of reasons!

Concerning her:
• discovered compromising-info that undermines any reasonable projection of possible future together
• knowledge of any known rival-suitors who's apparent capacity to bring her a happier life surpasses my current & projected future capacity to do the same (IF he has no detectable compromising-info that could undermine her well-being and/or their potential future together)
• harmonious relations between our 2 clans seems difficult if not impossible

Concerning me:
• insufficiently setup finances & livelihood adequate enough sustain the new joint-family
• ambiguities on the future feasibility from a previous willing candidate I was at the time forced to turn-down at the time
• ethical concerns on the risk of passing some known health-conditions common to my mother and/or father's side (plus my own) to our offspring, who have no say on the matter
• a concern (of the ugly & painful consequences of a horrific, multi-decade mismatch obvious now with foresight, but unnoticed at the time) from a recent corrosive experience of my older-sister (who will soon be our clan's 1st divorcee in our known history)

[jshm2]

Sure, a whole couple of books.

Anything from her being ugly and uninteresting, to being psycho and neurotic.

But to be honest, I was always the sort to never knock back a date. Everyone deserves at least a chance, even if you know it's not going to be anything there.

[jennifer_bloom]

There are many but

1 - He is bad tempered and thinks it’s okay to yell at you if you don’t cook or clean or dress or do your responsibilities the way he likes

2 - He tries to take advantage of others either financially or sexually or socially by being too miserly and petty and bitter or by holding others to a standard he does not live up to himself by exploiting inequalities in his social relationships

3 - He lacks compassion or grace or gentleness or reflection or understanding or softness and views the world in purely physical and procedural terms

4 - He neglects his body or his education by eating like a glutton or flunking his courses through laziness or by slacking off at work or not cleaning his home or not combing his hair or not editing his letters for grammar and spelling

5. He is too materialistic or sexual

[Anonymous]

1. I’m already in a relationship
2. the person has a bad attitude or is a known player
3. I’m not attracted to them
4. They have cheated in their past relationship if you can cheat on your partner just once I don’t think I could ever find trust in that person to stay faithful to me cause if you are capable of cheating just once what’s stopping you from doing it again cheating shows you aren’t loyal
5. If you lie even just once to me I won’t go on a date with you liars are just as bad as cheaters

[Apope16]

They have an ugly face.
They are fat in an unattractive way.

wow this was easy.

[TheorionMage]

At its MOST fundamental roots... a 'date' is
your Life's MOST IMPORTANT 'job interview'.

YOU are 'auditioning' for a potentially 'life time' partnership, committing to dedicating ALL that your culture's gender roles obligates YOU to... "forsaking ALL others".
On this date, YOU WILL BE 'judged' ("NO pressure", LOL! )

We're NOT talking a casual 'hanging out' mixer;
a physical, emotional and intellectual 'resume' of YOUR baseline 'nature'.
'Bewitching', 'enchanting', 'fantasy fodder' and 'smitten' are all descriptive adjectives that come to mind.

Males tend to be visually-predisposed to fantasize;
in most cases HER 'glamour-ied' appearance and flirtatious demeanor
"does the heavy lifting" to HIS infatuation.
"A man chases a woman until SHE catches HIM."

A 'date' is a MUTUAL assessment.
Put tersely... Q?: 'fuckable' or 'friend zoned'~

[Cherokeehp]

I’m not attracted to them.
They’re an asshole.
They’re racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.
They are Republicans, conservative, a Trump supporter.
They smell bad.
They’ve dated one of my close friends in the past.
Their personality sucks.
They’re overly sexual too early on.

[Knighted2170]

From the initial conversation I can.

I have very specific traits I look for and certain questions I ask to find out if she has those traits. Or, at least hints that she possibly has them.

If I don't see she has my core 4, I won't ask for a date.

[MCheetah]

1. Feminist/progressive/far-left.
2. Shallow/superficial.
3. Mean-spirited.
4. Closed-minded/stupid.
5. Arrogant/conceited.
6. Polyamorous.
7. Queer/"bisexual".
8. Already has kids or not single.
9. Physically: Too skinny/not attracted to them.
10. Physically: Masculine/butch.

[laceyylove23]

if they:
have a bad personality
are shallow or self-absorbed
are rude or has a bad attitude
has a bad-temper
aren't attractive to me
are racist, sexist or homophobic
are wayyy to sexual early on
have bad hygiene

[Xcommunicated]

Self absorbed
shallow
arrogant
clingy
Mean- gossipy
Emotionally unavailable
just not attracted to her
no spark or chemistry
Didn’t like my friends
i didn’t like her friends
Incompatible goals
was boring sexually

[WesBrewer]

If they were large (fat) if they were actually a guy who was trans, or if their face wasn't pretty, that is it, otherwise, Id date her, even if she was a jerk, I'd try to date her still, so I would date almost any girl as long as I was single.

[msc545]

Not physically attractive, not available, not intelligent, has a personality disorder or other significant psychiatric problem, substance abuser, dislikes animals, is chronically late, lies, has no girlfriends, is disliked by other women, has a history of cheating, uneducated.

[JoeSchmoeCool]

Toxic, bad personality, bad habits (smoking is an automatic no).

I have a variety of tastes when it comes to appearance, so nothing really descriptive there, unless they look unhealthy from bad habits.

[Miristheiss]

Mainly I just do not find them attractive. I may like them and/or find them to be a pleasant person but I do not find them attractive at all or actually unattractive.

I may not be compatible with them and there may be too many differences.

I may dislike them or not respect them or find them gross or sleazy or crass or a smoker or a drug user or there is a deal breaker issue going on with them.

[Jenom]

Not attracted to them physically.

No sense of humour.

Has trust issues.

Has no job or doesn't study and has no desire to do either, ie no motivation or very lazy.

[CurlyGirl42]

They are physically unattractive to me.
They try to pull some bullshit
They are very little physically active
We do not speak a common language fluently
They party a lot
They seem judgmental
They do not understand my jokes xD

[ItsTheNephilim]

Because I'm already taken, love being single, the person who's asked me out isn't someone my type (looks or appearance wise), don't have time and or mindest to date or just have other priorities in mind.

[slatyb]

Basically it comes down to attraction and compatibility. There are many reasons why I might believe that we would not be compatible: religion, intellect, interests, values, other core beliefs.

[BCA6010]

There could be many reasons for that, all of which would ultimately come down to "she's not my type," which could physical or psychological.

[cth96190]

If she is not physically desirable.
If she lacks the required intelligence.
If she has poor deportment.
If she is not a fellow Deplorable.
If she does not love animals.

[NickCharm]

If they voted Trump, if they are Republican, if they are physically not my type , if they are loud and obnoxious, if they are married, if they are narcissistic, if they just want a free meal and entertainment, if they have children.

[invalid1]

Perceiving myself of a high demand by other girls, financially and physically. Will increase my standards.

[Nick568]

If she:
-is rude or obnoxious
-has bad hygiene
-gossips too much
-is boring
-doesn't seem that interested in me

And sometimes I'll decline someone just because I don't feel like dating.