Can you write a reason or reasons why you would consider rejecting a person of the opposite gender as a date?

[N192K001]

A whole host of reasons!

Concerning her:
• discovered compromising-info that undermines any reasonable projection of possible future together
• knowledge of any known rival-suitors who's apparent capacity to bring her a happier life surpasses my current & projected future capacity to do the same (IF he has no detectable compromising-info that could undermine her well-being and/or their potential future together)
• harmonious relations between our 2 clans seems difficult if not impossible

Concerning me:
• insufficiently setup finances & livelihood adequate enough sustain the new joint-family
• ambiguities on the future feasibility from a previous willing candidate I was at the time forced to turn-down at the time
• ethical concerns on the risk of passing some known health-conditions common to my mother and/or father's side (plus my own) to our offspring, who have no say on the matter
• a concern (of the ugly & painful consequences of a horrific, multi-decade mismatch obvious now with foresight, but unnoticed at the time) from a recent corrosive experience of my older-sister (who will soon be our clan's 1st divorcee in our known history)

[jshm2]

Sure, a whole couple of books.

Anything from her being ugly and uninteresting, to being psycho and neurotic.

But to be honest, I was always the sort to never knock back a date. Everyone deserves at least a chance, even if you know it's not going to be anything there.

[jennifer_bloom]

There are many but

1 - He is bad tempered and thinks it’s okay to yell at you if you don’t cook or clean or dress or do your responsibilities the way he likes

2 - He tries to take advantage of others either financially or sexually or socially by being too miserly and petty and bitter or by holding others to a standard he does not live up to himself by exploiting inequalities in his social relationships

3 - He lacks compassion or grace or gentleness or reflection or understanding or softness and views the world in purely physical and procedural terms

4 - He neglects his body or his education by eating like a glutton or flunking his courses through laziness or by slacking off at work or not cleaning his home or not combing his hair or not editing his letters for grammar and spelling

5. He is too materialistic or sexual

[Anonymous]

1. I’m already in a relationship
2. the person has a bad attitude or is a known player
3. I’m not attracted to them
4. They have cheated in their past relationship if you can cheat on your partner just once I don’t think I could ever find trust in that person to stay faithful to me cause if you are capable of cheating just once what’s stopping you from doing it again cheating shows you aren’t loyal
5. If you lie even just once to me I won’t go on a date with you liars are just as bad as cheaters

[Apope16]

They have an ugly face.
They are fat in an unattractive way.

wow this was easy.

[TheorionMage]

At its MOST fundamental roots... a 'date' is
your Life's MOST IMPORTANT 'job interview'.

YOU are 'auditioning' for a potentially 'life time' partnership, committing to dedicating ALL that your culture's gender roles obligates YOU to... "forsaking ALL others".
On this date, YOU WILL BE 'judged' ("NO pressure", LOL! )

We're NOT talking a casual 'hanging out' mixer;
a physical, emotional and intellectual 'resume' of YOUR baseline 'nature'.
'Bewitching', 'enchanting', 'fantasy fodder' and 'smitten' are all descriptive adjectives that come to mind.

Males tend to be visually-predisposed to fantasize;
in most cases HER 'glamour-ied' appearance and flirtatious demeanor
"does the heavy lifting" to HIS infatuation.
"A man chases a woman until SHE catches HIM."

A 'date' is a MUTUAL assessment.
Put tersely... Q?: 'fuckable' or 'friend zoned'~

[Cherokeehp]

I’m not attracted to them.
They’re an asshole.
They’re racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.
They are Republicans, conservative, a Trump supporter.
They smell bad.
They’ve dated one of my close friends in the past.
Their personality sucks.
They’re overly sexual too early on.

[Knighted2170]

From the initial conversation I can.

I have very specific traits I look for and certain questions I ask to find out if she has those traits. Or, at least hints that she possibly has them.

If I don't see she has my core 4, I won't ask for a date.

[MCheetah]

1. Feminist/progressive/far-left.
2. Shallow/superficial.
3. Mean-spirited.
4. Closed-minded/stupid.
5. Arrogant/conceited.
6. Polyamorous.
7. Queer/"bisexual".
8. Already has kids or not single.
9. Physically: Too skinny/not attracted to them.
10. Physically: Masculine/butch.

[laceyylove23]

if they:
have a bad personality
are shallow or self-absorbed
are rude or has a bad attitude
has a bad-temper
aren't attractive to me
are racist, sexist or homophobic
are wayyy to sexual early on
have bad hygiene

[Xcommunicated]

Self absorbed
shallow
arrogant
clingy
Mean- gossipy
Emotionally unavailable
just not attracted to her
no spark or chemistry
Didn’t like my friends
i didn’t like her friends
Incompatible goals
was boring sexually

[WesBrewer]

If they were large (fat) if they were actually a guy who was trans, or if their face wasn't pretty, that is it, otherwise, Id date her, even if she was a jerk, I'd try to date her still, so I would date almost any girl as long as I was single.

[msc545]

Not physically attractive, not available, not intelligent, has a personality disorder or other significant psychiatric problem, substance abuser, dislikes animals, is chronically late, lies, has no girlfriends, is disliked by other women, has a history of cheating, uneducated.

[JoeSchmoeCool]

Toxic, bad personality, bad habits (smoking is an automatic no).

I have a variety of tastes when it comes to appearance, so nothing really descriptive there, unless they look unhealthy from bad habits.

[Miristheiss]

Mainly I just do not find them attractive. I may like them and/or find them to be a pleasant person but I do not find them attractive at all or actually unattractive.

I may not be compatible with them and there may be too many differences.

I may dislike them or not respect them or find them gross or sleazy or crass or a smoker or a drug user or there is a deal breaker issue going on with them.

[Jenom]

Not attracted to them physically.

No sense of humour.

Has trust issues.

Has no job or doesn't study and has no desire to do either, ie no motivation or very lazy.

[CurlyGirl42]

They are physically unattractive to me.
They try to pull some bullshit
They are very little physically active
We do not speak a common language fluently
They party a lot
They seem judgmental
They do not understand my jokes xD

[ItsTheNephilim]

Because I'm already taken, love being single, the person who's asked me out isn't someone my type (looks or appearance wise), don't have time and or mindest to date or just have other priorities in mind.

[slatyb]

Basically it comes down to attraction and compatibility. There are many reasons why I might believe that we would not be compatible: religion, intellect, interests, values, other core beliefs.

[invalid1]

Perceiving myself of a high demand by other girls, financially and physically. Will increase my standards.

[BCA6010]

There could be many reasons for that, all of which would ultimately come down to "she's not my type," which could physical or psychological.

[cth96190]

If she is not physically desirable.
If she lacks the required intelligence.
If she has poor deportment.
If she is not a fellow Deplorable.
If she does not love animals.

[NickCharm]

If they voted Trump, if they are Republican, if they are physically not my type , if they are loud and obnoxious, if they are married, if they are narcissistic, if they just want a free meal and entertainment, if they have children.

[dolidol]

The person is selfish, egocentric, stupid, do not respect others, male chauvinist... i could write a book about it.

[Nick568]

If she:
-is rude or obnoxious
-has bad hygiene
-gossips too much
-is boring
-doesn't seem that interested in me

And sometimes I'll decline someone just because I don't feel like dating.

[sheikalana]

When we don't have nothing in common and when I don't feel attracted to them.

[RoxyFoxx]

Being dirty, badly dressed, obese, rude and/or unintelligent.

[SunnySri]

Well there could be some mam, like not looking for a partner or already in a relationship or just don't feel the connection with the other person.

[BroadwayQueer]

Talking about their ex
Unattractive
Bad hygiene
Eyc

[iseekpinetrees]

Druggy. Addiction problems. They have depression. Mental issues. No ambition. Negative outlook on life. No education. No job.

[Anonymous]

Does not share faith in Christ and attraction isn't mutual. I mean that both ways, even if I'm attracted to her if she isn't attracted to me I don't want to date her.

[Anonymous]

Recently I really had to reject two guys. Firstly, I already got my boyfriend, but if not for him, then some reasons were:
-They were not tall (I’m 1.70cm)
-made too many references to sex ALREADY
-religion

[locutus9999]

It may be in my case when I find them to entitle. is like you project coming home after work and being married to that. then imagine the divorce...

[Mystic_Nova]

1:Dont know them
2: Not looking for a partner
3: They aren't my type
4: They smell weird

[Twalli]

If she asks me out I would only refuse if I see no reason in which I could find her attractive

[EyesOfGod]

Not my type.
Ugly.
Have a girl.
You smell.
Your crazy.
Your a bitch.

[scooogy]

Sticking to their ex or being egoistic about the date.

[OddBeMe]

Being an introvert, I’d reject if they’re tiring me out emotionally. Sexually is ok...

[On_cloud_wine]

He eats too fast, doesn’t shave his armpits, has ear wax build up, doesn’t color in the lines, not aggressive enough

[Liam_Hayden]

Personality: She's rude, snobby, obnoxious, drama-filled, high maintenance

Body: Obese, Hairy, or stinky

[Anonymous]

Low intelligence. I need someone who can problem solve, carry an intelligent conversation, and maintain a job.

[anon1903]

I don't like you back. Period.

Why make up stuff?

[Cataphract]

If i am 99,9% sure nothing good can come out of it.

[Rachael91]

- they're rude
- they have some cheesy pickup line- they're unkempt

[Anonymous]

Physically unattractive.
Body count.
Obnoxious personality.
Conflicting politics.

[FriendlyEnigma]

- I wasn't ready to date
- I felt we were best staying friends
- I was just genuinely not interested
I'm sure i could think of another one of two but none are coming to mind lol

[bamesjond0069]

Slut
Feminist
Fat
Not sweet or caring
Hates kids
Career or school obsessed.

[loveslongnails]

Bad hygiene
No brains
Bad politics
No manners
There are lots of reasons.

[kamalravi25]

A girl who thinks only men should pay.
Short tempered.
Stubborn
judgmental

[Anonymous]

Evidence of her being cruel and overtly judgmental...

[AFellowWeeb]

hypocrisy, something a lot of girls have but never admit it

[CYNICAL_CRYPTIC]

Not liking them as a person is reason enough.

[Anonymous]

ugly
skinny
small boobs
short hair
bisexual
democrat
woke
sjw
feminist

[Thatasianlove16]

If I just don’t see a connection between us

[Tstrbrainer]

They are looking for commitment /marriage

[Chittychittybang]

Her being into anal sex.

[strraku]

not being mature enough

[captain_voidwalker]

To much risk, 0 reward

[Anonymous]

She mentions she is a feminist...

[Inquisitive3]

a$$hole

[Hangry22]

It's a man

[llcanon]

Her being Fat, that is a no starter for me

[DennisWatkins91]

bad first impression

[Jmmmfi4]

It's not cool to do that